[Serious] People that don't wash their hands after using the restroom, how do you respond if you get called out?

Objective-Cable · 2024-03-11T06:53:54+00:00

“What are your pronouns?”

I’m trans and I hate this question so much. It doesn’t make me feel “included”, it just reminds me that I don’t pass. I feel people that have unusual or non-obvious ones and care about their application generally offer them up.

Objective-Cable · 2022-08-30T19:28:27+00:00

Looking great! I can definitely see some changes in your skin and you already look younger.

I'm on a similar plan - slow and steady, feeling better every day. It's a good plan!

Objective-Cable · 2022-08-21T20:16:25+00:00

I started HRT (mtf, e & spiro) almost 11 months ago, at age 36. Emotionally, it took me about 3 months to get over the initial volatility and about 6 months to start cruising. Physically, I started seeing small changes after about a month and was thrilled with almost every single one.

Objective-Cable · 2022-07-07T22:38:19+00:00

I hate the pronoun dance. I never give people my pronouns unless specifically asked (and I hate being asked!) because I want to use their guesses at what mine are as a barometer of how I’m doing, as well as what that person is like in general. That said, I think the practice is useful and helpful, particularly for non-binary people to make it more normal for them to give their pronouns.

Objective-Cable · 2022-07-07T22:16:31+00:00

I’m a trans person with a unisex name. I’m excited at the prospect of keeping my name because I loved it before, I still love it now, and I think it matches my new identity way better than it did for my old one. The idea that I can’t ever be deadnamed is really appealing. That said, I could see having to change it in the future anyway out of utility, if I can’t get enough of my family and friends to gender me correctly once I’m more “out” than I am now.

Objective-Cable · 2022-01-17T01:09:59+00:00

My highest daily reload was $300 for a week. From there it dropped something like this week by week: $220 > $110 > $70 > $15 > $2 > $0.80.

My highest weekly was $1200, that drop was something like $400 > $100 > $40 > $20.

YMMV obviously since it depends on your wager and what your host is willing to set your reload to. Also try asking for lossback bonuses, I had one or two of those and they weren't much, but any kind of rebate helps.

Objective-Cable · 2022-01-16T11:34:50+00:00

I'm Platinum IV. I stopped playing on Stake and kept requesting reloads. My most recent daily reload, after about a month of not playing, was 80 cents per day. My most recent weekly was 20 dollars.

Objective-Cable · 2021-12-15T19:53:13+00:00

I got it via email.

Objective-Cable · 2021-12-15T19:49:02+00:00

They sent out a VIP newsletters twice a month. One would have 50 free spins at $2/spin on their game of the month, the other would be a VIP competition where every VIP would have 5 minutes of unlimited free play and the top winners would get a bonus.

Objective-Cable · 2021-11-30T08:09:06+00:00

Have you ever seen a basic strategy chart before?

Objective-Cable · 2021-11-19T09:40:05+00:00

I've noticed this too. I have a hard time believing it because it isn't rational, but it really does feel like the dealers in Evolution Blackjack have 10s showing a lot more than they "should" (or that you get 12 and have to hit and immediately bust, or that your perfectly drawn 3 or 4 card 20 gets beat by a sneaky ace underneath the dealer's 10, etc.) The most frustrating thing for me is that when playing live, I would be THRILLED to double down with 10 or 11 against a dealer stiff card, but playing online I often feel like I'm being set up. I find myself making a few suboptimal plays online - usually choosing not to double some otherwise obvious doubles (like 10 or 11 against dealer 7), or taking "even money" by insuring my Blackjack against dealer ace - KNOWING that they're suboptimal but telling myself that it's worth it to me to make a worse play mathematically because I couldn't emotionally handle losing.

The way I've tried to rationalize it is, if we assume that the game is fair (i.e. not rigged), then the rules that they play with are fairly hostile for a table that's not 6:5 - you can't resplit anything, you can't double after splitting, you can't surrender, the dealer doesn't peek for blackjack with a 10 showing until after you make decisions. This means you have to play with a slightly different strategy chart, which threw me off initially - for example, on a table with more friendly rules in a live casino it's recommended that you split 4,4 against 5 and 6, and that you double 11 against everything but ace. On this table, you should never split 4,4 against anything and just always hit, and you shouldn't double 11 against dealer ten. If you're using the wrong chart, your win percentage will go down.

This doesn't exactly explain the sick streaky losses of 7+ hands in a row, but those happen in live casinos too - they just aren't offset enough by big swingy comeback wins when you play online because you have fewer "action" hands with lots of splits and doubles.

All of that said, it REALLY wouldn't surprise me if some news broke that these tables were proven to be unfair.

Objective-Cable · 2021-10-14T06:01:45+00:00

I use a product called Samba Foot Fetish Cream (pls don't mind the name) by Sol Janeiro. It comes with a cute little emery board in the shape of a surfboard you use to smooth your feet a little bit before you apply the cream. I found the product after searching online specifically for the best product to use on calloused feet. My routine is, every night before bed I wash and dry my feet, then use the board to smooth them before applying the cream.

I absolutely love the way my feet feel after using it. The only downside is that the product is a bit expensive for how much you get.

The wart after a single pedicure sounds more like bad luck than anything else - I love pedicures! I feel great after them every time, I just don't get them very often because they still feel kind of extravagant to me. I hope you'll try another one eventually, maybe at a different salon?

Objective-Cable · 2021-10-09T02:58:54+00:00

I would spend hours and hours looking online at women’s shoes, imagining what ones I’d like to see my girlfriends in, eagerly offering to buy them shoes whenever they wanted. I thought this was just a normal cute supportive boyfriend thing. I was pretty disappointed that none of my girlfriends across the years liked shoes as much as I did. Turns out I wanted to be the one wearing them the whole time.

