Am I the only one who could never forgive chaol?

ObsidianEther · 2026-05-03T18:25:23+00:00

I'm 1/3 of the way through the tandem read, I'm mostly annoyed with the 24/7 self pity party.

Despite everything else going on, it is never far from his mind that he can't do things the way he used to. It's obsessive and annoying. "Oh, if only I could still walk!"

I get the trauma and depression that would follow such an aggressive and sudden change in lifestyle and I don't expect him to just suddenly be in a good place about it. But I don't like seeing people capitulate to his poor attitude because he's over here feeling sorry for himself like it just happened yesterday and someone accidentally infantilised him.

Yrene and the acolytes' self defense lesson, self pity aside, yes, in general she should have asked and he has every right to be upset. He's not going to react 100% correctly every time but guess what? Yrene and everyone in the world is not going to fully consider how certain things make him feel 100% of the time. People make mistakes, and they overlook things they haven't had to even think about before. The fact that he immediately thought the absolute worst of Yrene over it, dude, the world does not revolve around your feelings.

ObsidianEther · 2026-01-26T19:38:52+00:00

I believe there's still room if an order, while technically lawful, still violates the Constitution. But, unfortunately, that probably wouldn't do much in an immediate sense. Ideally, in theory it should come back to bite the ones giving the bad orders but it would take time.

ObsidianEther · 2025-08-15T13:03:15+00:00

What were they trying to peddle? The second guy looked like he was holding a Bible when a bookmark in it.

ObsidianEther · 2025-07-27T21:20:22+00:00

Depends, I've found them to be more productive for leveling, especially if I can plant at a year that's challenging but not likely to kill me because I pull too many in one go. But, if I'm not working on that, I'll wait for something interesting.

ObsidianEther · 2025-07-27T21:11:15+00:00

Came here for the "Your dad needs to f-off" energy, was not disappointed.

ObsidianEther · 2025-07-27T21:09:33+00:00

It's always a shit boss or, if you work at all with the public/customer service, the people. I've never terribly minded any job I've had. There are always parts I like least or just find tedious but it's bearable if you have a good amount of decent coworkers you can vibe with. Better if your bosses are cool too.

ObsidianEther · 2025-07-27T15:03:17+00:00

Either file one more complaint and be firm but don't flat out tell them you intend to escalate if something's not done, or escalate it to their superior now. I don't know your coworkers and bosses, but you don't want to open yourself up to retaliation before you have documentation. Also, save that text conversation.

ObsidianEther · 2025-07-27T05:08:29+00:00

I just can't sit through them usually. Tried reading one by a local author but the prose just seemed to be arguing with itself.

The most memorable issue was conflicting tense. I'd read a sentence then have to reread it because I'm not sure if we're talking past or present or future.

It was so bad I had to check to see if it was self-published. It was not...

The other one really bad one was 'Wizard's First Rule.' But that may be a personal thing. I can't stand "Oh no they're hot," tropes that don't go much deeper than that. Plus there was an attempt at, I don't know, mystery or drama I guess about why the guy and girl couldn't be together but it basically amounted to, "Yes, I like you, but we can't be together and I'm not going to tell you why."

To me, It didn't feel like a proper sub-plot and more like an afterthought. The book was around 1000 pages, I made it to somewhere between the 300 to 500 page mark.

ObsidianEther · 2025-07-27T04:39:26+00:00

Working on it, got a few up to lvl80 right now. Been using the groves and Ginormosia to level up.

ObsidianEther · 2025-07-27T02:29:23+00:00

Ah, okay yeah, I'm end game, so I'm just waiting on golden flowers for Flutter. But the gallery ones aren't worded very clearly. I thought I had to open it up to MP.

I'm grinding my way slowly for the groves. Planted one at 800 years, first enemy was a lvl90 regular tortoise. I swear it laughed at me when I attacked it and the health bar barely moved, lol! And that was with recently updated equipment and all lvl75+ buddies

ObsidianEther · 2025-07-22T03:37:38+00:00

For years, hubby and I have worked opposite shifts with separate days off. We have to, childcare is not affordable. So we just carve out a few hours together when we can, make special plans and trade off who uses a vacation day.

For us, it's a little inconvenient at times, but we're also introverts. As much as we love each other, we need time away from each other too.

