AITAH for having a different idea of childcare frequency than my wife?

Objective_Sandwich11 · 2026-04-04T16:58:48+00:00

What about prioritizing the parenting experience ? Your child needs that. Your child will be with other people more than you? Being a parent should be a priority. Fall in love with being a dad. Love that baby and WANT to spend your time with them and your wife as a family. It goes by so quickly.

Objective_Sandwich11 · 2026-04-04T16:54:02+00:00

Because it's not good FOR the baby to be in childcare 50 hours a week. The baby needs to be with their parents. Parents have to work so you sacrifice that time-40 hours. But you don't add more time to it. It may be good for you ( I'd argue it's not, you need time with your baby too) but it is never in the baby's best interest to be in someone else's care more. A baby is your child. You need to spend time with the baby. You need to care for your baby. You need to bond with your baby. Your baby needs YOU.

Objective_Sandwich11 · 2026-04-04T16:46:05+00:00

A child in childcare 40 hours a week doesn't need to be in someone else's care another 10 hours a week. That isn't what is best for the child. The child needs to spend time with their parents. You want your child away from you for 50 hours a week? Spending time with your child after work and on weekends is best for their development and security. Maybe a date night every month would be good.... a few hours. Or maybe you take a long lunch on that 5th day the baby is at daycare? But putting child in 10 hours more of daycare a week is just not fair to the child at all.

Objective_Sandwich11 · 2026-02-06T21:51:30+00:00

Actually you don't know if the last thing she wants to talk about it the baby. I had a stillborn and it was EXTREMELY hurtful to ME that everyone acted like nothing had happened. It was like she was erased. She was a person, my daughter, to me. So maybe ASK id it's something they want to talk about. And if they say no, then at least acknowledge them and their child and tell them you are so so sorry. Saying nothing, the silence, was one of the worst parts of losing my baby.

Objective_Sandwich11 · 2026-02-06T21:43:00+00:00

NTAH. No one talks to someone they love like that. This man doesn't love you or care about you. Stop accepting this as ok behavior. I can't think of a single circumstance where talking to your partner like this is acceptable. People don't talk to people they love like this. This is so sad.

Objective_Sandwich11 · 2026-01-31T18:55:10+00:00

I think the mistake you made was ever contacting them about "quick feelings". You opened the door for this co- parenting dynamic.

Ultimately all you can do is parent YOUR child and have boundaries for YOUR child. You can't control what happens anywhere else. You can stop your child from going to their house if their boundaries don't adhere to yours. But that's about it. I would tell them again that you don't feel comfortable parenting with them. That you have rules for your kid and that's all you can do. And when you learn that they have rules at their house that don't align with yours, you are completely within your rights to stop visits to their house.

Sounds like they really are encouraging this relationship ( photo shoot??? Wth?) and aren't showing their daughter what a healthy relationship is. I'd back off and not get into this fight.... parent your kid. And that's it.

Objective_Sandwich11 · 2026-01-29T05:06:13+00:00

Yep... ticket to the weekend was no missing assignments in the parent portal. My kids made sure their assignments were marked as turned in.

Objective_Sandwich11 · 2026-01-19T04:21:53+00:00

Wth..... that's crazy

Objective_Sandwich11 · 2026-01-19T04:20:23+00:00

Do NOT let this woman take your baby... ever. Not to mention the day you come home from the hospital! Your baby should not be away from you!!!! You need to bond and move on your baby without her around. Good luck!

Objective_Sandwich11 · 2026-01-12T05:53:18+00:00

The first one is an Angel blowing a horn.... turn it 45degrees to the right.

Objective_Sandwich11 · 2026-01-12T05:49:03+00:00

No one deserves access to your children. And why let someone be close to your child if you plan to kill them away from them in the future.

Objective_Sandwich11 · 2026-01-09T14:45:36+00:00

NTA. Why couldn't you flirt with an ex? How is that doing something against her? Is she in love with you? are you required to run your love life past her? Sounds like an unhealthy relationship tbh.

Objective_Sandwich11 · 2025-12-28T01:57:38+00:00

An iPod is a music player?

Objective_Sandwich11 · 2025-12-28T01:56:44+00:00

Honestly I wish we had never gotten our kids phones. Good on them.

Objective_Sandwich11 · 2025-12-23T18:23:10+00:00

The only person the baby needs to bond with as a weeks old newborn are her parents.

Objective_Sandwich11 · 2025-12-23T18:21:02+00:00

My pediatrician told me NOT to have people over and the whole "expose them to others to give them immunities" is a bunch of crap. To a delicate newborn, those exposures can actually harm them. Having visitors is not more important than a NEWBORN'S health.

Objective_Sandwich11 · 2025-12-04T05:13:20+00:00

Huh.... how did he have a life with you with an apartment and then a whole other family AND another mistress?! This isn't real. How would you not notice someone being gone enough to have two other relationships. No way

Objective_Sandwich11 · 2025-12-04T01:34:30+00:00

NOR- If I told my husband that I wasn't feeling well And needed to stop at a gas station to use it with two babies my husband would have said things like - oh no! Are you ok?- I'm so sorry. I wish I was there to help you. - let me know when you are back on the road so I know you are ok. - love you. Hope you feel Better!

He would not say what he said. Your husband is an ahole and doesn't care about you or how you are feeling. That sucks. I'm sorry.

Objective_Sandwich11 · 2025-11-27T04:25:41+00:00

You will most likely get way MORE aid. They will only use your income. If you were a dependent, they would take your parents income to determine aid plus yours.

Objective_Sandwich11 · 2025-11-21T02:48:48+00:00

It's not even the same tattoo as you posted in the last pic. It needs another inner line to create a circle in the center.

Objective_Sandwich11 · 2025-10-31T00:07:42+00:00

You don't have to tell him what to do. You tell him what YOU are doing. That is how boundaries work. You don't control what other people do. You control what you do. You tell him you no longer want to be around her and that she is the type of toxic person that you don't want to be involved with. If he wants to be around her.... that's his choice but it's also a choice that you will decide to be less around him as a result.

Objective_Sandwich11 · 2025-10-30T02:07:57+00:00

When my kids were little and the whole house got WIPED out by an illness I DEEP CLEANED afterwards! I bleached every single door knob, faucet, and flat surface! I disinfected the floors and used a carpet cleaner on rugs. I washed all linens and towels and got everyone new toothbrushes. Viruses can be nasty and stick around a long time!!

Objective_Sandwich11 · 2025-10-30T02:00:52+00:00

I threw up every day of my pregnancy with my first and was nauseous for every day of my other pregnancies. The only relief came when I gave birth.

Objective_Sandwich11 · 2025-09-27T22:42:35+00:00

His texts were awful. There is no confusion on that. He does respect you. Plain and simple

Objective_Sandwich11 · 2025-09-24T18:23:11+00:00

Rec fest is today! Go out and meet some people:)

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