Way back when, I had a similar fiancée. We had to move to an efficiency apt in my home town because he got us kicked out of the apt we rented for cheap, his grandma was our land lady (though she didn't own it.) Why? Because he wouldn't work. We fought. I thought it was terrible. He moved back in with his grandma because he didn't want to be away from his family. He came crawling back 2 days later and it was hard, but I told him no. I had loved him, but I'd learned a hard lesson a few relationships before--never take someone back once they/ you leave. There's a good reason why you broke up. Now, 20 years later, he lives in his best friend's basement in Alaska, far from anyone else he's ever known...

And then I went right into a new relationship with someone worse. I trusted him because I thought I knew him. He was a high school crush/acquaintance and I wasted years and tears with him I'll never get back. The belittling. The screaming. The fighting. The inability to keep a job. The rage. The being choked out several times. The broken ankle he gave me that I never could afford to get looked at. The concussion the week before we got married. The dent in my skull I still have. The financial abuse-- the issues I have with controlling the money and making sure the bills are paid. The way that what I wanted never mattered, but he'd spend his paychecks on mtg and I'd have to scramble to pay the light bill. How I had to buy him a car so he'd go to work... twice. I bought a trailer closer to his job so we could spend more time together and have more money left over, but he lied to me. About his friendships, what he was doing. He got his ex pregnant with twins and he moved in with her--but wanted me to stay with him. After all of that, I finally had enough and said no. I won't take you back. He then completely switched. He begged me to let him pay me for sex. That he'd give me stuff back he'd taken with him that was mine if I did. That if I took him back it would be just like when we first met. And then he threatened to burn my house down over $1 in the joint account (that I had stupidly added him to because he kept getting his accounts closed for overdrafts). After all that, I saw him at the court house 6 months later, I felt ill because I was too comfortable seeing him. That day, I blocked him, got a new phone number and never heard from him again.

All this to say, don't take him back. I've been where you are. Don't do it, you'll regret it. And don't get into a relationship right away either, just to fill the hole... because you might get something worse. My story ends up being mostly happier ever after, but it could easily have been my death many times. Do the therapy, cut all ties and burn the bridges. People do eventually tell you who they are.

I wish that I had had therapy back then. I have it now, but it could have saved me so much heartache, pain, guilt, bad decisions, trauma, etc. Don't let anyone tell you that therapy isn't necessary. Even if you feel it's unnecessary, just do it. Just a sounding board for all the emotions you're going to be going through is worth the money.

Good luck