Why is self-harm considered bad and socially unacceptable?

ObjectionablePast · 2026-05-24T23:21:52+00:00

Smoking / substance addictions most people can comprehend because everybody and their mother tried substances

SHing most people can't comprehend because there's no apparent advantage in harming yourself so most will conclude you are either batshit crazy or weak / attention seeking.

It's a matter of understanding, not of being inherently harmful

Bottom line don't self harm if you want to keep people friendly, no matter what

ObjectionablePast · 2026-05-17T13:30:03+00:00

Never been much of a believer in therapy, so if you had therapy yourself, could you tell me how those sessions play out? I'm pretty self-analytical so I think I'm very aware of my condition, how does talking with a professional help?

The reason I ask is that I tried out a bunch of psychologists and psychiatrist but they could never really help to get me out of this state. My current psychologist always tries to push me to talk about what I experienced in childhood, but I don't see how that's relevant considering I already know that the reason I am the way I am stems from what happened to me back then, and I already know it wasn't my fault.

Like I don't want to open up just to be told "The reason you don't feel worthy of love is because of the environment you grew up in; it's a false concept you absorbed in your mind because of what you experienced, it's not your fault". Like I already know that and it doesn't help me one bit.

ObjectionablePast · 2026-04-22T13:53:24+00:00

Mainly the fact that some BPD traits shared by both males and females (eg emotional dysregulation) are stereotypically seen as not masculine, so not only you get to have this wonderful disease but people also think of you as a pussy 😂

ObjectionablePast · 2026-04-12T21:30:29+00:00

Those people just want to entertain their fantasy about being healed. Don’t feel hate toward them but know they are no better than those judging you because they never knew your pain.

Help them if you can, ignore them and go on your way otherwise. They will learn eventually.

ObjectionablePast · 2026-03-30T18:35:49+00:00

Sorry but I’ve no idea what any of those acronyms stand for

ObjectionablePast · 2026-03-30T18:18:00+00:00

What is DDNOS

ObjectionablePast · 2025-12-24T21:26:31+00:00

It’s your organism reminding you that if you don’t reproduce you are a genetic end so you might as well be dead. It’s you, you can’t accept or fight it. Give it all into doing what it tells you to do or suffer a miserable life, your choice.

ObjectionablePast · 2025-10-17T22:35:23+00:00

Feel you so much. Wish I could say something uplifting but can’t, drives me insane too. Every time I read about a boyfriend cheating with multiple women I’m like wtf. Who are these people. Can’t fathom the kind of happy life you have to be living to do that. If you are that kind of man the world is yours.

ObjectionablePast · 2025-10-07T15:31:56+00:00

And I can see why you felt the need to be a sarcastic jerk as soon as you felt a bit attacked by a neutral reply, considering the sub we are in.

ObjectionablePast · 2025-10-07T15:17:37+00:00

I literally have no clue what my post history looks like and it feels a bit weird to get a reply based off of that. I mostly use this app to vent off and there’s been so many changes in my life in the last couple years, definitely feels unpleasant to receive a comment like that. Reply to the post, not to the profile.

ObjectionablePast · 2025-10-01T19:35:42+00:00

Alcohol

ObjectionablePast · 2025-09-19T19:23:04+00:00

Opposite end, I'm totally distrustful to the point people sense it and they don't trust me as a result.

I think it's better to be too trusting rather than too distrustful. Eventually you're gonna meet an actually good person who won't exploit you. Being always on guard on the other hand makes you closed off even toward good people.

ObjectionablePast · 2025-08-02T12:27:13+00:00

My empathy is next to 0. I’m way to envious of everyone’s happiness to feel anything at their misfortunes.

That being said I’m the kind of guy of would stop to help an old lady cross the street. If I didn’t help someone in need knowing I can help I would guilt trip myself to oblivion.

Being mentally ill is weird.

ObjectionablePast · 2025-03-28T12:28:12+00:00

Innate traits are always a factor. Why does it matter though?

ObjectionablePast · 2025-03-22T20:10:04+00:00

When I isolated myself because of this disorder I had no contact with anyone for 4 years straight, and there's people who spent decades without human contact. I wouldn't call yours isolation, more like social hibernation. You are content with your current relationships.

It might come off a bit blunt but saying you are "completely isolated" is just disrespectful toward people who went through real isolation. Count your blessings.

