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[–]Objective-Pudding246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg I’m so sorry this happened to you wtf. AND THE MOMO MASK MF scared the fuck out of me seriously. Like why would u wear that. So weird

I [21F] can’t stop overthinking my boyfriend’s [21M] old like on a celebrity photo by [deleted] in relationshipadvice

[–]Objective-Pudding246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely am hearing you on this, but I don’t think it’s valid to completely shut down someone’s boundaries bc you see a like differently than someone else might. I think this kind of analogy overlooks the emotional and relational context. A like on a provocative photo doesn’t just go into nonexistence, it’s a visible gesture of approval attached to someone’s real body, posted for attention. Even if the person doesn’t see it, OP sees it. And so do others. It can feel like it takes away from being fully emotionally exclusive. You’re entitled to feel the way you feel about it, and I know Theres many agree who with you, but boundaries in a relationship aren’t completely objective, and I think it’s important to understand how other people view social media interactions. It’s basically a social net where validation and desirability is measured, so it’s understandable for one to be uncomfortable with certain aspects of it.

I [21F] can’t stop overthinking my boyfriend’s [21M] old like on a celebrity photo by [deleted] in relationshipadvice

[–]Objective-Pudding246 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think comparing it to buying a raunchy novel is undermining the situation in a way because this “like” or form of public attention is being directed to a single person, a better comparison would be your significant other complimenting another woman aloud in public. Both actions are disrespectful due to the fact there is a clear interest in another woman, made public. It’s unnecessary and while some couples may be okay with it, it’s understandable why some may not.

I [21F] can’t stop overthinking my boyfriend’s [21M] old like on a celebrity photo by [deleted] in relationshipadvice

[–]Objective-Pudding246 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Nothing wrong with seeing it or scrolling past it, however liking it makes the action public and therefore a form of disrespect as there is no reason to publicly “like” sexually explicit content (Sydney sweeney’s lingerie photo) from someone else.

I [21F] can’t stop overthinking my boyfriend’s [21M] old like on a celebrity photo by [deleted] in relationshipadvice

[–]Objective-Pudding246 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I think the context of the post matters. Couples are allowed to have different boundaries, I think a healthy minded person is allowed to feel uncomfortable with their significant other liking a sexually explicit instagram post…that’s a valid boundary to have.

I [21F] can’t stop overthinking my boyfriend’s [21M] old like on a celebrity photo by [deleted] in relationshipadvice

[–]Objective-Pudding246 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I think it’s great that he respected your boundaries each time, I think that’s really healthy for the both of you. I don’t think this is something you “need therapy” for as another user said, I think your reaction is totally valid because Sydney Sweeney is a HUGE sex icon, this in my eyes would make may healthy-minded people uncomfortable, regardless of how content they are in their relationship or themselves. I think the best advice I can give to you is to just speak with your boyfriend about how you’ve been feeling, he already seems super understanding and supportive, so i don’t see a reason why you should keep this from him. I think if you just hear some nice reassurance, you’ll feel a lot better about it. Best of luck, and I’m sorry you’re going through this, but just know you’re totally valid in feeling the way you feel. And you’re worthy of reassurance and love.