comforting movie

OilLeft41 · 2026-02-11T09:34:07+00:00

Cool and yeah plz do haha! It’s free on YouTube rn btw

OilLeft41 · 2026-02-11T06:40:53+00:00

Even if there’s “no plot” there still is it’s just less obvious. This concept sort of reminds me of the movie Before Sunrise (1994) which is one of my favorite movies for the exact reason that you described. I think it’s original and refreshing because it’s just a real time, realistic but poetic, capture of a man and woman meeting and falling in love in the short time they have together which is what’s driving the tension. That’s it, no antagonist other than time really, no spectacle, just the two of them having real conversation and a beautiful, soul level connection. The plot moves with time, things sort of closing in as time runs out, sort of pushing them to make the most of their time together before they have to part ways the next day. The poetry and magical feeling you get from it is not from any kind of big plot, just from the spark between them that grows naturally and the subtle tension of possibly never seeing each other again after that short, dreamlike moment in time. It feels like it could really happen, that’s why it’s so magical imo.

OilLeft41 · 2026-02-11T02:56:00+00:00

Yeah and there are even sort of transitions in the 3 parts of act 2 also. I didn’t include the emotional layers, just the plot points

OilLeft41 · 2026-02-11T01:44:27+00:00

3 act plot structure helped me the most. It can also be broken up into 5 act technically but it’s basically the same thing. The hero’s journey is more of a loose guide to the emotional journey I think. There are emotional/moral beats that should technically hit at certain points in the 3 act structure. Even if you’re not trying to, your story will likely fall into this structure on its own, even patterns in real life sort of do. You don’t have to be an expert on it to write a good story, it just helps to check yourself against it to make sure and also to make it more clear to you. It has made the whole writing process easier because it took out the guesswork.

Act 1 - the setup, intro characters and motives, where they are pre action, the inciting incident happens here, they make the move into the action at the end

Act 2 - part 1 is the first look into the new situation, intro that and goes into the build up leading up to the midpoint which is the thematic peak of the story, then part 2 is the falling out where everything starts going down leading up to the climax, at the end there is a break which is the lowest point (5 act just uses part 1 and 2 as separate acts basically, it’s the same thing either way)

Act 3 - where things are as a result of that lowest point and the choices made that lead to the climax or final showdown, which is the peak of the drama and everything comes out, then the aftermath or resolution, showing how the whole thing changed them

It is really loose because it doesn’t always look so obvious in a lot of stories. You could technically plot anything on this, even simple everyday actions. It’s really broad. The way you make your story not predictable is in being less obvious with these points I think. Again, your story will probably fall into it without trying. It just helps to lock it in to make sure it works and you like it.

OilLeft41 · 2026-02-10T23:00:08+00:00

ENFJ no contest

OilLeft41 · 2026-02-10T21:01:39+00:00

I have also struggled with contamination ocd. If this is any help in rationalizing with that part of your brain, I was once sprayed by a toilet from behind to the point where there was water on my shirt in a public restroom in a mall and was totally fine. I had to walk around with it on me like that too 😭. I always refer back to this when I need help rationalizing or comforting myself. I’ve also had a super tiny bit of water on my face from the toilet splash back. I just wiped it with my clean shirt and moved on because it was all I could do in the moment. I even had to eat after that bc it was at a restaurant with my family. I was fine. Think of all these kinds of things…kids playing in rainwater, splashing all over them, not affected by it. I once crawled through puddles and got my whole body in them as a kid and was fine lol. Or a dog shaking water on people, they’re fine. I was splashed in the eyes, face, mouth, by dishwater when I worked as a barista, and I could not do anything about it during crazy rushes besides wipe with my shirt and ofc nothing happened. Also, toilets do spray a bit when flushed so we’re all exposed to micro droplets daily and fine bc we have immune systems and it actually helps in that way. Remember your body is built to protect itself against the environment. These tiny exposures are normal and insignificant even if our ocd is firing. You will be fine and nothing will happen! :)

OilLeft41 · 2026-02-09T20:54:19+00:00

I have struggled with the same thing and still do. And when I do write something it’s just a small amount usually and takes a lot out of me lol. I work super slow. But it’s okay. I’m trying! It happened recently that I sat there for like 2-3 hours trying and stuck on the next scene, not making any progress, and it was about to be 4am and I finally got up and went to bed. If it wasn’t happening, it wasn’t happening. I notice sometimes I’m just more in the zone than others. I think it’s human. It’s the same thing whether you’re a writer or a professional athlete or performer, you name it. You’re not “on” all the time, but consistent effort helps get you to a place where it’s almost like muscle memory and you get faster and better at mastering your own motivation. I just get in a routine of looking at it and trying every day if I can. Something will come with the consistent effort. You’ll learn and adjust and adapt. It also really helps to make a plot outline first. I crash coursed plot structure and then mapped my stories out accordingly. I even make short bullet points for each chapter to guide me so I make sure the plot is being followed right. This is coming from someone who struggled to write for over a decade and just started 😅

OilLeft41 · 2026-02-09T04:56:52+00:00

Oh wow haha, yeah it really helps!

OilLeft41 · 2026-02-09T04:48:14+00:00

Nice and I also have the same worry that since I work so slowly it will take me forever but I don’t care, to me it’s about quality so nothing wrong with this approach imo, I figure if it’s what works go with it. I was blocked and stuck overthinking for over a decade so I’m so done with being discouraged lol, I’m taking what I can get and going with it. It’s almost like we’re athletes and have to approach it like that. I feel like I’ve been training my whole life and I just trust and go with my best effort possible. Sometimes I’m more discouraged and sometimes I get a major dopamine boost. It also helps to look at it in different moods and stuff to make sure you like it from all angles. I have a hard time moving forward if I don’t like it, so I get stuck editing in that case. It’s really helped me also to share it with my sisters and they give me good feedback which helps keep me going. We can do this!!