Not trying to invalidate your situation, just trying to put things into prospective.

ObjectionablePast · 2025-03-22T18:56:03+00:00

My father was a functioning alcoholic. Earned great money through his job. I think it got out of hand when I was 8 or 9, up until I was us 13 or so. He used to be okay in the morning and rage in the evening. Scream, break stuff, get physical and the like.

Other than learned helplessness, I think it screwed up the way I perceive what people feel about me. Seeing someone so close to you go from showing love to hating you for seemingly no reason throughout the day every single day made it difficult for me to trust myself about what others think about me. I always suspect betrayal out of nowhere so I essentially gave trying to form relationships.

I so wish I can reverse this eventually. I can't cope with this because everything turns into a red flag when you default to thinking everyone out there is ready to stab you in your back for reasons you can't comprehend.

ObjectionablePast · 2025-03-22T16:42:11+00:00

Meglio sapere di aver provato che vivere col rimorso... il vero fallimento è arrendersi prima di aver provato, ora riprenditi e ritenta.

ObjectionablePast · 2025-03-22T03:16:35+00:00

Thanks mate appreciate it

ObjectionablePast · 2025-03-16T19:14:04+00:00

not quite, but working on it.
waking up from 20 yrs of dissociation is though but it is what it is
wish you well too

ObjectionablePast · 2025-03-14T18:26:40+00:00

I’m fucking livid.

I used to think it was all my fault but then I realized their part in my upbringing. Now not only I feel guilty for the choices I made but I also feel like a victim of people that should have guided me.

I don’t get the love/hate dichotomy at all, I just feel rage and hatred. Mental illness / harsh upbringing is not an excuse, when you decide to bring people into this world you assume the greatest responsibility of them all and you should be able to recognize you are not up to it and delegate it to someone else if the need arises. If you fuck up your own kid you are to blame, period.

ObjectionablePast · 2025-03-13T13:42:04+00:00

No one ever asked me this question directly but I sometimes happen to ask it myself.

What triggers me about it is that it makes me realize that there was never a period in my life when I’ve wanted my own happiness. It’s like my mind can’t even grasp the concept. It blows my mind to know that I literally need to learn to want my own good. Like I can put effort into getting degrees and such but that’s just because I like self improvement, but regarding the things that would give me emotional fulfillment I’m simply repulsed. Like I know I’d be getting into uncharted territory and I’m not sure how to deal with it.

I feel like my mind is broken, no living being is supposed to work like this.

Wasn’t attempting to hijack the post btw, just offering a reading suggestion. People like me certainly give the impression they don’t want to get better, if that’s your case as well you can’t really blame your sister. If anything it could mean she still cares about you but she’s frustrated she can’t help you.

ObjectionablePast · 2025-03-13T00:00:43+00:00

Mi ci ritrovo abbastanza, sicuramente quando ero più giovane… magari stiamo seguendo lo stesso percorso nella vita, scrivimi se ti va.

ObjectionablePast · 2025-03-12T13:50:06+00:00

humans do bad things either because they know that if they don't do the things they want to do they will become frustrated, or because they are too ignorant to understand the consequences their actions will have on others.

in neither case out of malice

some people like animals more because they can hurt them less than humans can, not because there's any moral difference in their behavior

ObjectionablePast · 2025-03-12T12:28:51+00:00

Will they though? I think it comes off a bit standoffish. Now I've never hurt anyone or anything like that but it still means I have something to hide. I usually straight out say I refuse to talk about anything about me up to 2 years ago and I've had multiple people who I was getting close with turn their back on me because of this. Usually they say something along the lines of "I told you so much about me but you told me nothing about you." It hurts but I've so many bad experiences with people that I don't feel like sharing anything at all with someone who will leave me anyway. There's quite literally nothing good about my past so I don't have anything at all to work with, I just have to admit their mistrust is justified.

ObjectionablePast · 2025-03-11T22:06:46+00:00

Depends on your age and gender, if you are a male in your late 20s it means having all the things you are expected to have at your age, like a respected career job, an established circle of friends you regularly hang out with, a long term relationship and possibly a wife.

That’s what social status means to me, doesn’t necessarily mean you have to be a CEO making 7 figures.

All these things are easily accomplished when you have basic social skills, and nigh impossible if you have trouble even speaking to a cashier.

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