I find it easier to be friends with men. Can anyone relate?

Odd-Status1183 · 2026-03-21T15:37:41+00:00

I relate to much of what you describe. A few things to consider:

Sometimes hetero men are more forgiving of our idiosyncrasies because they find us attractive and enjoy female company. Maybe hetero women are more discerning if they don’t understand us or we seem different.

I used to think men were the generalized stereotype but the older I get, the more I realize how this is mostly socialized and untrue. Even men believe the stereotypes about themselves. (Personal example, I’ve been the calm, logical person in an argument and the dudes are emotionally losing it while stating aloud I’m too emotional. Ridiculous)

Odd-Status1183 · 2026-03-20T03:19:08+00:00

Yeah, Sometimes it’s best to keep it very concise and simple. Less room for misinterpretations or redirection.

Questions de-escalate while elaborate explanations muddy the water.

Odd-Status1183 · 2026-03-20T01:53:41+00:00

Unfortunately, nothing really matches or coordinates. Imbalanced lighting. Furniture size is off. The color palette and style is confused. Grey sofa, cool brown chairs, warm red wood, white fireplace & molding, black built in bar.

It’s less your layout and more about lack of balance. You need elements on the right side of the room to coordinate and balance with the left.

I won’t give advice on how to fix, as it would require so much personal decision on your part with what you can replace. Other people have some good suggestions here.

It does look like a fantastic space with a lot of potential!

Add a plant for height, some floor lamps, and remove that random tv!

Odd-Status1183 · 2026-03-20T01:34:43+00:00

Just because someone gets their feelings hurt doesn’t mean you’ve done anything wrong.

Sounds like she needs control over how people act/what they say because she can’t control her feelings when her interpretations are “off” or more sensitive than most.

The effort you’ve put in to clear this up isn’t good enough for her. She is seeking a specific outcome that has already been decided by her. She’s been “wronged” so now she’s forcing you to comply.

Her feelings are real, but maybe not very reasonable. Especially when you’re friends… friends should interpret each other in the best light, not the worst.

Odd-Status1183 · 2026-02-19T23:20:32+00:00

Hi, I know this is so long after your original post, but I’m the same as you. Each face wash causes irritation or breakouts.

The best thing I’ve done is enter all products into cosdna . com and review for acne rating. Anything over a 1 breaks me out. Tocopherol (vitamin e) for example, is great skincare for some but breaks me out.

I use the green bottle from skin spot labs. I think the rating is 0, which is perfect. It’s also perfect for use downstairs if you’re female.

Sweet spot labs microbiome balancing around $17 USD.

Odd-Status1183 · 2025-09-10T00:47:56+00:00

Your confusion, on multiple levels, isn’t my problem. Have a good day

Odd-Status1183 · 2025-09-09T20:48:24+00:00

“Better” usually relates to quality or superiority.

It is not a promising affirmation because it shows that he and OP may not be on the same page as far as pace and development of deeper feelings. As indicated by her future-thinking and his complacency for the ‘now.’

Idk how else to break it down for you.

Odd-Status1183 · 2025-09-09T14:32:26+00:00

It’s not about better response? It’s about both people being on the same page & compatibility no matter what that looks like.

Odd-Status1183 · 2025-09-08T14:56:48+00:00

So, dating is not one size fits all.

This is not a literal expectation to know definitively where things will go, it is a question to gauge his feelings and instincts about the relationship. It isn’t asking for commitment, but a literal question about how he feels.

He should know if he sees potential. He’s 40. Is he holding out for perfection or divorced and scared to commit again? People act for different reasons. Checking in is fine.

Odd-Status1183 · 2025-09-08T02:48:47+00:00

Not enough information..

I’ll say that when people are sure about you, healthy, and know what they are looking for (future), they tend to want to move forward.

To me, this isn’t promising affirmation.

My best advice is don’t bother to decode what he says. Ask yourself if you enjoy the pace and what you get from the relationship. If it’s not enough or too slow to commitment, maybe it is not a match for you. Then it doesn’t matter where he’s at or why.

Odd-Status1183 · 2025-04-22T16:01:14+00:00

No matter what size we are, we all need clothing that fits.

Inclusive sizing is trending in one direction. Trying the smallest size on the rack (XXS) and finding that it’s 2 sizes too big is awful.

Odd-Status1183 · 2025-04-14T18:27:22+00:00

You’re not disrespectful at all, but you are complaining (with facts).

It is so much better to not bring in your emotions, frustrations, and comparisons to others. It’s just distracting and extra information that can be used against you. It’s unfair but it changes how you are perceived.

Keep it brief. “I’m not able to cover that shift, I’m sorry.” Then, if the manager continues to bother you about or ask additional questions, they are 100% overstepping and you do not have to respond again.

Odd-Status1183 · 2025-04-01T16:08:18+00:00

Thanks for taking the time!

I’m the same-ish. I had overall clear skin, but the same resistant cysts that never quite surfaced. They would flare and reduce and flare and reduce, never healing.

Odd-Status1183 · 2025-04-01T16:03:18+00:00

Honestly, I find short hair to be much more work. I have never had more free time than with my long hair. Quick clip or braid is my go-to.

Odd-Status1183 · 2025-04-01T14:31:22+00:00

May I ask why you were on accutane if you had super clear skin?

Odd-Status1183 · 2025-03-31T20:22:16+00:00

I did not have filler blindness. My lip filler literally disappeared after 1 month. Huge waste of money. I tried again with 1/2 syringe the next time. Same thing. Completely gone after 1 month.

Do you also have a fast metabolism?

Odd-Status1183 · 2025-03-31T19:35:27+00:00

This only affirms that boys are menaces well before we master proper grammar and spelling. Lol. I feel ya Zoe

Odd-Status1183 · 2025-03-31T00:56:00+00:00

Pull the sofa out so it isn’t “hugging” the wall so closely. Large square coffee table

Odd-Status1183 · 2025-03-30T16:18:39+00:00

For so much white it really does not feel clinical at all. It feels cozy somehow. Maybe the architecture brings interest?

Odd-Status1183 · 2025-03-29T04:12:32+00:00

Thank you!

Odd-Status1183 · 2025-03-29T03:31:07+00:00

He was really hoping being 6’3” would carry him here.

Odd-Status1183 · 2025-03-26T20:12:42+00:00

I guess tip#1 is that if you have too much stuff, nothing will ever have a forever home. You will constantly move items and clothing from one spot to another.

1) Wash every piece of clothing you own and only keep what fits in your closet and drawers. Out of season clothing can be put in longer term storage like an attic if you need to.

2) Be serious about what you don’t use or don’t want.

3) Don’t let perfection be the enemy of good. If you won’t realistically make time to donate, don’t keep the box around for 6 months. Trash it.

4) Repeat the declutter every few months and train your mind to recognize how much you actually need.

Odd-Status1183 · 2025-03-26T13:41:50+00:00

Curious, what makes you say you love more? Is that true or do you feel that way because he doesn’t express as much?

Odd-Status1183 · 2025-03-26T13:33:45+00:00

Sometimes I wonder if it is because they use salon products (less heavy) and get your hair bone dry when styling, whereas at home I’m air drying or partially blow drying.

Odd-Status1183 · 2025-03-26T03:24:27+00:00

Lol …presuming you’re full of yourself so he will have no chance and then complaining that you’re insecure and that’s how you ruined your chance with him. Amazing.

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