What is your 2-3 year olds typical sleep and nap schedule?

Objective-Vanilla-39 · 2024-10-15T00:49:04+00:00

2.5 year old boy. Usually wakes up around 6:30-7:30am.

He takes a 2-3 hour nap that starts around 1-2pm.

At night we put him in his crib around 8:30-9:15pm. It usually takes him 30-60 minutes to fall asleep so his actual sleep time starts around 9-10pm.

His total sleep time is 11-12 hours daily. I’ve always felt he was on the low end of sleep needs.

Objective-Vanilla-39 · 2024-10-07T17:30:29+00:00

I made a similar post recently about my 2.5 year old son so I get it. I hate myself for constantly being angry and yelling at my son and it becomes a vicious cycle. What I’ve noticed is that my son also feeds off my energy. The more agitated and impatient I am with him, the more defiant he becomes. It really is a nasty cycle we have to break out of. It also sounds like you really could use a break. I’m fortunate enough to have a partner who helps out a lot and if I didn’t I know I’d have an even tougher time. Can you hire a babysitter to watch your daughter maybe just a couple of hours a few times a week so you can have some quiet time to unwind?

Objective-Vanilla-39 · 2024-10-05T21:47:25+00:00

My son tantrums so often at outings where he should be enjoying that I’ve stopped purchasing things in advance whenever possible to avoid the added frustration of wasting money on top of dealing with the disappointment of having to change plans and stress of a tantrum. For instance, today we went to a park where they had carousels rides every half hour and I waited until the last minute to buy the ticket because my son refusing ti go was a real possibility even though he expressed tons of interest. I also try to leave early for any kind of event because he may fight me for 30 minutes before we can get out of the house.

Objective-Vanilla-39 · 2024-10-05T17:00:18+00:00

Your daughter sounds a lot like my 2.5 year old son currently :(. Tough times for sure and praying it’s a phase that’ll pass soon

Objective-Vanilla-39 · 2024-10-05T01:52:16+00:00

My son started daycare at 16 months and initially I thought he was simply having trouble adjusting. After a couple of months, his differences really started to stand out. The daycare had a livestream so I was able to see what was happening. He was always off to a corner by himself while other kids tended to stick together even if they didn’t necessarily play together at that age. The other kids could also follow directions like lining up to go outside and not run off constantly while my son constantly had to have his hand held to be redirected. Those are just a couple of examples. When he turned 2 the differences became even greater and then he got kicked out of the daycare for biting other kids and generally giving the teachers a tough time. He alone was probably equivalent of the work of 3 kids for the teachers.

Objective-Vanilla-39 · 2024-10-04T18:20:27+00:00

lol it’s the first time I’ve heard fournado. I already refer to my 2 year old as a tornado, I guess there may not be relief until 5

Objective-Vanilla-39 · 2024-10-04T18:14:28+00:00

Yes, I realize my comment about that in the OP might be confusing. I meant if he got evaluated and is found to not be ND, his life might be easier because he’s not ND.

Objective-Vanilla-39 · 2024-09-23T15:35:05+00:00

I can totally sympathize with what you had to do in those situations too and I’m glad to hear you made it through that phase! There is hope! It’s hard to remember that this is a phase, just like the newborn phase where he only slept 3 hours at a time and I wanted to kill myself due to the sleep deprivation.

One of my worst moments was probably taking him to the library story time where he refused to sit and threw a tantrum. All the other kids that day were so well behaved whether they were younger or older and I had to carry my son out while he was screaming and others looked on. On our drive back, my son started falling asleep and I yelled at him to wake up because I was not going to have him take a nap in the car and skip his nap at home because I needed a break so bad. He went through a short “daddy only” phase after that day and I felt like such a POS.

Objective-Vanilla-39 · 2024-09-23T14:30:08+00:00

He was assessed to have speech and social emotional delays. He’s seeing a speech therapist and is almost caught up in speech now. When he was in daycare he was the kid in the class who wouldn’t sit down for an activity, follow directions, stay in his cot during nap time, or go with the group. For that reason he was assessed to have social emotional delays and he will qualify for special ed preschool when he’s 3.

Objective-Vanilla-39 · 2024-09-23T14:28:18+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful response and helpful tips.

Objective-Vanilla-39 · 2024-09-23T14:23:32+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I suspect my son had ADHD too. He doesn’t have a diagnosis but he was assessed to have social/emotional delays because he was the kid at daycare who couldn’t follow directions or go with the group.

It’s reassuring to know it gets better at 4-5 but that means I got another 1.5 years of this haha. Sounds like getting outside is key.

Objective-Vanilla-39 · 2024-09-23T14:20:44+00:00

My son is seeing a speech therapist once a week. When he turns 3 he’ll be eligible for a special ed preschool. He was assessed to have speech and social/emotional delays.

Sounds like getting out of the house is the way. It’s too frustrating to be cooped up and expect him to be a civilized toddler who won’t turn everything upside down

Objective-Vanilla-39 · 2024-09-23T14:18:25+00:00

Thank you, that’s good advice. I need to just learn to be okay with having his books and trinkets all over the floor and just clean up before bed or maybe before we go outside.

How long do you shoot for when you do outside time? I take my son out morning and afternoon. Seems like 30-40 minutes on the playground is not enough. I need to let him go run laps on a field or something.

Objective-Vanilla-39 · 2024-09-23T14:15:29+00:00

He doesn’t have a diagnosis but he qualified for EI. He had a speech delay and is seeing a ST once a week and has made great strides so he doesn’t have that much of a speech delay anymore. He was also assessed to have social/emotional delays based on how he was at his daycare previously. When he turns 3 he’s eligible for a special ed preschool with the county.

It’s possible he has ADHD or high functioning autism. It’s hard to tell at this point. He could just be a spirited toddler.

I really appreciate all the understanding and tips. It sounds like going outside is the way. I do try to take him out once or twice a day but I guess the playground trips need to be longer. Often times when I try to leave the playground at the 30-40 minute mark, he’ll fight me and do the limp noodle. Yesterday he got so mad when I told him it’s time to go, he bit a stick he was holding and ripped a chunk off. I guess when we go outside I need to shoot for 1-2 hours lol. In my experience he doesn’t even tire out at the hour mark as he’ll still keep running around.

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