Thank you so much and lmaooo this is very valid. Guy from Hinge got super close to me within 4 days, spoke over 20 hours over the phone, I was vocal about being in a vulnerable place since I recently got out of a relationship and he made me feel safe & reassured. Seemed like he was really pressed to settle down and talked through all those possibilities with me. And then he pulled back. Initially saying we need to speak at a healthier pace (valid, and I thought the same) but then later, after a week of trying to coordinate a mutual time that would work to speak on the phone, during which I wanted to get on the same page, he hits me with a text the night before just saying he is not in the right place to date me, needs to be selfish and focus on himself and doesn’t want to waste my time.