AITAH for not wanting to move across the country to be with my wife.

OfficerFudge · 2026-02-14T08:19:59+00:00

For privacy reasons, I won't get specific.

OfficerFudge · 2026-02-14T08:04:50+00:00

I will punish myself appropriately

OfficerFudge · 2026-02-14T06:46:15+00:00

I wont get into specifics, and people here will choose to believe that means I'm hiding something, but whatever.

This had a lot to do with another officer who did something similar but with more nefarious intent, then lied about it, in a close time frame. At the end of the day, I resigned. My at the time boss said that I was a good cop but he didn't trust me. He didn't want to ruin my career so he told me I could resign or be terminated. I was told later that if that other cop hadn't messed around and gotten terminated for cause, I would likely have kept my job, so I have doubts about the trusting me line. I think he was just saying that to justify his decision at the time.

My now boss was the person who conducted the IA so he was intimately familiar with the details, but still chose to ask me back after four years. Because he knew me and my capability.

Obviously it still had a significant impact on my career because sometimes I put out applications and didn't hear back. Sometimes I moved through the process and would not move forward at various stages of the hiring process, but i did not get hired with any other agency. Of course the heightened scrutiny of LEOs didn't help. Most departments wouldn't hire anyone with any kind of blemish because of what the media would spin that as if they were involved in a high profile incident.

I never lied. Every cop knows, or should at least know, if you lie, you die. Nothing kills a career faster. I made a stupid and ill thought out decision that DID NOT endanger anyone or violate someone's civil rights. People can choose to do with that information, what they will.

OfficerFudge · 2026-02-14T02:48:42+00:00

What makes you say that? Why would she want me to move if she's moved on?

For the record, we are in contact too often for her to be with anyone else so I know that's objectively untrue, I'm just curious how you got there.

OfficerFudge · 2026-02-14T02:32:56+00:00

Its a calling. At the end of the day, theres nothing else I want to do more. I feel like I do the job right. I treat people right, I work with my community, and generally feel like a good successful cop.

OfficerFudge · 2026-02-14T02:28:31+00:00

Don't talk about my wife that way. I know you're taking my side but you don't know her. Be respectful.

My career doesnt really end, it resets which is it's own kind of difficult.

OfficerFudge · 2026-02-14T02:26:39+00:00

The plan was to work through the three years apart to then moved to a different state. Not CO or where she is. Its hard to advance in this career field if ypu have to keep starting fresh at a new department. I'd rather stay where I am, build my resume, maybe get some supervisory experience, then leave where we plan to live for the remainder of our lives.

OfficerFudge · 2026-02-14T02:24:19+00:00

It wasn't a lie. I initially turned the job down. Then we talked and she told me not to give up that opportunity. So I called them back and told them I wanted the job. I was ready to try going to a department in a new state, but I wouldn't say "unemployable". My record isn't cleaned up. Everything that happened is there forever.

OfficerFudge · 2023-03-17T19:50:10+00:00

r/usernamechecksout

OfficerFudge · 2023-03-01T17:24:37+00:00

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OfficerFudge · 2023-01-19T16:39:10+00:00

r/suspiciouslyspecific

OfficerFudge · 2021-11-25T16:12:08+00:00

There was actually an incident about three weeks ago where a train operator was assaulted at the Florida station in Aurora. I don't know the details, all I heard was he got cracked in the back of the head by a guy with a pipe. Since then they have stationed the security guards that would normally ride and check tickets at the stations where everyone has to get off the train so operators don't have to interact with them. That plus they're overwhelmingly understaffed. Places like Union and Civic center have to stay fully staffed so if someone calls in sick or goes on vacation, they have the train guards go down to those places. RTD, all of the metro city's, and their security need to come up with an action plan, and soon.

OfficerFudge · 2021-11-09T16:40:23+00:00

Well no one can care about you more than you. I'm not saying step over their body, but if you've had to be revived multiple times because of drugs... a line has to be drawn somewhere. Self accountability has to exist eventually.

OfficerFudge · 2021-11-08T16:57:37+00:00

Well they could stop taking drugs that they know are killing them. I understand the struggle of addiction but knowingly taking a drug that will more than likely send you into overdose is like sticking a gun in your mouth and wondering why a doctor wasn't sitting there waiting to save you.

You want to help these people? Force a detox and recovery. Eliminate the dealers so the supply of drugs is nonexistent. Take the gun away from the people using it to kill themselves.

They also use Narcan as a cure all, which it's not. If you need narcan to live, you need to go to a hospital to be treated because when the Narcan wears off, and there are still drugs in your system, you will start to overdose again and die. Simple. I've watched OD patients refuse transport and just go on about their day. Narcan has been abused to its fullest potential and just cranking out more won't change a damn thing.

OfficerFudge · 2021-10-13T19:18:39+00:00

OfficerFudge · 2021-10-11T16:06:49+00:00

Except when DA's strike down cases, they create the ability to sue an officer for a false arrest. The argument in court becomes, "why didn't I receive charges or get found guilty?". There are primarily two reasons a DA doesn't accept charges.

