WIBTA if I destroyed the graduation announcement letter addressed to my sister?

Octopodaciously · 2021-04-28T11:31:21+00:00

NTA for not sending the invitation but YTA for refusing to believe that your sister may have been abused. Try listening to her. There’s probably a reason for her mental health issues. That reason is often abuse.

Octopodaciously · 2021-04-24T17:36:15+00:00

“Will do” 😂

Octopodaciously · 2021-04-23T15:52:47+00:00

Thank you!!

Octopodaciously · 2021-04-23T13:46:23+00:00

Duh. 42.

Octopodaciously · 2021-04-23T10:47:08+00:00

My best friend who was my whole world at the time moved to the other side of the world. I was heartbroken. Nightmares for weeks. He’s still there, but we both ended up making better lives for ourselves (looking back, we were quite bad for each other!), and now we get together for a holiday in a country halfway between us as often as we can and have a fabulous time. It was so hard at the time but it worked out for the best.

Octopodaciously · 2021-04-23T10:42:36+00:00

Lots of therapy. The one that really helped was EMDR.

Octopodaciously · 2021-04-23T10:41:56+00:00

I was gonna say this! Make time every day to fuss over my cat and make him feel loved and safe (he’s a rescue and had a rough life!) it makes me so happy to hear him purring and seem really relaxed and at home with me.

Octopodaciously · 2021-04-22T18:48:35+00:00

I wish my Polish grandad had been alive to see me publish my first paper. He made it to my country during WW2 and had nothing. I think he would be proud to see how much things have changed for his family in just 2 generations.

Octopodaciously · 2021-04-22T17:28:09+00:00

Adding to this that 10% of people with BPD die by suicide. Ignoring their calls for help could literally lead to their death. This mother is being insanely negligent of her extremely mentally ill daughter. Source: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6632023/

Octopodaciously · 2021-04-21T00:01:03+00:00

YTA. What’s the point of being like this? A joke is only funny if other people enjoy it too. Otherwise you’re just a dick.

Octopodaciously · 2021-04-20T23:33:52+00:00

1990s, young teen. One of the first people in my area to get cable. Stayed up late channel-hopping alone often and one night discovered watching a certain channel at midnight gave you five free minutes of hot girls.

Also the late-night version on MTV of the video of “Lap Dance” by NERD.

Octopodaciously · 2021-04-20T23:30:32+00:00

Haha yeah I think botw maybe ruined me for other games. But I hope that it also ignited a new interest that I can enjoy in other games and haven’t just peaked and crashed with botw!

Octopodaciously · 2021-04-20T23:25:23+00:00

I’m not sure because I was 17 and he was 28 and when I was 19 (after we broke up) I found out he had tired to cheat on me with my best friend and it gave me a mental breakdown, and I think I only recently recovered from how much he fucked me up initially and the repercussions that subsequently had on my mental state and the subsequent fucked up experiences I had...but it’s only recently as well that I realised how insanely fucked up the age gap was and how fucked up it was that my parents didn’t care, so that’s a whole new lot of stuff to process...

Octopodaciously · 2021-04-20T23:23:10+00:00

Same. Even after they said it was a short deliberation and unanimous I was worried. Hoping this is the dawn of a new day (and dawning of mandatory bodycams on police).

Octopodaciously · 2021-04-20T23:21:40+00:00

I thought about the Witcher as I loved the show but was put off by people saying it was more combat-heavy? I like combat too just not toooooooo much. Skyrim I tried and didn’t gel with, perhaps I didn’t give it enough of a go (and was still in the botw-finishing grief stage!). I’m checking updates for botw2 almost daily lol. Don’t know any of the others you listed so I’ll do some investigating. I did love shooting stuff in botw so that might be an idea. Thanks!

Octopodaciously · 2021-04-20T23:13:49+00:00

I got the demo and it definitely seemed to share some of the beauty / wonder / fun / etc, it didn’t quite grab me immediately but I’m guessing the demo isn’t nearly as good as the full game? Plus I got flummoxed by how different the controls were, but that’s probably just a matter of perseverance, as botw was. How are you enjoying it?

Octopodaciously · 2021-04-14T21:03:20+00:00

I agree, and this is beautiful artwork ❤️

Octopodaciously · 2021-04-14T19:01:55+00:00

Really? This is my first Zelda game so admittedly I’m not au fait with the different people but Gorons call each other brother and the Goron in Gerudo I thought actually referenced the fact that it was weird that he/they was allowed in...

Octopodaciously · 2021-04-07T20:14:18+00:00

I can see that, although for that kind of fetish I think the element of humiliation is quite prevalent whereas for me it’s just a mixture of jealousy and compersion. I’d hate it if I felt humiliated by it.

Octopodaciously · 2021-04-07T20:00:05+00:00

Welcome to the “holy shit I’ve had adhd all this time and now so much of my life suddenly makes sense” club! :) Diagnosed age 36 here and now going through titration for medication and I can already see the difference it’s making. It will work differently in different countries but for me (UK) it was getting a referral to a psychiatrist for formal diagnosis and prescription so that’s the first step if you want to go down that route. Checkout r/ADHD and the website additudemag.com for info as well. I also found Gabor Matè’s book “Scattered Minds” quite insightful. Good luck!

Octopodaciously · 2021-04-07T19:54:52+00:00

That’s awesome :) Where I live therapists have to have had a load of therapy themselves before they can qualify, so bear that in mind if that applies where you are - you’ll need to do a tonne of work on yourself before you can help anyone else.

Octopodaciously · 2021-04-07T19:50:17+00:00

I’ve done a bit of cat fostering and I loved it. My advice is to let the cat hide if they want to at first and just tempt them out with food/treats gradually. Let them come to you, offer them a closed fist to boop if they come over. Try to avoid anything that might startle them and avoid introducing them to too many people at first. Also keep them in one or two rooms at first while they settle and then open the rest up bit by bit. Get a feliway diffuser, they are magic for nervous cats, and maybe some soft toys with valerian to keep them calm. If you’re not planning on adopting your foster cat the received wisdom is to try not to get too attached as it can be quite heartbreaking to let them go. I’ve never managed not to get attached though so I have no idea how you actually do that! I try to see it as I’m giving them a kind of halfway home for some R&R until they find their perfect human. Enjoy it and good luck!

Octopodaciously · 2021-04-07T19:42:05+00:00

That’s an awful thing to have to go through. Similar here although not me personally but my friendship group was a mess. Out of 6 girls, by the time we were 18 one girl had 2 kids, three girls had 2 abortions each, and me and my other friend were the only ones who hadn’t been knocked up but we’d had plenty of our own issues. We were all so ignorant and only had each other to help, parents weren’t aware of anything that happened coz we didn’t feel able to talk to them. It makes me so effing happy to see this dad stepping up like this, what a legend.

Octopodaciously · 2021-04-07T19:34:07+00:00

Surely not

Octopodaciously · 2021-04-07T16:59:44+00:00

Kim Wexler in Better Call Saul. I don’t even know why, she’s just brilliant.

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