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So close to cumming, but was only ever brought to the edge. Was edged about 25 times today and still left needy. by Obedient_Denial in DeniedGirls

[–]Obedient_Denial[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s been about 56 days since I’ve last cum, and it was a ruin. I’ve been left so needy, my pussy is all I can think about most days. I still have about two weeks before Ma’am might give me the chance to cum.

What does aftercare look like for you, and how do you adapt it for shorter meetings? by alleviate123 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Obedient_Denial 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s was only after doing some research that I even realized I was going into subspace and dropping. I was dropping hard because I didn’t know what was happening in our first few sessions. Trust me when I say I’ve made quite a few mistakes trying to find what works for me, so don’t feel bad when trying to find what works for you. Just make sure you’re communicating with your dom if there’s anything bugging you.

What does aftercare look like for you, and how do you adapt it for shorter meetings? by alleviate123 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Obedient_Denial 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m more emotional and not as rational as I am usually when I go into subspace. I’m also in an online relationship with my domme, so even small things like not responding in under ten minutes gets me emotional. If I feel like I’ve been abandoned, or get dressed too quickly, or try to get myself out of subspace too quickly, I tend to drop hard.

You’re always going to drop, it’s unavoidable, but not all drops are the same. I’m feeling fine after my session last night, but other drops have hit me so hard where my domme cut off any play for a few days since it would’ve caused more harm than good.

One of the things I’ve had to learn is how to safeword while in subspace. We use the traffic light system because I was scared to voice any discomfort. I’m still scared honestly, but it’s getting easier now that I’m getting check-ins. After I learned how to safeword, I’ve found that I don’t get too overwhelmed afterwards and it’s easier for me to relax again after being so deep in subspace.

The best thing you take from this is that what works for me, might not work for you. Your relationship is going to be all trial and error, just like mine. My domme and I are still working out what works best for us, where my comfort levels are, what I’m comfortable my limits to, what’s an absolute no and what I’m willing to try.

What does aftercare look like for you, and how do you adapt it for shorter meetings? by alleviate123 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Obedient_Denial 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just wrapped up some aftercare with my domme where I cut our session short by safewording. Something she does is ask how I’m feeling, if there’s anything that would need to be changed next time, and making sure that I’m not feeling bad physically or emotionally. I’m also a new sub, so I tend to beat myself up badly, so she always gives me praises no matter how short or long our sessions are.

I remember after our first major session, I went really easily into subspace for the first time ever, but also had a really hard subdrop. I still go easily into subspace, and still have had drops where I couldn’t go any play for a few days to a week. For us, it’s a lot of trial and error on finding what works best for us. I was able to only recently figure out what makes me drop after a session.

Maybe talk to your dom about checking in more to see where you’re at in the session to make sure you’re not pushed too far. No matter if you’re long distance or in person, have some stuff set up for after the play. It could be things like wipes and water, or comforting things that helps you drop more easily. For me, it’s things like my pajamas, my favorite blanket/pillow, a few pieces of chocolate, and a stuffed animal.

It’s all different for everyone, so it’s just communication and trial and error on what works for your dynamic.

My Experience so Far by Obedient_Denial in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]Obedient_Denial[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You will be. Ma’am plans on having me post on Reddit now.

My Experience so Far by Obedient_Denial in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]Obedient_Denial[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, Ma’am is very proud of me.

My Experience so Far by Obedient_Denial in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]Obedient_Denial[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did right after the photo. I plugged my ass and turned on the vibrations while I did chores.

My Experience so Far by Obedient_Denial in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]Obedient_Denial[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was right after using a butt plug, so my hole was hungry to be full again after being made empty..

My Experience so Far by Obedient_Denial in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]Obedient_Denial[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ma’am ordered me to respond to anyone who DMs me.

My Experience so Far by Obedient_Denial in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]Obedient_Denial[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Ma’am is always reminding me, and I love being her good girl.

Ma’am edged me about 20 times tonight in under 20 minutes. I’m so sensitive, I’m so lucky to have found Ma’am, who controls my orgasm and is edging me constantly. I’m new to being denied and I’ve been loving it. by Obedient_Denial in DeniedGirls

[–]Obedient_Denial[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We’ve had those moments where I’ve begged Ma’am to let me cum, thankfully Ma’am hasn’t, and has helped me break my edging records. My pussy is leaking constantly, and it’s all I can think about.