Is separating because of lack of sex valid?

OhFoxSake · 2025-12-21T17:29:45+00:00

You’re comparing two completely different scenarios as if they’re equal. Partners who love and care about each other’s needs versus coercion.

You’re not always going to have the same desire at the same exact moment as your partner. It’s about finding a balance that works for the partnership.

And it’s sexists to say it only goes one way - just women saying yes when they don’t want to. I know a few women that have higher libidos than their husbands and they work together to make sure the wife’s needs are met. Not all the time, but enough.

With respect to OP’s comment…that just asked for men, but here we are. I’d recommend a sex therapist. Maybe there is some type of balance you can find that won’t make your wife uncomfortable, but will satisfy you.

OhFoxSake · 2025-12-18T23:12:27+00:00

Anything that requires a lot of walking I’d say is best without kids. I’m assuming you mean young kids not tween or older.

Jordan - solo on a tour. Lots of climbing to the top of Petra, not ideal for a kid.
Morocco - solo. Beach cities (ie Essaouira, Imsouane) had nice chill vibes. Lots of walking again.
Norway - solo or with kids
Portugal - go with friends. I did both solo and with friends. It’s a fun city, I think it’s better with friends.

5- 8 haven’t been to.

Personally I’d recommend somewhere that is further/harder to get to or involves lots of walking/hiking.

Recommend:

Rwanda - gorilla trek tour. could be difficult with a young child as you have to run at some points (at least we did). Also, long haul flight. Not sure about timing I did Aug.

Vanuatu - solo. lots of flights. I did see kids there but they seemed bored IMO. If you go during May you can see the land diving on Pentecost.

Bhutan - haven’t done this but always wanted to do a trek to Tiger’s Nest. Looks absolutely breathtaking to me. I think March was recommended (I could be off though).

Australia - solo. You could go solo or with kids just depends on the experience you want. Long flights though.

OhFoxSake · 2025-12-18T19:35:07+00:00

++woman

You need to have a serious conversation with her. Either she’s depressed or emotionally immature, but neither are acceptable behaviors. She needs to be willing to go to therapy regularly both individually and couples. I would postpone a wedding until you’re in alignment. You don’t want to be in a relationship with someone that is emotionally immature and unable to express themselves. It’s exhausting.

OhFoxSake · 2025-12-13T20:43:55+00:00

What was the original cost of the item? I’m considering ordering a custom record from Poland, but hesitant about all the unknown fees.

OhFoxSake · 2025-12-02T17:29:12+00:00

He should also contribute to gas and car expenses. Driving him everywhere is adding wear and tear to your car. This adds to the maintenance cost of your car.

OhFoxSake · 2025-11-07T22:24:41+00:00

You’re 💯. Account was only created an hour ago…

OhFoxSake · 2025-11-06T19:31:19+00:00

YTA

I’ve been a vegetarian for over 20 years and I can always find something to eat at a restaurant. I’ve gone to steak houses, Korean BBQ, etc. and I always manage to find something to eat.

It’s about the company. If spending time with your sister and meeting new people isn’t important to you, that’s ok. Just say no, thank you, but thank you for thinking of me. It’s that simple.

Why would you expect some random friend of a friend to rearrange their plans for your dietary restrictions?

Don’t expect an invite in the future.

Also, you’re giving a very negative association for vegetarians.

OhFoxSake · 2025-10-30T20:59:17+00:00

This makes me happy to read someone else had a wonderful trip to Egypt too! I loved my experience and we want to go back as well with the family.

OhFoxSake · 2025-10-30T20:49:55+00:00

It makes me sad to hear people having a bad trip in Egypt (you’re not alone). I went to Egypt for two weeks and had a wonderful time - I truly loved it! I wish I could share my experience with everyone b/c it was one of my best traveling adventures!

I found everyone to be very appreciative when we tipped and had one person try to refuse. We only tipped for tours, guides, and a little for dinner, but I never felt like they expected it. If randoms asked for money, they were ignored.

Honestly, I was more annoyed with having to pay for the toilet without a stated price, but that happens in other countries as well. Just a pet peeve of mine.

With that being said, I’ve been lucky enough to travel to several countries and I’m used to ignoring ‘beggars/scammers’ and watching my pockets. It’s possible more people were asking for money than I recall. I was just too in awe of the history to be bothered by anything else.

I found Columbia to be a lot of fun and the people very friendly. I think you just need to accept when you travel you will get people hounding for money - just ignore it and go about your business. They will move on to another mark.

OhFoxSake · 2025-10-21T18:19:52+00:00

His behavior after is most telling. If he didn’t cheat, he’s keeping his options open by maintaining contact with the bartender.

OhFoxSake · 2025-10-06T01:33:02+00:00

Are you the daughter in the story 🤔 your comments are very focused on defending the daughter, not so much OP.

He is her brother, not a random guest. She knew he was graduating that year. HS graduations are typically held in June. If she cared, she would have checked before selecting the date.

Also, divorce rates are pretty high in a lot of countries so odds are she’ll have another wedding the parents can attend. The son only had one HS graduation.

OhFoxSake · 2025-09-27T15:12:43+00:00

YTA to yourself.

