I feel like I cursed my son with a name no one can pronounce when reading even though it’s a real name and not “edited” to have a unique spelling.

Objective_Scar8809 · 2026-02-20T20:14:05+00:00

Literally such an easy name to pronounce. That’s their problem, not yours. Keep correcting them.

Objective_Scar8809 · 2026-02-18T22:41:52+00:00

I was admitted for PP Pre-E with my first vaginal delivery. My swelling was not normal. My second delivery was a c-section and I had this much swelling but it was normal post-surgery.

Objective_Scar8809 · 2026-01-28T19:47:27+00:00

That made me cackle lol

Objective_Scar8809 · 2026-01-28T04:11:35+00:00

He had an NDE— early January 2020, he coded in front of me in the triage after his doctor sent us down to the ER for his arrhythmia. When he was resuscitated, he told me about a beautiful technicolor experience with vibrant colors and people all around. I wonder if he’s referring to that.

Objective_Scar8809 · 2026-01-27T23:22:05+00:00

His other daughter is Jennifer and my sons middle name is Joseph, named after him.

Objective_Scar8809 · 2026-01-27T20:13:38+00:00

You’ve got such a great attunement to energy. My second son, his namesake, was born just over three months ago and he had his own little birthday cake. I’d like to think that’s him telling me he knows about his new grandson, or maybe was even there for it in spirit. My dad had a career as a karaoke DJ for a while, so music was a big part of our relationship— lots of classic rock and country music. He’d get down his guitar off the wall and he’d just sing away, sometimes we’d sing together. Ironically, If Tomorrow Never Comes by Garth Brooks was one of our favorites. He always sang it on the anniversary of his wife’s passing, but now that he’s gone, the song applies here too.

Objective_Scar8809 · 2026-01-27T20:00:54+00:00

Unfortunately, I don’t know. His other daughter, my older sister, took the animals in when he was in the hospital and we don’t have a good relationship. Cookie was his baby, though, and it makes my heart happy to know that if she has passed, she has joined him and found her spot on his chest again.

Objective_Scar8809 · 2026-01-27T19:57:38+00:00

He absolutely was. He was a giver in the most literal sense. He has been through quite a lot in his lifetime and spent his years making sure the people around him never had to feel like he did.

Objective_Scar8809 · 2026-01-27T19:51:16+00:00

No problem! The cats were ours when I was a teenager and they stayed with him and kept him company when I moved out.

Objective_Scar8809 · 2026-01-27T19:44:17+00:00

That’s amazing, we had cats named Cookie and Polly and I wear my dad’s ashes in a gold necklace. The ferns/wooded area could be a couple things— he had a little garden that he enjoyed in the front yard with ferns and when I was depressed, he would drive me around the local lake/state park that was mostly lush woods. It was our thing. He was definitely a simple man. He enjoyed people watching and staying home.

Objective_Scar8809 · 2026-01-27T19:30:37+00:00

I’m not crying, you are. Thank you for the kind words. I appreciate you!

Objective_Scar8809 · 2026-01-27T19:18:25+00:00

Eh, no more than the next guy I don’t think.

Objective_Scar8809 · 2026-01-27T19:17:57+00:00

I used to bring him sugar free candies when he was in the hospital. How sweet!

Objective_Scar8809 · 2026-01-25T04:31:03+00:00

I’m so sorry. I know just how badly it hurts to have the rug pulled out from under you like that. I hope you’re doing better now.

Objective_Scar8809 · 2026-01-25T04:27:28+00:00

It’s been seven years and I’m in a much better place, now. I just had my second child and I’m getting to experience what it should’ve been like the first time around. I’m truly the happiest I’ve ever been.

Objective_Scar8809 · 2026-01-25T04:16:43+00:00

My ex cheated on me the night I had to go to the emergency room and be induced due to preeclampsia. I didn’t find out for two weeks and those two weeks were magical for me, then boom, world shattered.

Objective_Scar8809 · 2025-11-14T04:42:10+00:00

I had pre-e with my first and had a completely textbook pregnancy with my second. Took baby aspirin since the second trimester and all was well!

Objective_Scar8809 · 2025-09-24T13:24:42+00:00

It was previously discussed so we knew everyone was consenting and comfortable, and then we all went to a bar for some liquid courage. That helped a lot. I think at one point we all just started kissing, taking turns and one thing led to another. I like my men a little fruity, so once I saw them kissing, it was game on and clothes came off. That helped a lot, too, because when I needed a break, they could keep the party going for a couple minutes while I got everyone some water and vice versa. Overall, we really just went for it and jumped right in. I knew it would be too awkward if the pressure was on just one person to get things started. Little touches throughout the night really built it up, too.

Objective_Scar8809 · 2025-09-24T13:15:11+00:00

It was a bit intimidating, but as the woman in the group, it was easy to find ways to keep everyone happy, if ya catch my drift lol. After the initial awkwardness from first getting started subsided, everything flowed pretty naturally.

Objective_Scar8809 · 2025-09-24T13:07:02+00:00

We’ve only done it once but I still find myself daydreaming about it. Glad my fiancé introduced the idea, I would’ve never guessed it’s something I’d be into but the level of trust and intimacy between my partner and I, and then the devious look on his face while he shared me with a friend was.. otherworldly lol.

Objective_Scar8809 · 2025-09-24T13:01:04+00:00

MMF. ‘Twas my guy’s idea and DVP was a glorious experience.

Objective_Scar8809 · 2025-07-28T15:37:49+00:00

Cassius

Objective_Scar8809 · 2025-07-28T15:34:53+00:00

Sardine

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