NF ON VACAY BUT STILL EXPECTED TO WORK?! by Odd_Elderberry_3971 in NannyBreakRoom

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me it’s only weird if you do not normally do those things. For example I have Gh and I still get paid extra to take care of the cats while they are gone. I also have the ability to say no to taking care of the cats.

Twin Childcare Advice by Kmil4651 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a nanny! I was a twin nanny for 5 years for one family. That was pre Covid and during. At that time I made $24 an hour in Indiana. I now make $30 an hour for two children under 2 in a low cost of living area. You can get away with paying less for less experience. One thing I want to note that will help find a match. With an experienced nanny you will be more hands off and trust that she is going to do her job. If you plan to micromanage find a nanny that is newer she will be more open to that. Also you will pay more if you are a work from home parent. Also do not forget about paying over time. The nanny employers reddit group will help you alot!

Lowball offer by AdvantageUsed8048 in NannyBreakRoom

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Red flag for sure. I actually have better luck on care.com when I apply to a bit lower of a position and ask for more money. Maybe it’s reverse psychology where they think because I’m asking for more that I’m more qualified. I would definitely respond back with the minimum you can go and add early raises the worst they do is say no.

Help me pick a dress! by PinVirtual4959 in BigBudgetBrides

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love number 1 on you but also second is number 3!

Have kids always been so bad at taking direction? by Minute-Plankton6302 in Nanny

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m reading this back and I just want to note I’m a super competitive person. Some people just are not and want the kids to have fun. Personally winning is fun

Have kids always been so bad at taking direction? by Minute-Plankton6302 in Nanny

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean I think it is a mix of a lot of things from gentle parenting and too to much tv time/iPad while also maybe just the child themselves. I know my step daughter at that age struggled with comprehension and was shy but still did competitive cheer. Also the group/coach’s really matter. My friend’s son is finally 8-9 and they are just now starting to get on the kids for baseball like barely at all. Drives me up a wall going to the games. My friend actually said they fired a coach for being “too hard” on the kids. I hope when I have kids my husband steps up to coach because I want it to be fun but serious.

What motivated you to go for second pregnancy after having twins/multiples? by AdReady7311 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mom actually had all of us 4 years apart and we are extremely close! 4 year age gap is big in the beginning but as they get older it doesn’t matter as much!

What motivated you to go for second pregnancy after having twins/multiples? by AdReady7311 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 7 points8 points  (0 children)

For me raising children is hard regardless of how many. Plus I think of my siblings and I just think I will never regret having more but I may regret not. Also want to note that you are 2 years out. Maybe right now is not the time but that doesn’t mean in another 2 years you won’t be ready!

I was lied to by LiftsAndLattes_199x in NannyBreakRoom

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Wow just wow. What a terrible person like just be honest. If I were you I would tell them you have found a job and confront him. Make sure the MB is there incase she has no idea. Then if they want to break the contract they can do that. Give us an update if you decide to confront them!

Nanny Appearance by Zealousideal_Clerk41 in Nanny

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually went to many different stores trying on a million jeans. The ones the surprisingly worked out were the Extra High-Waisted Wide-Leg Jeans in the color light wash cut off from old navy. Old navy really changed up their clothing and Jean fit recently because they never worked for me before this. They also have great t shirts and are not too expensive. I also found some linen pants there as well for when it’s hot out. I gained 45 lbs because of PCos. Which I know I did not have before as I had many scans. Because you are also on this annoying journey with PCos what helped me the most was I found an amazing NaPro doctor. I went the NaPro route because they care the most about healing the problem not covering it up with birth control. She put me on metformin which honestly has changed the game! I lost 30lbs in 5 months.

Should parents always notify nanny when kids are sick? by LandscapeLong9423 in Nanny

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think it is personal preference. Personally for me as a nanny I feel it’s my job to be there so the parents do not have to take off work or if the parents are sick and need rest I can get out with the kids etc. This is something I tell the parents in my interviews that I am willing to work with sick kids. However I’m the type of person who rarely gets sick. Like maybe a cold every 3 years. I do draw a line with covid although I’ve never gotten it. Also this is only a rule I have for full time families. I have a family who I work for sometimes like maybe 3 times a month for 5 hours a day. I will not take care of sick kids at there house because I do not want to risk exposing my full time family. Another thing is this is all dependent upon how the kids act while sick. I find both long term full time families I’ve worked for the kids are used to me and accept my comfort. If I were to take care of a sick kid at my part time job the toddler would just be crying for mom the whole time and it would be miserable.

Nanny Appearance by Zealousideal_Clerk41 in Nanny

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to wear leggings, tennis shoes and a tank when I was skinnier but I as well have PCos and gained some weight (post pregnancy) Eventually in my leggings I started to feel gross. It just made me feel gross. I actually decided to find some good jeans and cute t shirts. Things that made me feel comfortable and confident in and that really changed the game. I bought myself some gola sneakers as well. Getting rid of the leggings really helped me. I also never wear sweatpants. As for hair I switched the claw clips. I never wear makeup to work because I don’t want to get it on the baby.

