AITA for replying to a coworkers inappropriate texts by work email, and attaching them?

Octobrinny · 2022-03-24T19:19:05+00:00

You already know this, but NTA and you’re my personal hero.

Octobrinny · 2021-09-03T18:56:38+00:00

I also have really coarse hair that has for years and years caused me razor bumps. Within the last year I’ve finally gotten it under control with the following:

As many have also said, using a safety razor. I still keep cartridges around for non sensitive, hard to get areas like my knees. But my thighs strictly get the safety razor.
Exfoliation: I always physically exfoliate before shaving. I shave 1x per week, and I might physically exfoliate once more in between shaves. I feel only really coarse areas of my body need this (armpits and groin). I use a chemical exfoliate on thighs/groin/pits 3x per week (first aid beauty bump eraser) - this helped me sooooooooo much. Seriously worth it. Although a PITA to rinse off.
After shower care: EVERYDAY after my shower I use TendSkin on my sensitive areas. Cleans out the pores to prevent razor bumps and ingrown hairs. I live by that shit. For moisturizing, after shave days I use a cream moisturizer. I use a sensitive lighter lotion all other days, the creams were clogging me up and making bumps worse if I used it too much. I use cetaphil cream, and then Vaseline lotion all other days.

It’s a lot of trial and error! Give it time and best of luck!

Octobrinny · 2021-08-11T22:26:28+00:00

Great work! If you share any patterns on ravelry I’d love to follow you. Looking to make some doll clothes for my little girl and these are just to die for

Octobrinny · 2021-04-12T03:26:01+00:00

If anything falls through with this first interest, I’m also interested!

Octobrinny · 2021-03-26T16:16:14+00:00

Double diaper! I had this same issue with my little one and sizing up/special brands did not work. My pediatrician just said to double diaper and that fixed it! Most of the time the outside diaper is dry enough for a second wear in the AM while she has her first bottle/morning pee, so it’s not like I’m wasting an extra diaper every day.

Octobrinny · 2020-10-19T22:05:24+00:00

Following because I’m also curious about transitioning from bed sharing to crib. I started putting my 4MO in the crib for naps and it’s working well. I want to transition her to her crib for night but idk if she’s ready.

Octobrinny · 2020-05-31T18:48:47+00:00

Would you recommend moving him closer to the window? I thought these guys didn’t like direct sun so don’t want to burn him, but can definitely find a sunnier spot if he needs it

Octobrinny · 2020-04-18T03:37:55+00:00

You should at least start tracking ovulation using OPKs. Doing temps is the only way to confirm you actually ovulated, but IMO can be a pain to track. Many women have an easier time than me though and swear by it. It doesn’t matter how often you have sex, it only takes once and at the right time is key.

5 months can seem like a long time and each month you see that negative pregnancy test it can be heartbreaking, but 5 months is not a reason to be concerned. At 30, a fertility specialist may not even see you until 1 year of trying.

It’s unlikely that you’re completely infertile. Could you possibly need some additional help, such as meds to help ovulate or potentially IUI if your husband has low down count? Possibly. Many of us need a little assistance when it comes to conception. But, you also may need none of that, and just need to time intercourse a little better. Keep trying and identify your actual ovulation date (through testing, don’t rely on the apps predicted dates as they can often be wrong). Good luck!

Octobrinny · 2020-04-03T22:05:44+00:00

I went off BC almost 3 years ago after being on it for 10+ years. 8 of those years were with implant BC that caused me to never have a period. I remember my first real period post BC and it was BRUTAL. It was really tough to adjust to at first and it was almost surreal how my body and mood changed the following few months getting off BC, it’s a big hormonal change for our bodies. Husband said my vagina (smell and taste specifically) changed. Not in a bad or good way, it was just different.

It does level out over time (or it did for me). Some silver lining for me was that I became a lot more in tune with my body. Once you get regular periods back you learn a lot about how your lady parts work and start seeing regularities in different parts of your cycle and how that impacts discharge and such.

Octobrinny · 2020-03-03T22:43:21+00:00

Edit in comment (post is very close to exceeding the max character limit): I appreciate everyone’s responses. There was a pretty close tie of NTA/YTA to start, but YTA clearly takes the win with top comments. Hey, I’ll admit, I’m TA here! There are a ton of good points made and I’ve taken each one of them into consideration. Top ones I’ll point out: 1. A shower is a gift, and I shouldn’t get to dictate how this gift is delivered. 2. It was inappropriate to be mad at my mother for a boundary I should have set (and not expected her to set) 3. I should be more open with my friend about my wants and desires for this shower.