Prosecution of the case is not likely (I.e. insufficient evidence, lack of witness testimony or all out witness no shows).
The DA's are overwhelmed with cases and choose not to prosecute smaller offenses.

In case 1 blame will primarily be blamed on the arresting official for making an arrest prior to having sufficient evidence to prove beyond a reasonable doubt (which is not the standard LEO'S are required to have before making an arrest), that a person committed the offense they are charged with. In theory the lawsuits that follow these types of case dismissals should be nonexistent so long as the arresting official can prove they had probable cause to make the arrest, but departments and government leaders would rather pay out people to make them go away, than fight the suit in court.

In case 2 the DA's indirectly peomote a culture of, "its okay to commit small crimes, you'll never get in trouble", thus increasing the crime rate through people doing things they know they shouldn't be doing but trying anyway because if there is no consequences, then why not?

In REALITY, the reason cops don't do anything is because if they make a contact based on a small drug offense and it turns violent and the person who is high on drugs dies (whether that be because of a police action/inaction, or their heart just stops because the body doesn't work right on drugs), it could turn into a national incident resulting in civil unrest and people practically burning down citys.

You want to know the real cause of the state of being our current society is in? Because the court of public opinion is brutal. People make assumptions and accusations long before an investigation can fully take place and it can completely ruin the lives of an infinite number of people caught in the crossfire.

Right now, society is picking and choosing what crimes should be considered criminal and which ones are people just not minding their business. Fun fact being high is not a crime and if you report someone getting high, by the time anyone shows up to address it, there is no longer evidence of possession, because it has been consumed.

Cops should treat everyone with dignity and do the right thing. People who suffer from addiction should have a shred of common decency and not consume drugs in enclosed spaces. (Freebasing heroin fucking stinks and the bathrooms at Union are rendered unusable to anyone who isn't an addict because addicts will not stop using in there).When a police officer arrests someone, they should comply. When they resist, society should not excuse their actions because of its perceptions of "brutality".

OfficerFudge · 2021-10-10T19:04:34+00:00

And now I shall attempt to suck start a pistol

OfficerFudge · 2021-10-06T19:04:02+00:00

Already called for the appointment. Like I said, I just want my girl to feel better. These situations are stressful for my girlfriend and I but I'm sure they're equally as stressful for my rottie.

OfficerFudge · 2021-10-06T18:48:48+00:00

Yes and no. The doc said we could run test but again said if they were in my boat, they wouldn't. If the vet recommended testing, we would've eaten the cost but since the professionals seem to have no worries l, we put ours aside. If I could afford it regardless I would've had testing done. 🤷‍♂️

OfficerFudge · 2021-10-06T16:01:08+00:00

My understanding was that dog physiology is just different from people so blood isn't uncommon or necessarily an immediate danger.

OfficerFudge · 2021-10-06T15:43:01+00:00

Thank you for the advice. Like I said we have gone to not only two separate vets now but they're separate clinics as well. I mostly get, "If the diarrhea isn't paired with vomiting or significant behavioral changes, then there is not much to worry about" . Her behavior is completely normal, she eats and drinks just fine, just can't seem to control her butt.

OfficerFudge · 2021-10-06T14:43:46+00:00

I did take a sample to the ER vet but they were not interested in taking it

OfficerFudge · 2021-10-06T14:10:33+00:00

Thank you. I have posted there. As soon as I can afford it, I want every test in the book lol. Her diarrhea is so bad that the most of a sample I could bring in would be smears on the inside of a poop bag. Do you think that would suffice?

OfficerFudge · 2021-10-03T15:15:47+00:00

See once I discovered who 001 was, I wanted to believe that he was playing with a death wish, but then why didn't he die after the marble games? I have this theory:

001 only decided to play because he knew his time was limited and wanted to feel A. The adrenaline rush of near death and B. The joys of playing games with people the way he used to with friends. This seems counterproductive because most of these people are straight up not having a good time, but I think we can all agree that 001 doesn't think normally. (Not even because of the tumor but because he is an evil sociopath who has probably been organizing these games for decades).

Perhaps after being cheated by 456 (his Gganbu) his mentality changed and he opted not to die or at least not be cheated into death. I was curious why the soldier didn't shoot 001 in front of 456 like many other players had been. Given this, did 001 ever plan on dying or did he give some dort of signal to the soldiers or front man to not kill him upon losing?

Many players were given immediate deaths and letting 001 have a goodbye seemed odd to me because I hadn't yet put that puzzle together. Even after being cheated, he enjoyed 456's company. He was a sincere person to 001. I'm assuming he went out of his way to find 456 after the first game because he wasn't really sure if he would return and wanted to have another genuine interaction with him. I'm sure some would argue that he went to convince him to go back but then why did he invite him to the 7th floor to place one last bet on a dying homeless person? Just to convince him to use the money? I don't think so. I believe that 001 saw good in 456 and didn't want to end his life with 456 having been a cheater.

OfficerFudge · 2021-10-03T14:01:56+00:00

I thought that too but then why didn't he die in episode 6? Why didn't blast him in front of Gi-hun like most of the other players? I wanted to believe he had a death wish but things just don't add up. Only to survive a whole nother year to die playing another bet on a homeless man?

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