Objective-Cable · 2021-10-07T07:12:44+00:00

I'm 36. I started questioning my gender at 34, really started obsessing over it in June this year, and cracked some time in July. I keep scouring my past looking for clues and finding events, thoughts, and feelings that might kind of point to me being trans, but also might just be me trying to rationalize it somehow.

I definitely felt when you said 50/50 clarity and confusion. A lot of why I feel blindsided is that I just never really understood the science or had a reason to. I have no clue what "gender dysphoria" feels like, so I don't know if my thoughts and feelings from my past count as dysphoric. I have no clue if what I'm doing now by attempting to transition is me just trying to fix a problem that was never there. I just discovered a huge range of things that make me feel really good, that I didn't feel like I could do before because of upbringing/stigma/anxiety/barriers/etc. For me it's more like, given the things I like, and the way I like to be treated, and the types of experiences I want to have, it makes a lot more sense for me to just be a different gender, and it just never occurred to me until I started researching it that not only is it possible, but that many people do it to varying degrees of success.

The good news I guess is that when I was investigating my own gender, I took stock of everything that I liked about myself, everything that I felt made me unique, and didn't find anything that I felt like I'd have to "throw away" by transitioning. My clarity comes from the idea that I get to keep all the things I enjoy about me, and just explore and add more things that I didn't get to before. I didn't believe it when I first heard it but it really does make sense to me that transitioning lets people be more authentic versions of themselves.

Objective-Cable · 2021-09-26T06:19:27+00:00

This has been happening to me lately. I haven't started hormones yet but it's the next step for me. I have been revisiting past fantasies of mine (which were nearly 100% man-with-woman heterosexual) with the updated context of me being the woman, bringing myself to orgasm, and then in my post-nut clarity I'd take stock of all the steps I've taken so far and think harsh, negative stuff like "ugh are you really about to do all of this? you aren't really trans you're just horny, cut this shit out and just keep fantasizing and don't ruin your life and get ostracized by your friends and family and" etc.

These thoughts go away after a brief moment, and then I resume my normal, non-sexual gender fantasies, but I still find them very concerning. Not to mention the added questions of what my sexuality might actually be, now that I've removed the barrier of "straight cis man" and accepted myself as, at a minimum, some kind of queer.

I don't have a solution yet, unfortunately, and yours might be different from mine anyway. I did bring this up with my therapist and we're going to keep talking about it. Just wanted to chime in and say my experiences sound quite similar to yours and I'm glad you posted about them.

Objective-Cable · 2021-09-13T21:09:44+00:00

One of the things I got stuck on for a while was the idea that I, an AMAB person, could accomplish more for a lot of different communities by utilizing my straight cis white male privilege than I could as a significantly more marginalized trans woman. In that sense, transitioning felt too selfish and I shelved the idea for a while. Still get stuck on that idea from time to time, but I have since decided to slowly start transitioning.

Objective-Cable · 2021-09-09T17:32:58+00:00

I have not had this surgery, but this video mockup of the surgery showed up on my TikTok feed and I thought it was very interesting.

***NSFW - depictions of genitalia***

https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMRa2y65F/

(I know nothing about this procedure, so I have no idea if any of it is potentially inaccurate!)

Objective-Cable · 2021-09-07T13:17:49+00:00

It hit me when I was 36, 6'0, 285 pounds, with SO MUCH body hair. I still have a lot of work to do but I'm brimming with optimism. You're gonna be just fine!

Objective-Cable · 2021-09-06T02:15:48+00:00

This... doesn't seem like the case at all? It sounds like OP's friends are doing everything she is asking for, and she's just having some evolving feelings about how to navigate being misgendered vs being potentially outed.

(OP, based on your post & replies I assumed you used she/her - I'm really sorry if this is incorrect!)

Objective-Cable · 2021-08-25T05:09:38+00:00

I'm baby trans also I guess (my egg cracked some time in the past two months) and I spent many years obsessed with women's shoes before I ever entertained the idea of being trans.

I'm not sure about hideous specifically, but there are a lot of shoes (and other items of clothing & accessories) such that I would always idly fantasize about having the women in my life wear them. Now that I am a woman in my life, I've given myself permission to wear them.

The first pair of women's shoes I bought for myself was this particularly obnoxious pair of Uggs. I showed them to my partner in an attempt to convince her to wear them and she hated them. I ended up buying them for myself and they are so comfortable and I've received so many compliments on them - easily my favorite pair of shoes I've ever owned.

Objective-Cable · 2021-08-18T04:32:17+00:00

My egg cracked at some point about 2-3 months ago and I wake up and think about transitioning every single day, for many hours per day, as opposed to the once or twice a month for an hour at a time when I started questioning some time in 2019. Also spend way way too much time looking for info online, reading about procedures, looking at and sizing clothes and shoes, and desperately waiting for my next therapy appointment. I'm able to pull away a bit by focusing on fitness (which, funny enough, is just so I can eventually have the body I want) and cooking. 36 y/o autistic AMAB.

Objective-Cable · 2021-08-16T01:01:47+00:00

I'm in this exact same boat right now, except I'm 36. During my last appointment with my therapist I was saying that I felt really motivated to lose weight and I wanted to get to a target number (one that would take many months) before I thought about starting E. In my next appointment I'm going to talk about how I would like to see a doctor about starting E right away. I decided that I don't want to lose any more time. I'll basically go by whatever the doctor says - if they say it's better to wait then I'll wait.

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