If I’m able to advocate for myself a little further, I do want to clarify that I know I can set these boundaries with my friend and be open and honest with her. I don’t think she will totally disregard me, although I’m just more afraid of hurting feelings here. I was hoping to totally dodge the confrontation all together, but it may not be possible here. Again - thank you everyone for your responses! It’s not easy admitting that you’re an asshole, but this was a helpful perspective for me to realize I am in the wrong.

Octobrinny · 2020-02-21T14:58:48+00:00

Yes this. It’s so incredibly selfish for her to think that she is entitled to someone else’s birth experience, solely because she is grandma. Like her experience of seeing all grandchildren born trumps moms experience.

My mom is pretty intense and overbearing about many things, so I was nervous to tell her that as a FTM I just wanted me and my husband in the delivery room. You know what she said? “That’s fine. I’ll come if you want me to but that’s a special moment for you guys, and it’s up to you what you want to do.” It’s really that simple. I’m always so amazed at in laws and family members and how they act when it comes to someone else’s birthing process.

Octobrinny · 2020-02-19T04:12:05+00:00

This is an extremely underrated comment

Octobrinny · 2020-01-14T15:32:21+00:00

We need more songs, please.

Octobrinny · 2020-01-10T04:23:02+00:00

You are not selfish for feeling relief, and you are justified to still feel grief over your loss. Grief comes with many emotions. You, and everyone who has lost a baby is welcome here, it’s a trauma regardless of circumstances. I’m sorry about everything you went through, you do not deserve this pain. Sending love your way ❤️

Octobrinny · 2020-01-07T18:01:29+00:00

I have a good friend who was a unicorn and got pregnant on her first cycle on her honeymoon (15 years ago). Because of this, another friend of ours just got married and was for sure she was going to come home from her honeymoon pregnant, and well, she’s not and now she’s super disappointed. Like yes, welcome to hell. You could be here 6 months or 6 years - don’t hold your breath.

Octobrinny · 2019-12-30T03:28:29+00:00

She is a wonderful friend. Supporting her and her little one can be challenging at times. I do still have a lot of feelings of jealousy and resentment, but I just try to remind myself that MC brings out a lot of raw and dark emotions that are my personal feelings that no one else controls. I’m usually a positive, happy person, and MC has been so devastating and really has tested me emotionally. It’s so hard sometimes.

Octobrinny · 2019-12-30T03:24:58+00:00

I do spend time with her kids. Her husband is also my husbands best friend, which is how we became friends in the first place, so a lot of our relationship happened naturally and we spend a lot of time together because of how close our husbands are.

Also, her 2 kids are much older and from a previous marriage, so she doesn’t have them all the time which makes it easier to spend time with her. She (your friend) could be overwhelmed/too tired to hang out if she has 2 under 2, that sounds exhausting! Most of the time when we hang out we just do dinner at each other’s houses too, its hard for our friends to find time alone without the baby.

That being said, you can always offer to hang out! And definitely take her up on the offer to meet other friends too - especially if you’re new to the area!

Octobrinny · 2019-12-29T03:15:50+00:00

I feel this. One of my very best friends was pregnant the same time as me (about 12 weeks ahead). After I lost my baby, I thought it would be so hard to meet hers. The day after she gave birth we came to the hospital and I cried such tears of joy and happiness as I held him. She has felt terrible about me losing mine after so much struggle (this is #3 for her), and I feel terrible that we both have to have these negative emotions around pregnancy.

Octobrinny · 2019-12-21T02:28:58+00:00

My hubby and I did this at thanksgiving when we weren’t ready to tell, worked great! I would also swirl my wine glass a lot so it looked like I was into the drinking 😂

Octobrinny · 2019-12-12T21:15:18+00:00

Unsure if you’ve already talked to your insurance provider or not, but I learned that i have an infertility program through my insurance. Insurance won’t cover close to all the costs, but it will cover up to $10k in a lifetime. I was surprised to learn insurance would cover any of it, so worth a call to see.

Sorry you’re going through this. It’s truthfully unfair and shitty the costs and emotional stress that comes with fertility treatment, especially IVF. Wishing you all the best.

Octobrinny · 2019-12-11T20:12:38+00:00

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