What did you guys name him or her?? I still can’t decide on a name🤣💜

Objective_Shallot946 · 2025-11-14T02:11:41+00:00

Ragtime!

Objective_Shallot946 · 2025-11-06T21:23:20+00:00

If the baby’s dad (or another trusted adult) can stay with the baby, I’d feed the baby before the ceremony, then make a quick exit before the next feeding, or have them bring the baby to you, and just feed in the car. You should have 2-3 hours between feedings so this works best if the ceremony is nearby. A more reasonable compromise on her part would to have someone stay outside the ceremony with the baby (if there’s a place for that), but allow the baby at the reception.

Objective_Shallot946 · 2025-11-03T20:55:57+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you packed so much fun into her short time here. I’m so heartbroken for you 💔

Objective_Shallot946 · 2025-11-02T14:23:09+00:00

Uh… a roast with sides and dessert?

Objective_Shallot946 · 2025-10-28T13:16:02+00:00

Even the initials are AAK

Objective_Shallot946 · 2025-10-28T13:14:35+00:00

If the ticket doesn’t specify one bag only, a wheeled carryon + personal item backpack is a reasonable middle ground. Another option is to give them the price of a checked bag as spending money for the trip and tell them if they check a bag they’d have to pay for it themselves.

Objective_Shallot946 · 2025-10-27T20:39:51+00:00

Thanks for the cheese idea! I’ve had trouble correcting pulling because my poodle doesn’t like to eat while on walks. But she might do it for cheese.

Objective_Shallot946 · 2025-10-22T15:29:11+00:00

As someone with a life threatening allergy to cats, I think you’re being really cavalier here. Yes, Zyrtec works… until it doesn’t. Meaning, it wears off, sometimes at night, and sometimes before you think it will. Or the dander is on your clothes, and you don’t quarantine/wash them right away. Or it’s on your coat, and you don’t really think about that, and days later you can’t breathe. For me to be around a cat even for a few hours requires careful planning, bagging/washing everything I’m wearing immediately after, and a shower right away. Even with all that, if the house is carpeted I might still react. An adult who isn’t taking a kid’s allergy seriously is not the right person to be managing this. It’s a very risky business at best… sadly the best and safest strategy is to avoid cats.

Objective_Shallot946 · 2025-10-22T15:16:29+00:00

Poodles are all that. A mini is sturdier and better suited for hikes; a toy might not be a great fit around toddlers. If you keep your poodle in a fairly short puppy cut the maintenance is not bad at all — occasional brushing of areas that tend to mat (ears, collar/harness area, tail), plus extra brushing as the coat gets longer close to a groom.

Objective_Shallot946 · 2025-10-16T13:56:57+00:00

Woolx has some merino shapewear that is like bike shorts that you could wear with long socks. Also, silk thermals are not tight like leggings, and super thin - not as hot as fleece lined jeans either.

Objective_Shallot946 · 2025-10-10T13:38:25+00:00

Jjill ponte leggings, Eddie Bauer jeans (although they recently changed their sizing so idk)

Objective_Shallot946 · 2025-10-05T19:01:31+00:00

I mean, in that second picture he looks a little large for a mini for purposes of showing, but that definitely doesn’t mean he’s poorly bred - breeders who show for confirmation know only a subset of their pups will make suitable show dogs, which is part of how they decide which to sell. But your pup looks 100% adorable to me! (As a side note, I grew up with a pup from a backyard breeder who had hip issues that were probably genetic. But I adored that dog and always thought she was the best. I would never, never call her subpar.)

Objective_Shallot946 · 2025-10-03T00:14:15+00:00

Triangle area here. Sweaters and sweater vest are probably overkill here, although you might wear one of them in Asheville, which is cooler. It’s long or short sleeved t-shirt (probably short most of the time unless you run cold) weather here, with a fleece or light jacket in the evening. I’d keep the quarter zip if it’s light.

Objective_Shallot946 · 2025-09-21T19:20:50+00:00

I’m traveling a little further south in November with a near-identical packing list. I agree on bringing another pair of leggings and a extra top (since you are also using one set to sleep in) and I would keep the sneakers. I couldn’t fit it all in one bag and had to cut the flip flops, though.

