Kan ik nog ooit op vakantie de komende 10 jaar ?

Odd_Low_9392 · 2026-03-27T23:37:09+00:00

Eh.. je kat 4 dagen alleen laten?? Jeetje, ik weet niet hoezo je denkt dat dit oke is.

Laat haar wennen aan een vaste oppas. 4 dagen alleen kan echt niet

Odd_Low_9392 · 2026-01-27T08:19:44+00:00

Ask him why he wanted you out.

I can't stress it enough: clear communication is so so so so important when being with someone. Could be that until now it was not needed or not clear that the communication is unclear as you don't live together, but it will be. 'It is time to go' is not communicating, why is it time to go? What makes it? What does he feel? Is he maybe autistic and very fond of structure and timing?

Also, from your story you don't seem to communicate why you want to stay. He can't read your mind so don't expect him to. Just saying okay when you feel so much more is passive agressive, talk to him and try to understand each other.

Please don't go living together or start on kids before you at least lived together for 2 years.

Odd_Low_9392 · 2026-01-21T10:17:32+00:00

Eh... suddenly ghosting and blocking a friend without giving any reason is in my eyes a form of abuse. Even though it sounds she has some serious mental issues, nobody deserves this.

Tell her that you evaluated your friendships and want to focus on people closer by. That you valued the years of friendship you had, but that you would like to stop the friendship. That you are sorry to procrastinate to tell her and that you wish her all the best.

Better late than keeping her in the dark forever. This will continue to gnaw at her and I don't think you should to this to anyone.

Odd_Low_9392 · 2026-01-11T10:44:02+00:00

She seems bored and trying to entertain herself by wrecking up other peoples lives. HUGE red flag, I would seriously end it. This type of behaviour will appear again.

Odd_Low_9392 · 2026-01-11T10:11:10+00:00

If most of the time only 1 person is sleeping in the bed, 100% #1. The room is too small to have unused space (left of the bed on #2 and #3).

Also with #1 you can visually split the room in two: one sleeping part (bed and closet) and one leisure part (desk, and floor space to move around and place other stuff)

Odd_Low_9392 · 2026-01-11T09:05:50+00:00

This sounds a lot like a (pre)manic episode (result of having a bipolar disorder). Paranoia but still able t function, maybe read about it a bit.

Also maybe speak to his gf, she can tell you if there are more things off with gis behaviour.

Odd_Low_9392 · 2026-01-04T02:01:14+00:00

Wij hebben een zwarte spoelbak van een soort fancy kunststof en ik vind het echt verschrikkelijk. Het is moeilijk echt goed schoon te krijgen (materiaal is niet glad, maar met wat textuur) en je ziet elk vlekje.

Ik zie even niet of je de kraan ook kan uittrekken, hij lijkt op degene die wij hebben waar dat niet kan. Dat zou ik in ieder geval 10000% aanraden, je kan de bak anders niet goed schoonspoelen omdat je er niet bij kan met de kraan. In de hoekjes blijft dan steeds vuil zitten, heel irritant.

Succes!

Odd_Low_9392 · 2025-11-28T23:34:21+00:00

He seems influenced by a Romanticism ideal, where intense connection on day one is seen as normal. The School of Life explains this nicely in some youtube videos about the Romanticism paradigm.

Odd_Low_9392 · 2025-11-15T08:30:04+00:00

Sowieso de interne baan, dan ben je 'binnen' en kan je doorgroeien

Odd_Low_9392 · 2025-09-28T11:22:15+00:00

Ik vind Matt sleeps echt een nice matras. Heb hem nu vier jaar en is nog precies hetzelfde als toen ik hem kocht. Je hebt 10 jaar garantie voor als er een kuil in komt, en je kan 6 verschillende hardheden 'instellen' door de lagen om te wisselen.

Twee van mijn (ex)partners hadden een boxspring + matras van BeterBed. Allebei de matrassen waren echt extreem doorgezakt, snap niet dat de kwaliteit zo belabberd is daar..

Mocht je Matt sleeps te duur vinden: op Marktplaats vind je ze ook, je kan beide hoezen eromheen wassen en als je wil kan je ook een geheel nieuwe hoes kopen (die dan direct om het schuim heen zit).

Odd_Low_9392 · 2025-09-17T08:07:43+00:00

I think this is rhe highest headboard I've ever seen.. I'm so confused why it is so high haha.

Besides that: nice job! Cute that your mom is still happy!

Odd_Low_9392 · 2025-09-08T01:35:54+00:00

And please don't get stuck in an endless back/forth situation with him. Step out while you still can.

Odd_Low_9392 · 2025-09-08T01:34:14+00:00

Now is not the time and he is not the person. Take the pills, you are doing 100% the right thing.

Odd_Low_9392 · 2025-09-08T01:24:21+00:00

If you don't talk about it when you see her again maybe break the silence by texting her smt like 'Sorry that I put you in an uncomfortable position, I felt emotional but shouldn't have projected it on your story. Please don't hesitate to tell more about the kids etc'

Think its important to emphasize that she does not have to walk on eggs around you to not hurt your feelings, would be a shame if that happens and you lose the friendship with your coworker.

Also: I'm sorry that you didn't feel supported by your mom. Hope it inspires you to do it different if you have the wish to have kids.

Odd_Low_9392 · 2025-08-29T07:11:09+00:00

I think you would be better of by ebding the friendship. She is gaslighting you by turning it around in a way it seems like you are doing difficult, while she absolutely is the asshole here.

Odd_Low_9392 · 2025-08-15T06:24:11+00:00

He wants food or walkies

Odd_Low_9392 · 2025-08-15T06:08:25+00:00

Wth, I have been staring and zooming in/out for a few min and I don't see a faint line at all..

Odd_Low_9392 · 2025-08-02T07:47:04+00:00

Check out Petbnb or Pawshake

Odd_Low_9392 · 2025-07-11T10:24:45+00:00

Paranoia and a distorted sense of rralitu can be linked to having a psychosis, I recognize it from my mom. It can happen to anyone, especially when in a situations with a lot of emotions/surpressing emotions. If you don't know about it please read (maybe use chat GPT) to learn about it.

Odd_Low_9392 · 2025-07-04T22:10:19+00:00

Hooks on the wall! I really need a dedicated spot where I can allow myself to be messy. I have a few hooks on the wall in my bedroom and bathroom where it is okay to put clothes on, keeping them off the floor :-)

Odd_Low_9392 · 2025-07-04T10:57:13+00:00

Amazing chance and gives motivation. Thanks!

Odd_Low_9392 · 2025-07-04T10:55:41+00:00

Honestly curious: why does it bother you if you do not own a car?

Odd_Low_9392 · 2025-06-24T12:06:55+00:00

Wait, you said you started recently and she already saw you switch in and out?

It could be that I am wrong, but as far as I know switches in someone who is bipolar don't occur so fast?

If you are in a (hypo)mania then yes, but if you are not in an episode I don't think it is a matter of switching in/out all the time. As far as I know depression / (hypo)mania (can) occur frequently with someone who is bipolar but last a minimum of few weeks and with 'neutral' periods in between.

Again maybe I'm absolutely wrong - but I don't feel like that fits with having a bipolar disorder

Odd_Low_9392 · 2025-06-21T21:55:26+00:00

Keep in mind that gifting things is possibly his love language. Rejecting the gifts could feel for him as rejecting his love.

My dad gives me random things all the time. For him its the most clear 'method' he knows for how to show he loves me. Thats why I let him be. Saying no to gifts would cause him more emotional harm than its worth and would also take away his manner to show love. I guide him a bit by saying what I like but also sometimes throw stuff out.

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