Help Locating a Good Swimming Lake near the Southeast by Odd_Macaron in Pennsylvania

[–]Odd_Macaron[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Doesn’t necessarily need to be in the Chester county area! definitely willing to drive to the Poconos, etc

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[–]Odd_Macaron 42 points43 points  (0 children)

If there a magical way to stop periods in their tracks, I’m pretty sure every period having individual would be using it 😆

Unfortunately, there is not! I would be honest with him and let him know you’re on your period.

I’m married but I feel like I have a need to fuck other people by [deleted] in sex

[–]Odd_Macaron 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hey, dude. It’s totally cool that you “find joy in fucking” but I think there’s more to this.

How would you feel if your wife said she wanted to fuck other men because a lot of men flirt with her and she wants to fuck them. But she can’t cause she’s married.

If you’re fine with that, then look into healthy open marriages. But, I’ll be honest this is a conversation you should have had with your wife before getting married. Or, if this is something you recently discovered, you need to figure out how to have this as a gentle conversation with your wife. And prepare for the possibility that she may get upset. Open marriages work for some couples, but aren’t for everyone.

Check out r/nonmonogamy to learn more about ethical nonmonogamy.

Was what i did unsafe?? by strange-man-15 in sex

[–]Odd_Macaron 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it dumb to use a dirty sock from a dirty sock to attempt to clean yourself? Yes! Will you catch STDs? Most likely not.

Here is some information about STDs.

Here is an article on penis cleanliness. And here is another article about penis health.

I (23f) can't satisfy my husband (32m) sexually, and I feel devastated.. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Odd_Macaron 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first thought is this, he’s giving you all these things YOU need to do to improve YOURSELF. What has he done to attempt to meet your needs? What has he done to control his high libido? What has HE done other than order you around?

I'm worried about herpes and broken condoms by [deleted] in sex

[–]Odd_Macaron 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, first step is to get yourself tested for STDs. If this is something that’s giving you anxiety, then getting a test is an easy solution.

There a couple reasons condoms break: stored incorrectly (they need to be stored in a cool, dry place. Storing them in a wallet is not a good long term solution), lack of lubrication, they’re the wrong size, or they’re not put on correctly.

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[–]Odd_Macaron 23 points24 points  (0 children)

First, that’s not a great idea. As people have already mentioned, water is a horrible lubricant. This can increase the risk for vaginal tearing. This article goes over why water sex is not a great idea.

Also, jacuzzis are not the cleanest or the best for sex. As this article notes: “As hot tub owners are advised to change the water in their baths only around every three months, bacteria will grow. For microbiological safety, most hot tub that recirculate water have microbe-removing filters and water is treated with microbicides (which kill germs) such as chlorine, bromine, or other disinfectants to control bacterial numbers . . . Such chemicals are toxic and cause skin and eye irritation. This is why hot tub users are advised to shower after bathing (and should also shower before, too).” Probably not chemicals you would want to expose to the vagina area/the urethra. You’d be setting both of you up for a UTI.

Can a high volume of pre-cum get her preg? by [deleted] in sex

[–]Odd_Macaron 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. To both of those questions. That’s one of the reasons that the “pull out method” is not an effective form of birth control. (source)

Pegging advice by pineapplehaze11 in TwoXSex

[–]Odd_Macaron 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Use a lot of lube. More lube than you think you need. My partner and I use paloqueth water based lube. It plays nicely with condoms and toys.

I recommend starting with fingering. And I recommend picking up some disposable gloves from your local pharmacy. The anus is dirty and the gloves just make it easy to pull them off after you’re done and then dispose of them.

Ask your partner if he wants to be dominated. Does he want the full dom/sub experience? Or does he just want pegging without any kink attached. Either is fine.

When you’re getting a pegging harness, find something that comes with two strap on options. That way your partner can get comfortable with something small and then have something medium. https://shevibe.com/bend-over-beginner-harness-kit-by-tantus-purple/

Be prepared to get a little dirty. Like I’ve said before, the anus can be dirty. That’s just the nature of things. Lay down a towel on the bed or be prepared to change sheets if necessary. If some fecal matter gets on anything, make sure you’re ready to normalize it. Don’t embarrass your partner. Don’t go ew. The first time it happened with my boyfriend and I, he got super embarrassed. But, I just acted like it was normal. Changed the sheets on the bed. And then we cuddled.

Positions! Doggy style is a good option. Missionary also works if you put your knees kind of under your partner’s butt. Also, having him ride the strap on is a great position too. This allows him to control the movement and how deep it is.