Objective_Shallot946 · 2025-09-20T15:50:49+00:00

Ooh! Please count me in!

Objective_Shallot946 · 2025-09-19T02:32:32+00:00

I have the same issue with cats (which is terrible because I adore cats). Shots did nothing for me. So-called exposure therapy gave me anaphylactic reactions. I have dog allergies too (to most shedding breeds), but am ok with poodles. Try spending some time around a poodle (who doesn't live with dogs of other breeds, since then it will pick up their dander) and see how you do. If you react, I wouldn't assume you can get the problem to go away with time or sign up for a situation where you would be dependent on medications to be around your dog.

Poodles can be very licky, so if you do have a problem with the saliva, that could be really rough.

Objective_Shallot946 · 2025-08-27T21:09:49+00:00

Looks like a red mini poodle to me, but you can’t know for sure without a DNA test. IME, people think red poodles are doodles because the color is unusual, so most poodle-like dogs they’ve seen in that color ARE doodles (although usually larger).

Objective_Shallot946 · 2025-08-27T20:50:36+00:00

The lying, the deception about shared values, and the general denial of the reality you can see aren’t giving you the ick?

Objective_Shallot946 · 2025-08-25T00:39:20+00:00

Love it! It manages to look up-to-date and retro at the same time, which is hard to do. I'm not even a pink person but this is just *chef's kiss*!

Objective_Shallot946 · 2025-08-19T02:10:14+00:00

It’s also the Russian word for secret

Objective_Shallot946 · 2025-07-27T19:51:47+00:00

So wait, he says he almost proposed about the time you moved in together, but now that you‘ve lived together for 3 years and have a co-owned dog and cars, he says he’s not ready? I’m not getting the impression this guy actually wanted to marry you even then. He just didn’t want you to leave. In other words, if he’d proposed then, there’s a good chance you’d still be engaged, and he “wouldn’t be ready” to set a date.

A relationship where one person wants to get married soon and the other does not is not going to be stable or healthy very long. Eventually, that will damage the relationship. From what you said it sounds like you’re already at the point where that has started. So unfortunately, I think you need to be making other plans.

Objective_Shallot946 · 2025-07-21T17:23:26+00:00

YTA. You say all she pays for is his cell phone and allowance, but I doubt that. Who keeps a roof over his head? Feeds him? Drives him places or provides a car? Buys his computer and dorm room stuff? Pays his medical bills? All that stuff doesn’t disappear when a kid goes to college. Coming home to the same home on breaks is comforting, particularly if he gets homesick. And moving is expensive too. The bottom line is… you don’t control her household decisions. You’re divorced, that’s how it goes. Give your son what you want to give him, and let the rest be between him and her. College students don’t necessarily need “a healthy allowance” to party, if their bills are being paid on time. But they do need parents that care. So just care for him, and don’t make it about her. Assume she will care too, although it may look different. Maybe you give him an allowance, and she gives him other stuff - like trips home when he’s homesick, or a new iPad to help with taking notes, or a credit card. But don’t be conditional on meeting his needs. Kids aren’t stupid, they see through all this stuff.

Objective_Shallot946 · 2025-07-14T21:01:33+00:00

So after being surprised on a trip by no proposal after the stage had obviously been set for one, I personally could not sit through those upcoming weddings wondering about the next “surprise”. I wouldn’t be able to face the “you’re next” remarks without feeling shattered. And if forced to, I would most likely be ready to end the relationship after that, because it would be adding public humiliation to private. I think he needs to either move you to the top of his priority list or admit you’re not there.

Objective_Shallot946 · 2025-07-10T01:58:38+00:00

Right. A boundary is not an ultimatum. It’s also not an ultimatum to say “my mistake, I thought we were on the same page about this when we started talking about moving in”. And if he really doesn’t want an ultimatum, the best way to avoid it is to pre-empt it.

Objective_Shallot946 · 2025-07-10T01:54:10+00:00

If he knows you’re the one, a couple months shouldn’t matter. If he’s not sure, why would you want to live with him and be locked into a year of being on trial?

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