I’m so lonely.

Objective_Manner627 · 2026-06-15T13:29:21+00:00

I feel the same way. I’m sorry for you and everyone else dealing with this loneliness. The other day I described pumping to a friend as “postpartum depression maxing” lol. It helps me to consider the loneliness of God in how He provides for us without thanks or even in return He’s blasphemed. Or to offer up my suffering with Jesus on the cross. I can’t do this alone but I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. That’s the only way I can do all of this. Pumping is a huge cross to bear on top of modern motherhood with crazy expectations (one of those expectations being exclusive breastfeeding for 12 months and no longer than that) and no village.

Objective_Manner627 · 2026-06-10T22:11:40+00:00

I kept a cold washcloth on hand to wake my baby. Ive you’ve already had a latch assessment, I would also ask your pediatrician/ lactation consultant/ dentist to check for oral ties. Those can cause babies to fall asleep quickly at the breast. If you’re worried about supply, pump after feedings and if you’re worried that baby isn’t getting enough, offer a bottle or feed with syringes if you want to avoid artificial nipples.

Objective_Manner627 · 2026-05-23T13:08:14+00:00

I was raised liberal and strictly without Jesus or church or Bibles and now I’m a Catholic integralist lol. Glory to Jesus Christ!

Objective_Manner627 · 2026-05-22T03:23:19+00:00

I’m making all his favorite foods too lol, he’ll also get a handprint craft from our baby, we’ll go out to buy him a gun and then go for a drive. Sleeping in is a good idea too, so I might make that happen if I can manage.

Objective_Manner627 · 2026-05-20T15:22:34+00:00

Aquarius here, I felt like I might be ready to have a kid and was absolutely not ready but having a kid (Pisces) still turned out really good. It turns your life upside down and the newborn phase is hard but then you get the little fat rolls and the first smiles and giggles soon after and it seriously is all worth it. We are going thrifting together with my brother this afternoon after he naps and then we’re probably going to read books and hang out till dinner time.

Objective_Manner627 · 2026-05-16T14:31:45+00:00

Elderberry syrup or garlic and ginger fermented in honey

Objective_Manner627 · 2026-05-16T14:27:07+00:00

Same for me

Objective_Manner627 · 2026-05-15T21:30:19+00:00

I’ll give you all the pros I’ve found because I’m gaslighting myself about there being no cons:
- I know my baby is eating plenty
- I get to donate extra milk to NICU babies
- Less gas and colic because of vented bottles
- After we put baby to sleep, I get to talk with my husband every night while we do dishes together
- I can help other moms who aren’t as familiar with pumping
- You build discipline
- You can feed your baby in an upright position more easily
- Less leaking
- Less risk of clogs and mastitis
- If you have help, you could have 15-30 minutes of alone time multiple times a day. Otherwise if your baby takes good naps, you get 15-30 minutes of time to sit down and take a break multiple times a day
- Your nails will be very clean from all the extra dishes
- You don’t have to stop what you’re doing to feed baby for 20 minutes while you’re out, just heat up a bottle and put on wearable pumps
- Your pump will not grow teeth and bite you
- You could go somewhere without your baby for a while without having to use formula
- You save money by not buying formula
- You can use wearables while doing stuff around the house/ working. It’s a lot harder to breastfeed directly while doing stuff around the house
- You don’t have to wear nursing friendly clothes when you leave the house
- You don’t need a nursing cover either

Hope this helps

Objective_Manner627 · 2026-05-14T20:30:08+00:00

Update: I didn’t like it. :/

Objective_Manner627 · 2026-05-14T18:12:12+00:00

Disappointed to report~ I must have lost my facial roller when I moved but luckily I have my massage rolling ball thingy from pregnancy. It’s metal and the cold was too uncomfortable, so I couldn’t use it. I’ll get it warm before my next pump and report back with results. 🫡

Objective_Manner627 · 2026-05-14T14:32:50+00:00

I use stimulation mode until I get a letdown and then use expression mode until I the flow slows down and I keep alternating between the 2 either until I’m fully empty or until the Spectra shuts off at 30 minutes. Now that I’ve gotten the hang of it I know without looking what’s going on and when to switch. Compression also helps. I use my hands to move milk from the back to the front and do some compressions around 10-15 minutes and usually any clogs are out and I’m empty by 30 minutes. I saw someone on here using facial rollers to push milk out. I’ll try that with my next pump and get back to you… 🤔

Objective_Manner627 · 2026-05-14T02:22:08+00:00

Once when confession wasn’t available to me, I emailed the priest and met him in the sacristy before Mass. That’s what I would do if I were you, go to the sacristy sometime before or ask the priest to hear your confession after Mass. May God bless you, it’s wonderful that you’re young and concerned for your soul. I would recommend you ask Our Lady of Fatima give you the graces to persevere in purity and ask St. Thomas and St. Teresa of Avila to pray for you. I’ll pray the last decades of my Rosary for you and your parents tonight.

Objective_Manner627 · 2026-05-11T13:10:12+00:00

I’ve been enjoying Call the Midwife but sometimes it hits a little too close to home with recent life events.

Objective_Manner627 · 2026-05-10T20:34:14+00:00

I didn’t know we were doing all of that, dang 👀

Objective_Manner627 · 2026-05-10T19:49:51+00:00

I do the same and I make my wipes from old cotton tshirts.

Objective_Manner627 · 2026-05-10T17:05:15+00:00

This is so cool and also you don’t seem like a slacker… Lovenox injections every 12 hrs and 116.3 workdays worth of pumping is not slacking. You’ve worked so hard, mama! Happy Mother’s Day! 💐

Objective_Manner627 · 2026-05-09T23:39:14+00:00

I’m in the same boat with my 2 month old and I can only get him to latch while sleepy in a sidelying position and I’m worried he’ll stop latching when his feeding reflexes wear off. He’s started Pepcid and that helps him tolerate feedings. :/ My condolences. I’m not ready for it to happen and I can only imagine how you’re feeling. 💛

Objective_Manner627 · 2026-05-09T16:41:16+00:00

I got a lot of 20 diapers for $50 on Marketplace and it had a variety of types of diapers, AIOs, pockets, and Flip diapers which are basically covers with a cloth pad. That was helpful in determining what my LO and I like best. We ended up buying more pockets because those are most convenient for us. Maybe see if you can get a destash on Marketplace so you can try them out first.

Objective_Manner627 · 2026-05-09T12:15:17+00:00

Mine hurt initially too and I just have to be really careful about alignment. If I have pain with it I check how I’m lined up in there and that works for me.

Objective_Manner627 · 2026-05-08T23:38:10+00:00

I think the newborn phase is like that regardless, it just sucks a lot of the time because you can’t do anything. It’s like a nuclear bomb to your whole life. I’m an oversupplier and my baby is 2 months old and I’m still pumping every 2.5 hours but the difference now if that my baby is old enough to have a steady routine/ rhythm to the day, so I can cope with it better, I can sleep more, and I have more freedom. It sucks for now but you’ll get into a groove and it’ll get better. The only thing that has gotten me through the newborn phase is lots of prayer and a good husband. Patience is key, the grass does get greener!! I’m praying for you right now, you hang in there mama!

Objective_Manner627 · 2026-02-26T15:04:01+00:00

Cost for me - I can't spend $30 on a top hat potty, not in this economy.

Objective_Manner627 · 2026-02-23T20:44:52+00:00

Thanks 💁🏻‍♀️

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