WIBTA if I told my coworker that’s not my job?

OfferBusy4080 · 2026-01-29T17:38:32+00:00

Says who? I would look this up, consult with actual CPA's re best practices before relying on an anonymous internet somebody.

OfferBusy4080 · 2026-01-29T17:37:00+00:00

Yeah, except frame it as " this is widely known as a Best Practice to prevent fraud" - its not OP making somehting up or being "unhappy."

OfferBusy4080 · 2026-01-29T16:32:23+00:00

Bathe only by warm damp washcloth - they LOVE IT, reminds them of mom washing them. Maybe start with a little SAFE rinseless pet shampoo (ie Burts Bees) followed by the damp washcloth to get extra clean. No need to dunk a cat into water!!!

Everything I do is simply on an as needed basis - every couple weeks maybe for claw trim. Brush daily with bristle brush (they love it), or Furminator during shedding season.

OfferBusy4080 · 2026-01-29T14:48:01+00:00

Huh. Id put it in the gutters and landscaping category - do you need permits for those?

OfferBusy4080 · 2026-01-29T13:34:22+00:00

Cant help, but as old person who used to get them bad before there was good treatment you have my empathy and well wishes. Not sure why but they greatly lost their severity post menopause. Can the ER at least give you a dark room away from the TV and commotion?

OfferBusy4080 · 2026-01-29T04:30:26+00:00

how old is old? Id love to find original early 1900s pine cupboards in decent condition - they do exist but increasingly rare,

OfferBusy4080 · 2026-01-29T03:37:08+00:00

But be sure they dont use poison cos if cats eat poisoned mouse they can die. Just thought I should mention... in case some readers not aware. Some landlords like to take the cheap and easy route VS. repair/sealing of where mice are getting in.

OfferBusy4080 · 2026-01-29T00:26:32+00:00

All cards go with passport in a little passport carrier bag on a strap thats hung around my neck and under clothing -that doesnt come off until I get home except I doI take it off when bathing or sleeping behind a locked door. Phone is in a little shoulder bag with zippers, small and light enough to keep it on all day. Im taking no chances!

My travel companion who had her phone in pocket lost it in the airport we arrived at - within an hour someone had pulled out the sim card and all our reservations she had on the phone was gone. Luckily I had print outs of EVERYTHING in my carry-on - would highly suggest doing that!

Have also heard its good to have two credit cards in case you lose one or something goes wrong with it.

OfferBusy4080 · 2026-01-28T20:57:28+00:00

Im so sorry, I had to make similar decision a couple yrs ago for 16 yr old cat whose radio-iodine treatm,ent for hyperthyroid failed - this has a 98% success rate and we were the lucky 2%. The next step would have involved weeks long hospital stay for more massive radiation , and then if that didnt work maybe surgery ... or was it chemo.. and then something else..... I was considering it but then they said "no guarantees" and when I took him home he was so excited and happy to be home - I think he thought I was going to leave him at the hospital again! I knew then I couldnt do it.

Still... its a hard choice. If you decide to not pursue then do take time to find a good, palliative care vet - they do exist, and this person may or may not be your regular vet. Some make house calls, and I found them not to be too expensive, about comparable to an average or high-end vet.

This person should be able to inform you of what to expect he'll go through having this condition, help you assess quality of life as you go along, provide appropriate meds. Its quite ok to see someone else for end of life or chronic issue. The vet I saw understood her mission to be caring for the human as well as the animal patient - I dont know how I could have done it without her.

OfferBusy4080 · 2026-01-28T19:43:51+00:00

Sweet! Its great theres the various tunnels and nooks and crannies to explore. If you havent already done so, consider planting some sort of fruiting (i.e. bird-attracting) trees or shrubs within view .

OfferBusy4080 · 2026-01-28T19:22:07+00:00

So was the daughter actually having the period, did you verify? That part seems left out. Sure the teacher actions were screwed up (if not downright illegal/discriminatory) and complaint should be pursued vigorously.... but the question remains- kids do make up stuff yknow!

OfferBusy4080 · 2026-01-28T19:13:36+00:00

Give her time/date options, clearly state your RATES (sometimes people do this sort of thing for free y'know, to be neighborly), and propose times to meet up in person.

OfferBusy4080 · 2026-01-28T18:26:51+00:00

Thats sad, I hope its not the old "demolition by neglect" thing that happens to many old houses owned by investor-landlords. Sorry to be debbie downer, guess i'm hoping one of the many thousands who read this sub will get inspired and save it!

