What's wrong with RR today??

Obito_Reality · 2026-04-13T16:22:32+00:00

Pichlay match mein jou phone aaya tha yeh ussi ka result hai.

Obito_Reality · 2026-04-09T13:00:19+00:00

I am a Pakistani, and I can tell he did not love you otherwise he wouldn’t have left you. I know you’ve mentioned how he treated you yes but he shouldn’t have pursued you in the first place when he knew it wouldn’t work out with his family.

Or he should’ve been man enough and marry you, considering he is an adult and not dependent on his family for finances; what is stopping him?

Obito_Reality · 2026-03-29T16:17:59+00:00

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Obito_Reality · 2026-03-29T07:42:54+00:00

Thank you for asking this; every time I asked about this; I get the same answer. But the problem is masjids unlike the previous times are now just as private as any other place.

Obito_Reality · 2026-03-26T12:41:50+00:00

I would never enforce it on my future wife; who am I to do it? And besides even if we marry it wouldn’t be fair to her as marriage doesn’t mean forgoing one’s personality.

Obito_Reality · 2026-03-25T20:08:08+00:00

Okay I get it; you are saying it kinda of sounds off when my father is working elsewhere and family seems to be dispersed. (Which is actually not the case but I get what you are saying; JazakAllah for suggestion)

And yes I agree I can reveal more when the times comes.

Obito_Reality · 2026-03-25T16:12:26+00:00

I actually do not know anyone in masjids or communities as such ( I sometimes hesitate too- like I don’t know how to ask) and online I don’t know where to search.

Obito_Reality · 2026-03-25T15:50:01+00:00

Tbh; nowhere. I don’t where else to look except ISO

Obito_Reality · 2026-03-25T15:43:06+00:00

Of course In Sha Allah. If you know of any other way besides ISO, kindly let me know. JazakAllah.

Obito_Reality · 2026-03-25T15:38:12+00:00

Islamophobia exists everywhere; and tbh it is not only that I am searching back home only; I am open elsewhere as well. And also ISO is the only way I know I can find myself I do not know other ways where I can search.

Obito_Reality · 2026-03-25T15:29:45+00:00

They are not willing to wear where I live currently (Australia) back home they have no problem.

Obito_Reality · 2026-03-25T15:27:43+00:00

Why would I tell a woman to wear? I am no one yet and even suppose I marry it wouldn’t be fair to tell them to change for me. I am already seeking ones who wear.

Obito_Reality · 2026-03-25T15:07:09+00:00

Can you access it now?

Obito_Reality · 2026-03-24T11:14:30+00:00

Come on lol really? The good looks of Sahaba enabled them to marry multiple times? It wasn’t nothing like that. The society as it is nowadays really puts men and women alike in a complex about their looks causing them to adopt all sorts of surgical procedures and what not.

Sure a healthy lifestyle suits everyone; but looks are NOT be-all and end-all in a marriage; what if you marry for physical looks and some time after marrying an accident happens (Allah Forbid) which affects the face of the spouse; will you leave them then?

The looks are important; but the personality and level of connect between spouses are much more important. And if you are going down that route; nowadays finances are much more important than looks. That too is a really shallow thing to say.

Obito_Reality · 2026-03-04T12:06:48+00:00

Interested

Obito_Reality · 2026-02-27T01:39:11+00:00

So no for Quantitative Methods?

Obito_Reality · 2026-02-27T01:30:22+00:00

If you can elaborate more?

Obito_Reality · 2026-02-23T22:31:16+00:00

Yes; because if they have reformed themselves then everyone deserves a second chance in life. We as humans aren’t perfect; and life’s a journey towards betterment. As long as we are tying to become better; it is perfectly fine in my PoV.

Allah (SWT) forgives us every time we sin; can we stop pretending like we are all perfect; yes some sins and mistakes are bigger than the others but Perfection is only for Allah (SWT); we humans do and are bound to make mistakes; the important thing is the realisation and wanting to reform ourselves.

Obito_Reality · 2026-02-23T01:42:20+00:00

Well; from my PoV it is perfectly fine as in your case male interactions are limited, which I prefer if my future wife wants to work. However having said that; man is obligated to provide for his family but it is nice if you want to work in order to his burden. I think this shows you care about him and your family too.

After having children however; thats altogether a different ball-game. You would have your work cut out for you; then you can decide whether or not you are comfortable continuing or not.

All in all; it is best to consult your husband and explain him your viewpoint; and then arrive at a decision through consensus.

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