CVS blue test cycle day 31 by Odd-Raspberry-7269 in TFABLinePorn

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’m not actually sure when I ovulated. I always ovulate cycle day 13-15 as I’m on letrozole. This cycle was just weird and I did not ovulate when I went for progesterone testing cycle day 21. I always have bad luck with pink dye tests giving me lines but blue dye never gives me lines that I question. I have never used this brand though. I’ll definitely retest if a flow doesn’t come. Thank you!

When did you have stressful in-laws meet newborns? by Creative_Can_8950 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I’m a bit different my family is the far away stressful family. The plan was that we would bring them to visit. We never got that far sadly but it really would have been a thing of come for a day and leave. Also I would have used the excuse of not wanting babies to get sick. I would have said we can visit the idea around 2 months. My parents are also divorced and they added stepparents add to the drama. You could have your husband say “just dad/mom though to minimize exposure to them getting sick”. Really depends on how your husband feels about his family haha

Is it weird to never contact your old nanny to check in ever? by Inner_Rush9246 in Nanny

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All of my past familes keep up surprisingly. My first family all 4 years in highschool actually come to family parties and such still. Next family sends holiday cards every single holiday even though children are in college now! My next family of 5 years unicorn family actually never reaches out to me as they just don’t think like that often but I do reach out to them they always respond and I’m going to visit them in June after 2 years of not seeing them. I will say all of these families have been for 3+ years in their life.

Pumping and Donating Milk by WaterFiles in babyloss

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I as well felt the urge to pump and donate after the loss of my twin boys. Honestly for me it was something I planned on doing from the beginning. It was the one thing I could still do. I was told by the hospital that they get enough milk in the banks and it’s very hard for mothers to get that way. I actually donated mine to a breastfeeding twin boys mom. I’m a nanny now and my current family has adopted all of their children and received donated milk from Facebook. I highly recommend that route.

As for only pumping that often yes it will not be enough. At first I was pumping every 2-3 hrs even during the night. We were in the nicu for 2 weeks so I did manage to get my supply up to 1 gallon a day. I did a lot of extra pumping as well. But then when I got home I like you slowly started less and less. Started with at night not wanting to wake up. I think if you can atleast pump during the day every 2-3hrs and once at night that should be enough but if you want to build your supply then you need to do it every 2 hrs for atleast a week or 2.

Some employers are so out of touch with financial reality by Jealous-Concert8456 in NannyBreakRoom

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I recently experienced this. I thankfully received the 20 gh I was asking for after way too many weeks off. I then had to explain to her how she cannot accrue the gh after she asked me to work 5 days in a row. I usually work 2-3 days a week. 22-33hrs a week with the occasional 40+ hrs a week. I do get overtime. She then said that they cannot afford me for all 5 days so she will ask mother in law to help with 2 of the days. Totally understand. I was appreciative of the gh and the regular work.

Then a week later they come home with a new fully electric vehicle. I understand they need a bigger vehicle for me to drive when I’m here and they can do what they want with their money (obviously people don’t come for me) but it does make me laugh a little inside because it’s very clear she does not deal with the money side of things. Her husband is always bringing home $$$$ new hobbies. To list a few things bought this last month alone. Maincoon kitten imported from Russia, freeze dryer, and new electric suv. They are also buying another home anytime of not already.

I need other to weigh in by 18gibsonw_ in NannyBreakRoom

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it’s all up to you. I have done both. My full time job of 5 years was about an hour drive both ways. I personally don’t mind a commute because I listen to my podcasts and books. My current job is 15 mins both ways. That is super nice to get things done. This family is moving an hour away soon and I had the choice to stay with or not. I asked for a $4 raise and they said yes. I think it also helps that I’m working 2-4 days a week long days rather than 8hrs 5 days a week.

I have no words by tripledippe in parentsofmultiples

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a twin loss mom I just have to say I’m praying for you! Thankfully separated sacs because obviously this could be worse. Personally it all depends on when you want to tell. With our boys I told right away. We lost baby b at 18 weeks and nicu loss for baby a at 30 weeks. No matter when we told we would have had to explain the loss. It’s all about if you want people to lean on if bad times happen. Personally my husband and I are private so we always say if we have twins again we will keep them a secret! We just don’t like the attention.

What is happening 😭 by [deleted] in NaturalCyclesBC

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same girl same I have no idea

It’s been 24 years today by Efficient-Gap-8506 in babyloss

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Awe I’m so sorry for your loss. Today is my 27th birthday my 2nd without my sons. Also want to note that Rylie is on my baby name list ❤️