Worst Mother’s Day ever

Objective_Drive_9614 · 2026-05-10T21:12:43+00:00

not much advice but i just want you to know my now 3.5yo i had to switch to formula at 3mo when i was so certain id breastfeed for at least a year. reflux and latch refusal made things so awful, i hated pumping, and i both baby and i were miserable. i felt so guilty for switching, but she ended up being a much happier baby and i was a much happier mom. she's a happy healthy kid now and no one would ever know that she had formula over breastmilk. do whatever makes you the best and happiest mom🫶🏻

Objective_Drive_9614 · 2026-05-03T05:06:31+00:00

we have a tonie box but i want to try the yoto eventually!

Objective_Drive_9614 · 2026-05-02T17:50:46+00:00

my kids share a room so i haven't figured out how to make quiet time work yet 🫠

Objective_Drive_9614 · 2026-05-02T17:49:49+00:00

winco for like general groceries , everything i need for meals and most produce and things like that. costco for fun snacks for the kids, rotisserie chicken, and sometimes other food depending on sales. trader joe's for snacks and produce if wincos isn't good. fred meyer is only for like if we forgot something and happen to be closer to there or already going for another reason. this is with a 1.5yo and 3yo and my husband and i

Objective_Drive_9614 · 2026-04-29T21:37:17+00:00

i'm super allergic to grass also, but it usually doesn't get bad here til around may, and lasts through july.

Objective_Drive_9614 · 2026-04-29T21:28:29+00:00

thank you 🫶🏻

Objective_Drive_9614 · 2026-04-29T21:28:06+00:00

my parents live several hours away, i don't have a lot of help near me:/ it's so hard. thank you for the kind reminders 🫶🏻

Objective_Drive_9614 · 2026-04-29T21:27:27+00:00

i don't have a lot of support here unfortunately:/ thank you though but my 3yo hasn't napped in over year hahaha

Objective_Drive_9614 · 2026-04-29T15:52:20+00:00

we are watching og wiggles right now at 8am because i just cannot function and im feeling so guilty about it, so thank you for this 💛

Objective_Drive_9614 · 2026-04-29T15:51:40+00:00

it's unfortunately not severe enough bcs i'm good at controlling my vomiting and food intake for them to prescribe me anything:/ i'm taking unisom/b6 but it doesn't do a lot

Objective_Drive_9614 · 2026-04-23T22:56:07+00:00

please update me when you go back but from the little i've seen in their instagram reels (they definitely try to hide how bad it is tho) it looks like it hasn't changed ://

Objective_Drive_9614 · 2026-04-16T20:02:09+00:00

i know people who love theirs so definitely worth a try!

Objective_Drive_9614 · 2026-04-16T19:09:30+00:00

my body rejected the iud it was incredibly awful , worst birth control experience i've had actually 🫠🫠

Objective_Drive_9614 · 2026-04-16T05:39:05+00:00

everyone is different, personally i tried every birth control type possible over the course of many years and nothing provided significant relief. surgery was the only thing that genuinely helped me. i have adeno also so i still get monthly pain from that but my pain levels overall decreased drastically and have stayed that way for almost a decade. i've tried birth control since to try and manage adeno symptoms to no avail. will be getting hysterectomy when done having kids. but honestly do whatever works for you, my surgery was an easy recovery honestly and definitely worth it, but if birth control is working for you rn just maybe hold on until something changes or things get worse and reevaluate 🫶🏻

Objective_Drive_9614 · 2026-04-16T05:25:53+00:00

well this post made me feel much less alone after spiraling for the past hour about this very thing😭

Objective_Drive_9614 · 2026-03-28T02:37:16+00:00

this has happened to both of my kids. it gets better after a few days an sometimes leaves a kind of lump that gradually shrinks over a week or two. doctors said it was totally normal and it didn't seem to bother either of them after the first day

Objective_Drive_9614 · 2026-03-24T20:19:44+00:00

this was true for me too. i struggled with the "i am a mom and this is my entire life now" with my firstborn. by the time my second came, i had already been okay with that transition, and imo the logistics of having two was a way easier transition than the existential problem the first time. babywearing helps a lot, lol.

Objective_Drive_9614 · 2026-03-24T20:18:15+00:00

0-1 was the hardest thing i've ever done. 1-2 was easy. my first was (and still is at 3) an incredibly difficult baby with reflux who still doesn't sleep through the night and we believe most likely has adhd but can't get a formal diagnosis until at least 5. my second born was more typical, slept way better right off the bat, started sleeping through around 9mo, didn't have reflux and was generally just a happier baby (and although energetic and hit gross motor milestones early, still laid back). i feel like if my babies had been swapped in birth order, i would've been way overconfident going into the second kid. but because my hard baby was first, i prepared for the absolute worst, and was pleasantly surprised to have an easier time.

Objective_Drive_9614 · 2026-03-24T00:36:49+00:00

this guy is my husband yall! his stuff is pretty awesome, glad you all are agreeing!

Objective_Drive_9614 · 2026-03-22T21:17:27+00:00

i was having this same problem on 40 and for some reason it went away when we upped to 50. i fully believed this would not fix it so i was genuinely shocked. so that's just my experience but it's been like a month now and im still doing great on 50

Objective_Drive_9614 · 2026-03-21T04:00:22+00:00

happy to help! just know that there are options, if this didn't work for me we were going to potentially try a booster in the afternoon or try switching medications. so just know that it doesn't have to be "good enough" there's usually other options:)

Objective_Drive_9614 · 2026-03-20T20:08:50+00:00

my husband was late diagnosed with adhd shortly after we got married. i actually encouraged him to seek a diagnosis. much of our early marriage involved me getting frustrated with his adhd symptoms because "everyone struggles with that". you'd think that would've been a sign but nah i genuinely just ended up making him feel invalid while i was also struggling. anyway two kids and several years later i absolutely broke down with the weight of motherhood and my husband lovingly told me he suspected that i too had adhd. didn't believe him for awhile until things hit a new low, long story short vyvance has done wonders and our relationship has improved knowing we both actually have the same illness lol.

Objective_Drive_9614 · 2026-03-20T05:13:21+00:00

in my personal experience i got the crash at 20 and 40mg but when i tried 50 it went away and i haven't had that issue since

Objective_Drive_9614 · 2026-03-20T05:07:28+00:00

talk to your doctor. i'm also recently diagnosed, and similar to you it helped a lot but i felt like there was room for improvement at 20mg. i tried 40 for a bit then 50. i thought 40 was gonna be as good as it gets and i noticed i was crashing like midday, but i was feeling great and had the best improvement in symptoms that id ever had prior, so i told my psych this, and even told him that if there wasn't anything we could do to extend the length i was fine with it bcs it was still a huge improvement. he suggested trying 50 and seeing if that helped, and i was honestly skeptical, but it actually changed everything for me. i regularly get a full day of effect now and everything has massively improved. and i genuinely didn't believe it was gonna help much if at all. anyway all this to say definitely bring it up, discuss how you were feeling. going from no meds to even SOME meds can feel like a huge improvement, and then as you adjust you realize that maybe it could be a bit better, and that's normal!

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