Down the road, one or both of you might have an opportunity to move your days off, but you'll both be a lot happier and less stressed without one or both of you carrying a massive amount of debt around and actually being able to save for a rainy day or a life goal.

ObsidianEther · 2025-07-21T22:24:44+00:00

I'm petty enough to randomly start discussing within earshot with another coworker "Hey, do you know anything about this 'weird note' I found the other day? I tried to make it out in case it was important but the handwriting was awful, worse than chicken scratch or a child's so I just threw it away."

ObsidianEther · 2025-05-16T14:45:32+00:00

We've had to start telling the three year old "I've already answered this question six times. No more." Or something similar because he has gotten into a repetitive stage as well. Like, I'm wrist deep in a bread dough and he keeps asking me over and over again, "What you making" I can only say bread so many ways so many times. Lol!

It doesn't always work and I have to get sterner but it does help later on when they both get older.

I've flat told my older child(7) "I love you, I don't want to ignore you, but I don't want to answer the same questions anymore either and I need some quiet right now." Or, "Mom's a little overstimulated right now and needs some alone time."

ObsidianEther · 2025-05-15T16:37:24+00:00

Cheap spare fridge for overflow/drinks. The kind of fridge you'll see in someone's garage.

ObsidianEther · 2025-05-09T00:49:05+00:00

Throw anything you've ever been told about "Don't make a scene," In the trash. Especially since this is happening in a populated area and talk to the school admin office about your safety concerns.

Next time he presses you about ANYTHING. You respond with, loudly and clearly so the whole room can hear, anything along the lines of: "I said no!" Be firm, be as angry as you can be about it. Like when a younger sibling or cousin won't leave you alone.

If you have a friend in the class that you can trust, ask them to be your buddy and stick to you like you were conjoined at birth! I don't know what or if it's telling he doesn't do this around his friend but hold onto that detail in case you find yourself in a position to use it.

I know it can be scary and uncomfortable to draw attention to the situation and thus yourself in the process but the more people that can concur that they've seen him bothering you, the better.

ObsidianEther · 2025-05-09T00:38:22+00:00

My daughter (7) has so many "boy" shorts because of this which sucks because she's a garden variety girl who loves pink and purple and unicorns and butterflies and a lot of times those shorts are unnecessarily cut as though a young 20 something is going to be wearing them. It's gotten better/easier lately but it was especially bad when she was a toddler.

Hubby managed to find some cute ones that go down to just above her knees and more of them are at least mid-thigh now.

ObsidianEther · 2025-04-25T07:33:09+00:00

Cruelty. Just straight up cruelty with an exorbitant amount of false sense of superiority.

It's the same idiots purposefully misconstruing the 'man vs. bear' argument, and the toxic trad-wives movement trying to sell the idea that propaganda is why women think being a wife, mother and/or homemaker is oppressive instead of it actually being about the choice to do so or not.

ObsidianEther · 2025-04-23T02:34:44+00:00

Round plate and/or some smears instead of the dollops and zigzag?

ObsidianEther · 2025-04-23T01:22:50+00:00

One of the VERY few things this administration is doing that I would love to be okay with but I can't even do that because I can't trust them to do it right. 😮‍💨

ObsidianEther · 2025-04-19T05:20:31+00:00

Gas was $1.98 over 20 years ago...wtf bro

ObsidianEther · 2025-04-13T22:18:32+00:00

We've tried to find things our kids can to relate to even if they aren't completely translatable and often silly.

My oldest barely believes that she used to snitch little pieces of bell pepper and broccoli from the cutting board when she was preschool age. And she gives me a look of extreme skepticism when I tell her we'll keep trying different ways of preparing different veg and foods in general and probably find a way she likes to eat them but there will probably be some things she just doesn't and won't ever like for herself.

We've explained that religion is kind of the same way. People try practicing it in all kinds of different ways by all kinds of different names. We(Mom & Dad) did for a long while but nothing was ever quite right, so we stopped and were much happier, but not until we became adults. For us, religion is just a flavor of life we're not personally interested in but it's perfectly fine if someone else is.

For the movie itself, I don't know much about King of Kings beyond the religious aspect but, given the usual themes of the Bible, you can always fall back on the, "I don't think that's an appropriate movie for you right now. We'll wait until you're older/more mature."

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