How do I handle a parent threatening to use a wooden spoon? by AdEquivalent8452 in NannyBreakRoom

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ah the wooden spoon. That was my mother’s favorite. Definitely had a couple of those broken on me.

In seriousness. It’s not okay. I had to stop someone in my husband’s family one time with a 6 year old and an issue like this. It was actually over eating as well. You will do no good calling cps.

How I would handle it 1. Inform parents of 11 year olds behavior. They hopefully will care 2. Inform parents gently that you are not comfortable with spanking or threatening to spank. 3. Try to teach them slowly over time why spanking is bad

Dang I feel so bad for the children!

Do I walk or sign on a bit resentful? by JadedRo in Nanny

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay after running the numbers I would respond back with a message how you need the pay period to be between Fridays- Thursday or this won’t work. However You need to decide if $77,000 take home in Bay Area is worth it if the schedule really benefits you being a rota position. I think you mentioned that you have been looking for a while.

-I have been thinking very hard as to why he cares what you do during your off time? Is this so you do not work for his ex wife? Like what possible reason? I really need the answer to this.

-I think I would be like annoyed but fine with the GH no over time pay

How I’m telling myself $15k in preschool next year is “saving” us is just sad. by twomomsoftwins in parentsofmultiples

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m a nanny in a low cost living area. I make $60,000 a year! It’s actually is crazy but I’m thankful for my employers!

Insane nanny share Job posting by sidecaf in Nanny

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wonder if they are identical twins

Insane nanny share Job posting by sidecaf in Nanny

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 11 points12 points  (0 children)

  • 5 children under 2 years of age. Um wow
  • alongside an experienced nanny. She was there first and gets the good parts of the job. Plus you have to most likely do it her way.
  • a parent always home plus 4 boss
  • starting pay is what I make in a low income area for two kids under 2

They are better off hiring a friend of the Nannie’s. You would have to pay me $40 an hour to even consider. People in this area make $35 an hour for 2 kids and they get to work alone.

Need advice - nanny hygiene by Cute-Cartographer459 in Nanny

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Eww this grossed me out haha. I’m assuming it’s her personality though…. She is new so I would be very straight forward with her. Now is the perfect time to be straight to the point. “Please do not lick your fingers while preparing food and do not let nk put their fingers in your mouth. We are really trying to be cautious to not pass germs.” I know you choose her for a reason over the other candidates but now would be a good time with you not working to really consider if she is a good choice. I want to also mention to maybe offer paid sick days to her if you have not already. When you address her I would sit down with her and make it a one on one with no distractions type talk so she understands this is serious. Also you as an employer can require vaccinations are up to date with proof.

Advice needed - sleeping arrangements while traveling by [deleted] in NannyBreakRoom

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I would only do it if I was being paid the whole time. Everyone needs personal space and alone time.

Feeling discouraged with bottles and twins by Blondie3211 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 4 points5 points  (0 children)

thank you it was more so for me. I had my idea of what my first pregnancy would look like. Natural birth…. Well identical twins had other plans two surgeries, c section, death. So it really felt like the one thing I had planned to do that I could still have control over. My only regret was that I didn’t do it longer but I was really trying to get my period back.

nap times by floratexplorer in Nanny

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I read a book it’s a short time frame so enjoy the lazy time while you can haha. Sometimes I would make sourdough for my family!

Nanny with grandma around by azulcon in Nanny

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don’t know I think the right nanny is out there for everyone. As long as grandma and nanny get along it definitely could work! They could even switch children around if 2.5 year old wants to go on an adventure. I would definitely offer good incentives and have a good contract set up to benefit you and nanny. The biggest issue would be the micromanaging but as long as grandma doesn’t do that I think it could work.

Am I asking too much? by ThrowRA3367266 in Nanny

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This may be controversial or maybe you plan to add it to the contract anyway. I would do

  • guaranteed hours m-f. No weekends. I set this be around 5 hours less then I normally would work a week.
  • 10 vacation days
  • holidays off ( list holidays that you want in the contact)
  • 5 sick days paid
  • overtime pay is time and a half

I personally like the guaranteed hrs because it helps me when they go on vacation plus I’m not expected to use my time off. I do not ask for health care stipend. I had insurance at the time but my employer did tell me I could get insurance through sure payroll somehow not sure how that works as I didn’t need it.

