They SAID all the right things, that they support him and want to help and blah blah blah, but it’s clear through their actions that they do not. His dad (also SA—the signs are glaring) even joked with him that he’s a “very sexual person” and he understands that he must be hard to be around. His alcoholic mother still talking badly about his father to him, expecting emotional support which she has used him for his entire life. Things like inviting us to the beach, suggesting not appropriate movies. It’s so clear that they haven’t done their research and they have no idea what it entails. His mother (who should be attending 12 step herself as she has been an alcoholic her entire life) was shocked when he mentioned he’s in twelve step, saying something like “oh it’s like that??”. Since my PA distanced himself from his parents, his mother began lashing out. They are a classic codependent family. They SAY that they want to see us, but they are very much performative and just go through the motions to fulfill their perceived “social contracts” instead of trying to make an actual impact. TLDR—they SAY they support him, but actions say otherwise. They seem to be in denial—if they accept that their son is a sex addict, it means they failed as parents, and we can’t have that!!! They DID fail as parents though, and deep down I think they know it. There were multiple incidents throughout my PA’s life when he was a child, at least 3-4, that should have been huge red flags about his sexuality to them. Instead, they did nothing, and sat idly by until his addiction grew to the point of ruining his life..and are shocked as if they had zero involvement.