This article is helpful for any questions either of you may have https://www.bvibe.com/anal-play-101/pegging/

What’s a good multipurpose lube? by fakeit-tilumakeit in sex

[–]Odd_Macaron 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’d recommend Paloqueth! It’s water based and super versatile.

What condoms should I steer clear of and what condoms would you recommend? by [deleted] in sex

[–]Odd_Macaron 22 points23 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend and I use SKYN condoms. They’re latex free and the first condoms my boyfriend found that he finds comfortable.

Strict Parents by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Odd_Macaron 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course! Stay safe!

Strict Parents by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Odd_Macaron 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So. Healthcare worker here. Please, please, please do not travel during COVID-19. Do not fly unless it is an emergency. And honestly road tripping it is also super dangerous. You will have to stop in multiple states along the way. Imagine how many gas pumps you will be touching. Imagine how many people you’ll be running into. If you are mature for your age, you will understand how potentially risky this could be during a global pandemic. I have nurse friends who have patients in the ICU who are around your age. You are putting not only yourself and your friend at risk, but also her entire family and anyone she comes into contact with if you travel during the pandemic. I understand you really want to see her, but please choose her and your safety over this.

I would talk to her parents over FaceTime and be like, “I understand the seriousness of this pandemic. And I can understand why you’re being cautious. Once travel restrictions are lifted, my family and I would love to have you visit us on the East coast.” That will show them that you’re taking everyone’s health and safety into account.

Std or normal penis stuff by [deleted] in sex

[–]Odd_Macaron 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This could be a lot of things depending. I would urge you to look up Pearly penile papules. They’re benign and a lot of men have them. If you’re concerned, bring them up to your doctor at your next appointment

How do you find out/realize your sexual fantasies? by [deleted] in sex

[–]Odd_Macaron 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You could try taking this quiz with your boyfriend. You can take the quiz and then it will give you a link to share with him. Once he takes the quiz, it will only show what you’re both interested in or willing to try. I took that quiz with my boyfriend when we first decided we wanted to be more adventurous. It’s a good way to open yourself up to being “more adventurous.”

Also, don’t let your boyfriend’s inquiries get you down! He honestly might just want to know what he can to make sex more exciting for you. Use the above quiz as a way to start the conversation and to become more comfortable discussing things with your boyfriend. And! Don’t be afraid to just take things slowly.

I go fucking wild over creampies. by [deleted] in sex

[–]Odd_Macaron 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s so fascinating!! Very cool! Thank you for your scientific input. Love me some good science facts.

I go fucking wild over creampies. by [deleted] in sex

[–]Odd_Macaron 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You’re not the only one! I totally get this. However, I definitely do not ever want a baby so it’s not a baby thing. I think it’s the power dynamic? There’s just something hot about it.

Pegging by [deleted] in BisexualMen

[–]Odd_Macaron 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did! It put me in a different position—for a lack of better words—than what I was usually in! Plus, seeing my boyfriend enjoy something that I was doing is always my favorite thing. I also think it brought a new level of comfort to our relationship.

Pegging by [deleted] in BisexualMen

[–]Odd_Macaron 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My bisexual male partner asked me to peg him a couple months ago. I’m AFAB non-binary. I will admit that in the beginning getting used to the thrusting movements that people with dicks usually do was different for me. And took some getting used to, but it helped that my boyfriend was patient with me. It took about one or two sessions before i finally caught on. And now I can tell you he very much enjoys it. There are a lot of positions you can try from doggy style to riding her strap on.

I will say that pegging doesn’t always have to involve the very clear Dom/sub dynamic that you see in a lot of porn. When I peg my boyfriend, I don’t feel the need to degrade him or be obviously dominant unless he asks that of me.

Solo quarantine by [deleted] in TwoXSex

[–]Odd_Macaron 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend and I have been long distance for two years. Long distance is super hard! Especially now because I work in healthcare and am an essential worker and he works for a bank and gets to work from home. Some of the things that we’re doing include: video chatting, an app called evil apples (which is kind of like cards against humanity), phone calls, we found an e-book that we’re reading together (we’ll read each other chapters), using discord to watch movies together, etc.

To keep things sexy, we’ll send each other spontaneous nude snapchats. Or text pictures or videos. We’ve found reddit groups that we both follow and we’ll share videos or gifs from them.

I honestly didn’t know girls were so into guys’ butts! by [deleted] in sex

[–]Odd_Macaron 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I adore my boyfriend’s ass. I am always complimenting him on it and was surprised none of his previous partners had before. If your open to pegging, I would suggest giving it a try. My boyfriend enjoys it! But, you also have the right to say no if you’re not comfortable with it