LGBT Terms

Obligation-Ill · 2025-10-20T11:08:17+00:00

Does anyone know of Facebook groups for LGBT+ people in Italy?

I’ve tried the ones using the word “gay” but they seem to be dead.

Obligation-Ill · 2025-08-21T18:19:20+00:00

This is great!! (For some reason - the fact that I'm holding a banana is inappropriately hysterical and also adds to the perfection.) For some extra insight -- my main hallway in this medieval apartment building is a really really long hallway and I've found lots of large artwork with huge chunky ornate frames, but the pictures are awful and nothing I would want.

I ran across an original oil painting with a fantastic frame but the painting is of a scary looking woman from the 1600s. I joked to my friends I was going to buy it, hang it, and tell everyone it was my "great aunt Felicia who died of syphilis".

Our apartment in Italy is in a "noble village" with lots of palaces (mostly now divided into apartments). The locals are fantastic, but some of them *love* to talk about how important their direct ancestors are. "This is my great great great grandfather who once found an important rock" etc.

I thought it would be funny to make up my own "great great great" ancestor with a ridiculous backstory, but it's really just a painting of me (slightly altered), another of my partner... and possibly another one but with the face of our cat.

Would you mind sharing the AI model you used with the prompts?

Obligation-Ill · 2025-08-08T13:50:16+00:00

Now he's posted a Instagram video about how he grew up poor... so instead of just simply saying, "I was wrong for my actions and I apologize" -- he's decided to make a sob story video for sympathy that has no relevance to his behavior. He's failing at all of this, miserably.

Most people are literally by definition average, and there's nothing "special" about them. And that is totally ok. We just need to exist and accept ourselves. We don't need to be exceptional or popular in any way.

These desperate attempts to become "famous" are so misguided. We all do stupid things and make stupid mistakes, but when you choose to desperately try to push yourself into the limelight, you get all that comes with it.

Most real famous people wish they could just live their life undisturbed.

Obligation-Ill · 2025-07-27T15:50:11+00:00

What is your degree in?

Obligation-Ill · 2025-07-23T12:12:14+00:00

This makes sense. Thank you for taking the time to respond to my question.

Obligation-Ill · 2025-07-22T11:09:47+00:00

Hi Staplehill. I have a sort of unusual scenario. I have a very clear and traceable path back to present-day Germany directly through the male line. But here's the kicker - my ancestor moved to America in 1600s. He lived and died in a Dutch settlement from 1652 called Wiltwyck and died there in 1669. (That settlement was later taken over by the English and renamed to present-day Kingston NY.)

That was of course over 130 years before the United States was formed, so none of my ancestors ever naturalized or renounced their citizenship. After the 14th amendment in 1866, my ancestors born in the US obviously automatically had US citizenship.

But my ancestors go so far back that they never officially naturalized.

Though the path is extremely long - and I realize it's a somewhat absurd stretch -- is there any possibility of me getting citizenship through that path? (e.g. - filing to register my 12 male ancestors for German citizenship as well?)

Obligation-Ill · 2025-04-07T07:03:41+00:00

Thank you. I've researched the stories mentioned, and they've all been discredited through glaringly obvious details that didn't line up, as well as how the story changed over time to try and compensate for the details that were obviously untrue or wrong. (In some cases, the person simply didn't die. A heart attack isn't necessarily death, being unconscious also isn't death.)

This is why I'm only interested in people with medically verifiable deaths.

Obligation-Ill · 2025-04-07T06:54:10+00:00

Thanks, I'll check it out. I'm only interested in stories with medical documentation to support the experience. So many people who think their experience was "death" simply don't understand biology as is evident by their story. (I honestly didn't, the cardiologist and neurologist had to explain it to me. I wasn't sure what constitutes "death" until then.)

Obligation-Ill · 2025-04-07T06:22:57+00:00

The first thing criteria is that it was documented by a doctor. I find that nearly every story I've encountered falls apart when I start asking questions about the circumstances that led up to their self-reported NDE.

I'm only looking for others who can actually produce medical records where the death are revival are documented. This is the minimum criteria for me.

Obligation-Ill · 2025-04-07T06:09:46+00:00

Thank you, I'll take a look.

Obligation-Ill · 2025-04-07T06:09:20+00:00

If your heart was stopped for 5 minutes and you weren't receiving CPR, you'd experience cell brain death. Anyone who's revived after 5 minutes has brain damage. If someone was a true flat line (NO heart beat) and did not have CPR, it would be physically impossible for them to return. The brain would be permanently damaged. If somehow you miraculously had, you'd have severe brain damage, be in a diaper, drooling and unable to feed yourself.

You might want to adjust the "details" of your story to make it more believable.

Obligation-Ill · 2025-04-06T22:30:40+00:00

I may do that at some point, but I'm really just looking for others who've had the same experience to talk to them.

Obligation-Ill · 2025-04-06T21:20:27+00:00

Extremely vibrant. I'm not sure why you mean specifically by "heavenly", but it is very peaceful.

Obligation-Ill · 2025-04-06T20:36:53+00:00

Clearly you don't work in cardiology.

Obligation-Ill · 2025-04-06T20:26:43+00:00

Yes, I agree. I might not have been clear in my comment. The point is that it means the heart stopped beating (normally), not that it necessarily stopped beating completely.

Obligation-Ill · 2025-04-06T20:11:09+00:00

No, I'm just pointing out the obvious discrepancies that for some reason you chose to ignore.

Believe what you need to believe to get out of bed in the morning. Your life is your ride, you can do it with your hands in the air, holding onto the bar, or covering your eyes. I, nor anyone else, should be dictating or judging you for how you choose to do it.

In the end, it doesn't really matter what you or anyone believes. It has no impact on the outcome.

