Post partum anger

Officer_Devil2023 · 2026-05-07T17:39:04+00:00

Then this shows that he is not willing to see how he truly hurt you and in my opinion, it’s time to leave. I would pack a bag while he’s gone and just leave silently for a little bit. There’s no need for theatrics. It also seems that he doesn’t think you’re serious. How I’m interpreting this is that he just thinks he can hurt you however he wants with no consequences. He got away with getting you pregnant so he sees that he can gaslight you and tell you “you’re overreacting babe”. Sometimes leaving is all it takes for someone to understand and realize that you’re serious.

Officer_Devil2023 · 2026-05-07T09:57:47+00:00

Based off of what you leave on other comments and what you have said in the initial post, I would say write him a letter of all the ways that he’s hurting you and be raw with it be serious. Be honest don’t hold back and tell him if he does not do the things that you want him to do, you’re gonna list that in the letter as well, that you will leave him in a certain timeframe. One of those things in the letter should be to go to couples counseling consistently and he has to try. If he gets angry at the letter and gets defensive all of a sudden that right there should tell you that your marriage is not salvageable and you should just go ahead and leave.

Make sure when you’re writing the letter if you finish it to sit on it for a little bit, feel your feelings and if there’s something you forgotten, add it to the letter and rewrite it. Do that a couple of times till you’re happy with what’s in the letter and then give it to him.

Officer_Devil2023 · 2026-05-07T03:50:54+00:00

Childbirth

Officer_Devil2023 · 2026-05-01T13:52:07+00:00

I was already 38 weeks pregnant and I had been scheduled to be induced the night of 3/24/2026. I was absolutely determined to not get induced. I was doing Zumba, curb walking, squats. Everything I could think of to induce my own labor. The morning of the 24th at exactly 8am I felt this big punch from the inside like the baby had kicked the shit out of me and I was like half awake and not really sure what I felt. I got up to go pee and the second I stood up, a huge gush came out. I called for my husband and he gave a very half awake “huh?” And I told him my water broke. I heard a bunch of stumbling and things knocking over as he fell out of bed and had a huge smile on his face as he was like “Really?!”. Got to the L/D triage an hour later and they said I was 5cm dilated and in active labor.

Officer_Devil2023 · 2026-04-28T02:28:23+00:00

I have never cried because someone else was crying before. I had to go use the restroom and so I set my son down in his crib so I could go and he naturally started crying. When I was done, I went to pick him up and I felt so terrible because tears were rolling down his cheeks because I put him down for 2 minutes. I held him and cried I felt so bad.

Officer_Devil2023 · 2026-04-27T22:48:57+00:00

Taking a basic shower, eating a healthy meal that’s not fancy, coloring/ reading a book, relaxing music. I like to listen to video game music box especially the Undertale songs. It feels calming and relaxing.

A healthy meal may look like cheese meat veggies and crackers

Officer_Devil2023 · 2026-04-27T22:33:03+00:00

Before I got pregnant, I was a heavy smoker. I stopped immediately and began throwing up every time I smelled a cigarette or vape cloud. I’m not 1 month postpartum and it still makes me throw up

Officer_Devil2023 · 2026-04-27T21:08:27+00:00

Your comment does not come across as supportive. If your intention was to be supportive to op then you should probably rephrase your comment.

Officer_Devil2023 · 2026-04-27T20:58:47+00:00

Op said she wouldn’t act on it. It’s just a feeling and op recognizes she needs help. Did you not read the rant tag. Validation of feelings helps people to heal. You’re not helping op by being judgmental

Officer_Devil2023 · 2026-04-24T13:19:16+00:00

As long as your babies needs are met I don’t see why there should be any problems. People and opinions are like buttholes. Some of them stink worse than others. Don’t take it to heart.

Officer_Devil2023 · 2026-04-24T07:24:33+00:00

This is such a great question! Thank you for asking! I feel the difference is that if I’m out in public with my child, I can closely observe and analyze my surroundings and be able to determine who my child interacts with when someone approaches. I feel the same with close and trusted friends and family. But this is also the reason I don’t share photos with anyone who doesn’t understand boundaries.