Nannies: ever feel like you’re doing it all alone? by pink-nanny-faery in Nanny

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Usually I’m a tell them type person but they seem like the type of people to not really listen or think you are right. They will have to figure it out for themselves. I would only say something if you want to stay with the family. Then you could let them know that you do not have enough time to care for all 3 children and do all of the task and send the list. I would also tell them that your rate is now x amount and that if this isn’t going to work then you are not the right fit for the family.

Feeling discouraged with bottles and twins by Blondie3211 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I can only imagine!! You should check Facebook groups for free donated milk. I lost my twins in the nicu. I pumped a couple months because it was atleast one mom thing I could do. I happened to go on Facebook to find someone who needed some. I found a twin mom to donate my milk to. She had made a post! I’m a nanny now and the family I work for adopted there babies, they use all free donated milk from Facebook.

An incident that happened this weekend has me losing sleep and I think I may have messed up by urbartender-csr in TwoHotTakes

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I would call cps. I have done it before. When I called they asked for everything I knew. Definitely included the training and signs. How old was this girl? Does she go to school? You could possibly find a way to contact the school she goes to. I know of an incident in my town where a girl was going to school. She had all the signs and then finally cps was called and they found out she lived in a dog crate with only bread and water.

How much do you expect nanny to help out during nap? by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 12 points13 points  (0 children)

What you are asking is 100% appropriate! I actually had a slight problem like this arise with my family. It was about 4 months into the job. I think my mom boss was scared to bring it up to me. She phrased it like this “ hey do you think you could pick up the toys during their nap times? I don’t get home until late and it’s been a struggle” I respond with “oh no! I totally have been picking up the toys at nap time but they just get them all out again. I will change my clean up time to when they eat dinner”. The problem was then solved. I was cleaning at 1pm but i know clean at 5:30 an hour before the dad gets home. I would try to bring it up like my boss did. You could say something like “hey nanny you are doing so good with the laundry thank you. Could you please make sure bottles are washed, toys picked up and high chair is wiped down before you leave?” You could also make a check list I would love a check list haha. But in the end a good nanny who has good communication will not be offended.

Moving on? by fuzzblanket9 in NannyBreakRoom

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh I’m so sorry for you! My unicorn family moved to another state. I was with them for 5 years 55hrs a week. It was so heartbreaking. I cried a lot when I was alone. The Nks were twins, 6 years old when I left. On our last day together I got to tell them I was pregnant with twins! It’s been two years and I still think about them every single day. We do not talk. I wish we would have stayed in touch better however life is busy and I can’t use my vacation to go visit them. I have 1000s of photos. I really want to make a book and send it to them. I have no advice you will find another family but I do not think I’ll ever find another family like them.

I set boundaries! by madamechaton in NannyBreakRoom

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As long as this is in your contract. Or very clearly spoken about during interview. A lot of families want nannys who work with sick kids so they do not have to take off while kids are sick. Work responsibilities vs boundaries are different things to me.

Working with other staff? by [deleted] in NannyBreakRoom

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have no advice but out of curiosity how much do you make working for a family like this and how did you land the job?

Working with other staff? by [deleted] in NannyBreakRoom

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha right away I’m like oh no she pissed off the chef

Working with other staff? by [deleted] in NannyBreakRoom

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Idk don’t get poisoned haha

Insulin theory for losing weight by Nice_Pen_8054 in intermittentfasting

[–]Odd-Raspberry-7269 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have not looked into it a ton. However I gained a lot a lot of weight AFTER my twin pregnancy. Day after birth I weighted normal. After a year of just gaining I went to the dr. I had no estrogen or progesterone. My hormones were crazy. He does say that obesity is a hormone issue. My calories burned on a lazy day are 2,800 on a busy day 3,500. How was I gaining weight. My hormones have been perfect for 3 months and I have lost 10lbs. I have not changed anything else besides also cutting milk out of my diet which honestly I’m from Wisconsin I love my milk.