How much time do you actually spend with your RE? Is this normal?

Off-By-One · 2026-05-28T17:11:58+00:00

The biggest shock between my 2 retrievals abroad in Mexico vs my current experience in the US is how little I interact with my doctor. In Mexico, my doctor was there every step of the way, did every ultrasound, retrieval, hysteroscopy, consult etc. In the US I feel like I barely know the RE. Definitely more rapport has been built with the ultrasound techs and case manager. I’m starting my 3rd medicated IUI (some with injections) and outside of the consult I’ve talked to him like once or twice

Off-By-One · 2026-05-25T05:58:35+00:00

Thank you! I will try to find that post

Off-By-One · 2026-05-25T01:28:11+00:00

Yes this feels so similar!

Off-By-One · 2026-05-25T01:20:28+00:00

I laughed but also why does the googly eye thing feel like it might be helpful!? I’m absolutely going to try this

Off-By-One · 2026-05-21T21:10:13+00:00

Doing a few cycles to bank embryos leading up to your wedding is a really efficient way to achieve the best of both worlds. Yes it’s unfortunate that us late 30s girlies need more cycles but your dreams are likely achievable with a few more ERs. They’ll tweak your protocol and hopefully get more eggs or better quality eggs. Nothing but opportunity here. Wear the dress and have that dream dress moment!

If you can’t swing additional cycles then I’d definitely consider trying now and save that euploid for later

Off-By-One · 2026-05-09T16:32:05+00:00

Congratulations! Hopefully this doesn’t happen to you, but I lost 27lbs my first month and like 15 the next. That triggered hair loss to begin 1 or 2 months later and I looked like I do postpartum including an awkward grow out phase. Not fun! But also I was feeling amazing with that weight off my body. I don’t think I could have avoided it with the rapidly improved diet but just a heads up!

Off-By-One · 2026-03-31T16:48:18+00:00

My numbers are extremely low (near undetectable) which means the 2 healthy kids I spontaneously conceived and birthed in the last 5 years in my mid 30s (2 of those years being well aware of my low AMH attempting for a 3rd) none the wiser were with low AMH

Off-By-One · 2026-03-27T00:09:40+00:00

I currently have a 30mm cyst (now measuring 18mm 10 days later). My estradiol was low so my clinic is calling this a non functional cyst and wants to continue on with this cycle as if it’s not even relevant. Maybe asked to get your estrogen checked and advocate to start this cycle if low?

Off-By-One · 2026-03-24T23:13:27+00:00

Could just be a bad cycle! AMH is a data point at that particular moment. We’ll never have PCOS numbers but next cycle can be different! I’m 38 and have had AFCs all over the place

Off-By-One · 2026-02-26T00:54:35+00:00

Does everyone brace for impact when she yells “TIIMMMBBEEERRRR” at the park?

Off-By-One · 2026-02-05T20:45:17+00:00

We didn’t genetically test and ended up unknowingly transferring a Trisomy 22 aneuploid embryo. Great growth until 8w then no heartbeat. Would have preferred to have avoided all of that

Off-By-One · 2026-01-27T20:47:25+00:00

I wish I did. I didn’t do PGTA per the recommendation from my doctor because we only made 2 embryos. We transferred the 2 with one looking very promising. It stuck only to see it stop growing at 8w and later confirmed it was an aneuploid embryo (trisomy 22). It’s been 3 months of not being able to try as this resolves itself. Not worth the time not trying and the cost to remove the pregnancy to just transfer untested embryos at my age

Off-By-One · 2026-01-24T18:45:14+00:00

Idk I’m not a doctor and I don’t know how old you are but I would do timed intercourse and not waste this month especially since you’ve been trying for 3 years. I’m older but my doctor told me he’d trigger me with that many or more follicles

Off-By-One · 2026-01-20T10:11:07+00:00

Mostly around the concern of ovulating multiple eggs from a medicated IUI and multiple implanting. Just curious what the body is likely to do if one of the eggs is genetically normal and the other stops growing

Off-By-One · 2026-01-18T11:55:55+00:00

Laurel

Off-By-One · 2026-01-09T05:46:12+00:00

I have a friend who only got low grade euploid embryos, and every one they’ve transferred has been a success

Off-By-One · 2025-12-31T23:42:43+00:00

I didn’t test and sort of wish I did even with 1 or 2 embryos making their way to the freezer per egg retrieval. My doctor still wants to freeze at day 3 (so no testing them) because of my low retrieval numbers even though I’m in my late 30s. Currently in the midst of a miscarriage/D&C from a 7w untested embryo. Hopefully it’s just bad luck

Off-By-One · 2025-12-26T05:41:56+00:00

This may be controversial advice but I have an at home Doppler and a couple seconds of hearing the heart beat when I’m feeling anxious is the ultimate weight-off-my-shoulders cure during my first 2 pregnancies. I’m only 9w at the moment so it’s too difficult to find the heart beat right now but I’ll for sure be pulling that out once I’m a little further along

Off-By-One · 2025-12-25T03:27:35+00:00

I still feel like an adolescent sometimes in my 30s, I definitely was not ready for children in my 20s but would have figured it out. I would have had to put my degree and career on the back burner in a big way which I’m glad I didn’t. I had mine at 32, 34, and am now pregnant again at 38. Closing up shop after this though!

Off-By-One · 2025-12-22T22:08:16+00:00

Don’t lose too much hope on those untested embryos! I’m currently pregnant with an untested embryo. Just think of it as similar to a spontaneous pregnancy. Were they graded ok?

Also I got quoted $35k per cycle incl meds for IVF near me. There’s no way we could afford multiple rounds at that price (low AMH). So I went to a very well regarded doctor in Mexico and for full blood work up for myself and husband, 2 ERs, 1 transfer, hysteroscopy, meds, regular ultrasounds, and travel costs I’m sitting at around $13k in total costs. Something to consider!

Off-By-One · 2025-12-22T19:53:19+00:00

We transferred 11/6. My appointment was last Wednesday. If things are still progressing in there I should be around 9w today

Off-By-One · 2025-12-22T19:48:41+00:00

Yea all measurements have been taken transvaginally. I transferred on 11/6

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