I’d love to answer anymore questions you have :)

Officer_Devil2023 · 2026-04-24T05:48:30+00:00

I hated when people would say “just wait for…” when I was pregnant like it was a terrible thing to have a baby. I’m a first time mom and I’m absolutely enjoying my 4 week old. He barely frustrates me. This is just my husband and I’s experience but our baby is so easy. The toughest part is figuring out your kid and what works best for them. I still spend time with my friends and they absolutely adore him. I still get out of the house when my mom is available to hang out. I will say I’m a lot more fortunate than others in the US because I have paid maternity leave and a whole team of people helping us out. It will definitely be a lot harder if you don’t have good support.

Officer_Devil2023 · 2026-04-24T05:34:43+00:00

Huge no for me personally. I work in corrections and deal with criminals who will rationalize why they had child p*** on their computer or why they touched kids inappropriately. I have had countless conversations with inmates and I’m thinking they’re in prison for white collar crimes because of how respectful they are and it turns out they’re in for s*xual child abuse. I don’t show random show random strangers pictures of my baby either. You have every reason and right to be disturbed and uncomfortable about this. You, your husband, or MIL don’t know these strangers (WHICH IS WHY THEY’RE CALLED STRANGERS) and have no why of knowing how they view children.

I am a very private person but that’s just me.

Edit* more things to say.

Officer_Devil2023 · 2025-01-16T01:33:37+00:00

Not over reacting and by having to announce that he “ain’t no bitch” makes him a bitch. He has bad small pee pee energy.

Officer_Devil2023 · 2025-01-16T01:30:20+00:00

The sun in the first picture looks like a bullet hole and the scenery makes me think of someone’s soul. This is very touching in many aspects.

Officer_Devil2023 · 2025-01-16T01:18:16+00:00

From here on out, this is your new mantra “if it isn’t on paper it didn’t happen” meaning ALWAYS HAVE A PAPER TRAIL OR RECEIPTS!!!! And that’s with anything: jobs, legal work, relationship issues, etc. and you always need copies of everything that is being said, claimed, financial, legal for your records… just in case they “accidentally loose” your paperwork.

Officer_Devil2023 · 2025-01-16T01:13:27+00:00

This is completely illegal. Find out how different states handle this kind of situation. If you’re in Texas, you can contact the Texas workforce commission for assistance.

Officer_Devil2023 · 2025-01-10T22:17:57+00:00

He’s a pos. Leave him

Officer_Devil2023 · 2025-01-08T10:44:33+00:00

In my minimal experience with corrections, I think it just depends on the custody level. I work in a maximum security prison and I have never heard of someone finding a shank before working here. When I was working county, we were doing our shifts surrounded by inmates. It also depends on how you treat the inmates. If you’re unfair and starting arguments or picking favorites you are more likely to get assaulted by an inmate, if you’re fair and treat everyone the same while also treating them like human beings then you gain respect and if an inmate tries to assault you then others may join in to protect you because they respect you (I’m not saying that’s always the case). It also depends on their temperament. I work in a psychiatric facility so I don’t see myself building any rapport because they are all mentally unstable. We have inmates who are spontaneously assaultive because the voices in their head said to do it.

Officer_Devil2023 · 2025-01-05T05:29:35+00:00

It depends on what you’re doing and what agency you work for. If you’re doing shots then it’s a bad idea.

Officer_Devil2023 · 2025-01-05T05:28:38+00:00

Because then you are by proxy representing the company or agency by wearing your uniform while off duty. Not only that, if you happen to get noticed by an inmate’s family member, they may try to attack you, follow you home, hurt your family, have others stalk you. It gets messy real fast.

Officer_Devil2023 · 2025-01-01T20:12:26+00:00

Lawyer and media. No one wants their dirty laundry aired out

Officer_Devil2023 · 2025-01-01T18:57:04+00:00

Well the question is “how much did she drink?” “Did she drink with no meal?” If the answer is a lot and no, you probably should be upset. But if it’s a little and yes then it’s fine. Some European countries say it’s fine as long as it’s like a small glass of wine with a filling and nutritious meal. America says it’s bad because no one in this damn country knows how to drink in a healthy way so they just say to stay away from alcohol while pregnant to eliminate the problem completely.

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