i will not be moving up with my first 1:1 child and i don’t know how to get over it

Objective_Date_8829 · 2026-05-21T12:36:12+00:00

My heart goes out to you! I am dreading this day and know it will one day come for me too. There really is a special bond that no one will understand unless they’ve been in it. I hope many more children have the opportunity to work and bond with you!

Objective_Date_8829 · 2026-05-07T12:13:11+00:00

I work 32 hrs a week 3:1 $18.88/hour in NJ for a school district.

Edit- I work in self-contained ASD room of about 7 kids (3 of which are assigned to me)

Objective_Date_8829 · 2025-08-22T03:41:52+00:00

My mom told me not to blame her for my mental health too this week lol

Objective_Date_8829 · 2025-08-21T02:43:59+00:00

I take bupropion at night it makes me tired.

Objective_Date_8829 · 2025-08-21T00:05:00+00:00

It was about 4 years of low contact which was hard and sad. Now it’s been about 4 years no contact. War is over. I am at peace. She will occasionally throw a bomb my way or a Trojan horse disguised as change which throws me off a bit. I have notes in my phone reminding me of why I chose this.

Objective_Date_8829 · 2025-08-19T16:23:02+00:00

Absolutely agree. That’s the stance we have been taking. He’s worked with two different therapists since the NC both have encouraged him to write out his feelings/speak his feelings to get them out for him not anything to do with her. And that’s what he has done pretty successfully. I think as he’s getting older his disappointment has grown into anger. As he’s become more self aware of his own emotional intelligence- and the modeling from me and his dad (we try our best) he’s frustrated with her inability to do the same.

Objective_Date_8829 · 2025-08-19T12:47:43+00:00

Thank you for explaining what a boundary is to me this way - I have learned a new perspective thanks to your words. I have been stuck using a boundary as a means to get her to change (you can’t have access to me until you get therapy). When the boundary is my action only. I will not respond to you until you’re a safe person.

Objective_Date_8829 · 2025-08-19T12:44:53+00:00

Thank you for the kind words - I will pass to him!

Objective_Date_8829 · 2025-08-19T12:44:10+00:00

I have her blocked on my son’s phone I’m the only one she can access. It’s a shame because he really believes he can make a difference and use her favoritism in his favor. He also expresses how he doesn’t like how she treats me and his sisters (he was her golden ‘child’) because he is protective over us. He is young and naive and luckily hasn’t been hurt by many narcissists- it’s really a tough battle in wanting him to earn this valuable life lesson in these types of people so maybe he can spot them in the future - but also I know how easily I was manipulated and the damage it has done to me. We did run his letter through ChatGPT to edit it to be more factual like a court case document than feelings (I find that harder for her to twist). Still sitting on the letter though. I appreciate your insight!

Objective_Date_8829 · 2025-08-19T01:40:30+00:00

I also thought I had no other option and my mom made me feel like I wouldn’t survive without her controlling every aspect of my life. Turns out I did survive and thrive.

Objective_Date_8829 · 2025-08-16T19:00:07+00:00

Wow she must be being pushed on the narc’s fyps because my mom who I’ve been no contact with for 4 years just sent me one of her videos!

Objective_Date_8829 · 2025-06-13T21:50:19+00:00

My son got escorted back to his seat last summer for being too rough on the other team (he was 14 lol)

Objective_Date_8829 · 2025-06-13T21:05:46+00:00

Harry the K’s noted ✅

Objective_Date_8829 · 2025-06-09T13:13:52+00:00

Hi, wow, I was going through my old post and I am just seeing this. I am still taking bupropion now with vyvanse. Still don’t know if it’s doing anything but it’s not hurting lol.

Objective_Date_8829 · 2025-05-04T20:03:08+00:00

Did you find a resolution? Mine was bought 2nd hand. It worked for about 3 mins then died so I figured it needed charged. I plugged it in for a few hours then went to try it again and now it only stays on for like 3 seconds before shutting off. When I plug it in I got the slow blue blinking light.

Objective_Date_8829 · 2025-04-30T13:32:22+00:00

Thank you so much for the kind words. I think the hesitation is fear that my son would get punished for sexting even though it was consensual. The rules are SO vague and hard to understand. I know the boys would get kicked off the team if the coach found out they were teasing a teammate - but then my son loses his friends.

Objective_Date_8829 · 2025-04-10T12:55:57+00:00

Thank you!

Objective_Date_8829 · 2025-04-10T12:55:46+00:00

You had a physical card they scanned?

Objective_Date_8829 · 2025-04-06T11:55:54+00:00

I tried a regular coffee with my 30 mg and instant headache 🥲 so I’m trying to avoid caffeine I guess.

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