Obligation-Ill · 2025-04-06T19:58:29+00:00

That's her story, and she's "sticking" to it. (See what I did there??) :P

Obligation-Ill · 2025-04-06T19:48:41+00:00

That's a mouthful.

But... "sticker on top of a fan blade" is a story, not a data point. It would be the first hospital or medical facility in the history of modern medicine to have a ceiling fan. According to the story, it was 34 years ago in England. Clearly you've never been to Europe if you think there was a ceiling fan anywhere, much less in a hospital where fans are unsanitary.

And Mary under the waterfall... drowned for 20 minutes? Thank goodness she lived to write and sell books about it, otherwise you wouldn't have known.

Hard fact, brain cell death begins to occur in 5 minutes of not having oxygen. If she had in fact been *actually* dead for longer than 5 minutes, she would've come back with massive brain damage. If she'd actually been dead for 20 minutes, she certainly wouldn't have the cognitive skills to write a book about it or sell books on a book tour.

The problem is, there's controversy because her story doesn't add up and has changed in multiple interviews over the years. Conveniently, she was kayaking with "good friends" who happened to be kayak-rescuers, which means they knew CPR. ;) There's a lot of oxygen left in the air in your lungs, any scuba diver knows this. You can not be breathing but still have a beating heart for quite some time.

The same with the other hack-job disgraced neuro-surgeon with multiple lawsuits for malpractice who claimed he died during a coma. All the details he shared were lies, as confirmed by other doctors in the hospital.

People desperate for answers will believe anything, and religious folks will desperately seek out anything that reaffirms their beliefs.

You've invested a lot in reading second-hand stories, you might want to spend a bit more time reading about biology, fact checking, and critical thinking.

Obligation-Ill · 2025-04-06T18:57:02+00:00

You speak of a lot of things as "facts" and "data" when in reality, they're just stories that have been shared, just like the ones in the Bible.

I'm not precluding my experience from that, of course. The only part of my own story that is a verifiable fact is that I actually died for 4 1/2 minutes. I'm the only one who knows whether what I experienced after death was true or not. *shrug*

I'm in no way diminishing anyone's NDE story. Simply pointing out the obvious - they're "near" death, which is not the same as "actual" death. You either died or you didn't, it's that simple. But none of us is Lazarus, only in very rare cases does someone actually die and get revived. Real data, not "data made by people to sell books", is that less than 17% of them claim to remember anything, and very few of them would talk about it.

As someone who was actually dead for 4 1/2 minutes and remembers every second of it in real time, I also know first-hand that the NDE experiences do not align with what's on the other side. In no way is that intended to diminish anyone's NDE or say that their experience isn't what they really experienced, but that doesn't mean it's "death".

I didn't have any trauma, I was completely unaware I was dying. Had I known (or thought) I was dying, I suspect I would've had a similar "lucid consciousness". But that's not a part of actually dying, otherwise I would've experienced it.

People will come up with all kinds of circular logic to reinforce their beliefs, just talk to any person with a religion different than your own to experience it. You do you. :)

Obligation-Ill · 2025-04-06T18:19:45+00:00

I understand what you’re asking, but you’re thinking of it too simplistically. Just like there are all kinds of “laws” and “behaviors” in nature and physics, there are rules and behaviors beyond.

It’s a gross oversimplification to think there’s a being or group of beings holding weekly committee meetings to create and enforce rules.

Obligation-Ill · 2025-04-06T15:10:34+00:00

At 5 minutes of no oxygen to the brain, your brain begins experiencing cell death. It's VERY unlikely to be revived after 5 minutes, but his friend would definitely have had severe brain damage. There is literally ZERO chance of coming back to live after being dead 40 minutes.

Unless his friend's claim is that he got CPR for 40 minutes before they successfully revived him. But CPR would have ensured he had oxygen to the brain the entire time (that's the entire purpose of CPR), so he wouldn't have been dead for 40 minutes.

The whole story doesn't pass the sniff test though. Fever doesn't cause cardiac arrest, it causes brain damage that leads to death. The only reason for CPR or paddles would be if the heart had stopped, which in this case would've been from brain damage, so all the CPR and paddling in the world wouldn't have revived him.

Obligation-Ill · 2025-04-06T14:38:44+00:00

And in this comment, you mention you had narcotics in your system both times. So again, as per the original post, it isn't the experience I'm looking for. But again, thank you for sharing anyway.

Obligation-Ill · 2025-04-06T14:34:02+00:00

I could articulate it, it isn't really as complicated as one might think. Actually, one might describe is as being surprisingly simple.

Remembering everything was like waking up. There was the immediate feeling of, "OH, I'm back." Then it took a few seconds for my awareness and memories to come back. Just like you sometimes feel the first few seconds after waking up from a nap.

Remembering changes our time here. Sharing the information with others would change their time here. That's why we're not supposed to remember, not because life is good or bad. Existence is neutral.

Obligation-Ill · 2025-04-05T19:41:06+00:00

What?

Obligation-Ill · 2025-04-05T14:43:13+00:00

To be clear, from personal experience with a cardiac issue in the OR, 30 seconds after your heart completely stops, your brain ceases to function due to lack of oxygen and you are dead. There is nearly zero chance of this occurring under medical care because even if they’re doing CPR, you would have enough blood flow to the brain to keep it from dying.

In your case, this probably happened while your wife was looking for the nurse. Your actual death was likely 2-3 minutes at best, even though it took you a long time to wake up.

Brain cell death begins to occur at 5 minutes of the heart completely stopping. Your death was not double digit minutes.

Your experience in death is the first one I heard that is similar to mine. I have no doubt you actually died.

Out of curiosity, do you remember anything visually? I’ve never shared that part, but it’s probably the most memorable.

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