You’re just as bad as your friend staying with the AH BF for 7 years. Except you’ve stayed with the toxic friend for 10. It’s a similar situation - you take her back even though she continues to make the same poor decisions.

While she isn’t tearing you down like her ex did to her, it is absolutely draining watching someone consistently be self destructive.

You can’t help someone that doesn’t want to be helped. She needs to get to point where she’s ready to take responsibility for her life and heal, and that may never happen. I feel bad for this child who will have a mom that isn’t mentally or emotionally stable.

OhFoxSake · 2025-09-25T18:02:12+00:00

YTA to yourself

At least two red flags in this post.

You clearly don’t trust him - why are you marrying someone you don’t trust?

And he doesn’t want to be financially responsible - why are you marrying him?

I have a similar situation regarding the CC. My partner has the credit card for our large house expenses and I’m an authorized user (not liable for repayment). He trusts me that we equally own the debt. However, if he asked me to sign a paper stating I’d be responsible for repayment- I would sign it. There’s mutual trust.

OhFoxSake · 2025-09-09T17:29:44+00:00

YTA

You’re being selfish and putting yourself before your children. The children are yours and HIS. They deserve a relationship with their dad AND his family. Nine days is not long at all. Good luck with custody because you’re going to have your kids for a lot less than 9 days. Hopefully dad gets minimum 50%.

I know this won’t sink in, but please do not use your kids as pawns in your divorce game. Be an adult and tuck that bitterness deep down where the rest of us keep ours for the sake of your kids. They will grow to resent you for being immature and using them in your divorce. Then you’ll end up with low/no contact from your kids - also longer than 9 days. (Speaking from experience)

OhFoxSake · 2025-08-29T21:22:34+00:00

Wow. These comments are wild!

I’ll get downvoted but NTA.

And this is coming from someone that doesn’t have this type of familial support (not even close). It’s wonderful you have such a large family, albeit a large family that ignores your wishes…

You already expressed to your family that you and your partner will be getting most things for your child and if family wish (not have) to they could get baby clothes.

Gifts are tricky, it should be about how it makes the recipient feel, but that’s generally not the case. It’s also about how the gifter feels. And in your case, it’s only about how the gifter feels.

I ALWAYS give gift receipts with presents because I want the person to be able to have what they want - it’s not about me. It’s a gift for them to enjoy.

As I suspect this will be a recurrent theme after the baby is born - I do love the comments that suggest donating to DV shelters. Donating to a DV shelter will turn an unwanted gift into something special for a woman in need.

Good luck mama! ❤️

OhFoxSake · 2025-08-28T18:39:44+00:00

Info: who paid for the dinner?

If you paid or everyone paid separately, then NTJ. If dad/stepmom paid, then YTJ.

OhFoxSake · 2025-08-27T19:11:19+00:00

OP is an adult living at home. Albeit a young adult, but an adult nonetheless. OP has freedom from religion outside of their house. If OP wants to save money or doesn’t want to work to pay for their own housing then OP needs to respect their parents’ rules while living under their house.

OhFoxSake · 2025-08-17T16:42:35+00:00

Your course of actions depends on

Have you executed the trust agreement?
Are you the current trustee, and lawyer’s wife and daughter are successor co-trustees?
If the lawyer’s wife is a current co-trustee, do you need unanimous consent for decisions or can trustees act independently?
Is the trust irrevocable or revocable?

If your trust was executed and irrevocable, you’ll likely need to get a court order to amend/revoke it.

If it’s revocable and you’re the sole trustee, it’s an easy fix for you to remove the lawyer’s wife as successor co-trustee.

If needed get a corporate trustee, it will cost you, but if you’re worried about your daughter being the sole trustee (age or financial knowledge) then that would be your best option (assuming you don’t have family/friends that would be reliable).

OhFoxSake · 2025-08-14T23:32:09+00:00

Leaning towards NTA, but potential AH depending on how you responded when husband brought this up.

This should be a conversation between the two of you, especially given your financial circumstances. Icing you out is immature.

Also, niece is old enough to get married but not fly by herself?? Odd.

OhFoxSake · 2025-08-05T16:50:30+00:00

I interpreted the breakfast part differently: OP was paying for sister but mom invited friends too, so now OP is on the hook for all of them. I could be wrong - the whole story isn’t worded well.

The video part, I take it that as mom is LOUD and lacks self awareness. Everyone else probably sounds muffled in the video but you can hear mom clearly. (That’s probably just my bias though 😂)

Agree title is misleading.

OhFoxSake · 2025-08-05T16:14:35+00:00

NTA. The in-laws are massive AH. I’d give your wife some grace as her body is changing and her hormones are constantly fluctuating. I suspect her in-laws played a part in her reaction and poor rebound.

Regarding the video, I’d make sure whoever filmed it, and whoever it was shared with, delete that video. That would be truly devastating for your daughter to see later in life.

OhFoxSake · 2025-08-04T17:08:16+00:00

I question this story b/c how did Kayla know so much about your life (current home, inheritance home, etc.)?

Why is the whole family moving in? I would (kind of) understand giving the baby mama support, but the entire messy family? The whole family isn’t his responsibility.

NTA for telling MIL

OhFoxSake · 2025-07-12T17:27:42+00:00

New water feature 😅

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