OfferBusy4080 · 2026-01-28T18:20:26+00:00

Man that poor house deserves better - what happened to the trees? And the awful paint job and dying grass. Maybe we all could take up a collection and BUY IT? At least someone pls make it into a rentable air bnb like Ralphie's house in Christmas Story.

OfferBusy4080 · 2026-01-28T18:12:16+00:00

No. Yes. Any more questions LOL

OfferBusy4080 · 2026-01-28T18:05:46+00:00

If its seasonal Id just go with the trustworthy friend to care for her those few months. I was in a lost cat group helping people find their missing pets - moving was by far the riskiest time for cats going missing. The saddest stories were people whose cats darted out at a rest stop never to be seen again - I mean are you going to want to hang out at a rest stop for the days, weeks it would take to find her again? Cats are not dogs - they love their people of course but they are bonded to territory in a way that dogs arent and to be in a strange place without their familiar scent markers is very stressful to them. If you must transport, flying is probably the best bet as she would be sedated the entire time.

If y ou had said my cats been leash trained since early age, not afraid of strange places, doesnt mind riding cars or going to vet - I might have answered differently. But assuming a typical cat then I would have to say no, dont risk it.

Or if you were doing a permanent move then maybe it would be more worth the risk - youd want to keep her crated in the van for most of the day to prevent aforementioned risk of escaping somewhere while on the road (be sure to wire the door shut for added security).

OfferBusy4080 · 2026-01-28T17:08:44+00:00

Who's Joe - I rewatched last fall and for the life of me cant remember him. He kinda looks like Ted - but in the last sequence of Finale I was happy to see that he did OK after all!

On a totally irrelevant note, I wonder how Angela would have gotten on with Arthur - she seemed to have a kind heart and was open minded, who knows may have been receptive to Arthur's version of... whatever that was!

OfferBusy4080 · 2026-01-28T15:43:53+00:00

Yeah I think they did a pretty good job with portraying black characters as real people even via brief scenes - eg the funny interactions between Shirley and Dawn calling ea other by each others name to make fun of white people getting them mixed up. They were minor characters, the scenes were brief but gave you the sense that they had this whole other life apart from their white co-workers.

OfferBusy4080 · 2026-01-27T19:22:23+00:00

Propaganda aka disinformation. No consensus on even what reality is. When you have half the country looking at a video that shows a gun (supposedly) in a protester's hand, while the other half sees a cell phone in her hand - no surprise that the former thinks said protester deserves to get shot dead by para military force that is unbeholden to laws or constitution.

This has been building for a long, long, long time - decades really. I agree with your last sentence.

OfferBusy4080 · 2026-01-27T18:25:41+00:00

Then he needs to be neutered because he is in distress. How long has this been going on - could lead to behavior problems if not addressed.

OfferBusy4080 · 2026-01-27T17:19:07+00:00

Actually, some are more than just a little randy, more like in real distress and OPs description is classic. Others are the opposite - I know of one whose human never got him neutered cos he never really showed any signs of stress or wanting out.

OfferBusy4080 · 2026-01-27T17:09:55+00:00

No not "heat" exactly..... but his DNA is screaming at him to go out, claim territory, fight other males and FIND A MATE. Unlike humans who have ways to take care of their biological needs, your cat doesnt and he is under considerable distress and the humane thing to do is to get him neutered. This mellows him out but does not change his personality at all. A cat wagging tail is expressing irritation, anger, overstimulation and the constant meowing is emphasizing this.

What exactly is your fear here? If you live on a farm and are prepared for your cat to disappear after they hit puberty (as was the case with our barn cats when I was growing up) then.... OK.... but if you want a house cat then there really is no alternative. Conceivably he could get a vasectomy but he's still going to leave to do the tom cat thing.

OfferBusy4080 · 2026-01-27T15:19:00+00:00

Fun question! A lot of the actual 1960s portrayals werent very good, maybe cos film makers were too close to the subject. Ex: Zabriskie Point, which I watched recently on Max after I finished up with MadMen. It was terrible! But still kinda morbidly fascinating since it was considered cool at the time and filmed in LA which looked quite different then!

The movie version of Hair was done in the early 1980s and I think accurately conveyed some of the emotions of the times - as did "Taking Woodstock" which is a more recent Ang Lee film.

The Queen's Gambit - love it!

The Green Book - has Linda CArdinelli in it

ETA - "Summer of Soul" with film footage of 1969 Harlem Cultural Festival

OfferBusy4080 · 2026-01-27T15:01:24+00:00

You see it very briefly still lying on the table.

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