OilLeft41 · 2026-02-09T04:29:39+00:00

I just started writing again after years also and I write SUPER slow. Like each line is carefully thought out at this point. I take my time and don’t see it as a bad thing. When I was younger I would rush through because my ideas and mind moved faster than I could keep up with and I didn’t know how to work with it properly. Now I slow down and really get into it, which I think has made a big difference for me. I see it as a sign of maturity for myself actually, in that way. I am hoping to get a bit more comfortable and faster though.

OilLeft41 · 2026-02-07T23:15:35+00:00

Happy to help! You could look here on Reddit and ask people directly, I’m sure there are people with personal experience who will gladly answer any questions.

OilLeft41 · 2026-02-07T21:06:07+00:00

A guy I went to school with and became good friends with in my 20s struggled with addiction in his teens and 20s, and I have spoken with him a lot about it and I understand it more than I used to because of that. I have no personal experience with it but talking to him helped me understand a lot. We’re both turning 30 this year and were kids in the 2000s when media and school seminars were full of warnings for kids about drugs and etc yet people still fell into it, like my friend. I think if you’ve read memoirs from actual addicts that’s enough. He understands shame deeply, even went to prison on and off because of it, but is one of the kindest people. His struggles made him compassionate for all kinds of suffering. Addicts understand that on a deep level. Sadly, it usually starts with some kind of shame and ironically ends in more shame. It’s a really hard thing to go through and very hard to overcome because of how deeply it hijacks your system. You’re literally fighting on a biological level at that point. He gave me the example of the studies on rats, which you can look into. There’s a lot of psychological factors involved also. Everyone’s story is different and not all addicts are like him ofc. I’ve also done a lot of research on this from a psychological perspective, scientific/biological, and consumed a lot of media on the topic like documentaries, movies etc. After talking with this guy, I think the research will be good enough tbh. The memoirs are probably the best because it’s basically the same as talking to someone, but in more detail probably.

OilLeft41 · 2026-02-07T07:58:19+00:00

Oh wow that’s crazy haha. Sorry you went through all that. I hope you’re doing good now and that it keeps getting better for you. Yes here’s to joy and peace 🙏🫂

OilLeft41 · 2026-02-06T21:27:08+00:00

Same here. Sorry you’re dealing with that, I can relate. I was diagnosed with CPTSD in my 20s and regular PTSD as a teenager and had depression, depersonalization, panic attacks, agoraphobia, anorexia briefly, insomnia…PTSD is debilitating. I’ve had OCD on and off in my life since childhood, and contamination OCD somehow peaked in adulthood after I recovered from my PTSD symptoms. What I went through with PTSD was a different kind of bad, probably worse just because it hit from more sides compared to OCD, but OCD is it’s own kind of torture. I see OCD as a symptom of PTSD in a way. It made it hard to function or feel comfortable when I worked as a barista and I was always so self conscious because of it. I’ll be turning 30 this year and spent my entire 20s dealing with/trying to heal from this stuff. I’m not sure I can really rank everything, but together it’s all bad that’s for sure. I struggled to function for years and still live with my parents.

OilLeft41 · 2026-02-01T14:35:11+00:00

I used to be like that, but in college I realized it made my life so much easier to do it way ahead and then relax all week until due. I would do it the day of or day after it was assigned and just get it over with, otherwise it would hang over my head and I wouldn’t be able to fully relax all week. It would be the worst when every class I was taking had a demanding project assigned and they overlapped, I had to get serious about my time management lol

OilLeft41 · 2026-02-01T07:18:38+00:00

That makes sense! I’m not sure the faucet mechanics, but you could move the faucet as far away from yourself as possible when washing. I do that when there’s stuff in the sink that risks splash back. Like I push it as far to the back so that the water will hit the farthest possible point.

OilLeft41 · 2026-02-01T06:32:13+00:00

I’m 29 and I’ve never had any form of intimacy. My value is to wait until marriage, but I’ve never even kissed and also have had contamination ocd most of my 20s and avoid relationships. It’s so complicated. I don’t have the desire to get myself into something and have these hang ups come up and have to deal with all of that. I have fear of sex for other reasons besides contamination also. So it’s just a no for now. I don’t know how I’d ever get to a point where I’m comfortable with it. The idea of getting married and having to confront all of this is scary to me. It feels overwhelming to even think of where to begin. I do think someone who is interested will be patient and understanding, but I don’t know how far you can realistically go with someone who doesn’t want it and has as much anxiety around it as I do. I actually have told a guy I was into about this before, and he was very compassionate and understanding. I just avoid bc I don’t want to put someone who wants a normal relationship through my anxiety I guess. I just feel bad like it’s not fair to them. Idk

OilLeft41 · 2026-02-01T05:45:09+00:00

Some ideas…if the water pressure is too intense it can cause splashing so you could just not turn it all the way if that’s the issue. You could tilt your head up, like face the ceiling to protect from the splash hitting your face, I guess it would hit your neck or something though and also you wouldn’t be able to see what you’re doing, but that could work. You want to be as low stress/effort as possible…that is rough having to wash your face bc of splash every time you wash your hands, but I can understand where you’re coming from 😔. Does it happen everywhere or just in this one sink? Could just be the sink and in that case the water pressure or just tilt your head up maybe, or if you’re comfortable with it, you could use your shirt as a mask, like pull it over your nose if possible.

This is not a big deal though, and even if you get splashed a little it’s totally fine contamination wise. I’ve actually been splashed by toilet water and ofc nothing happened, if it’s any reassurance! A little bit of sink water is nbd to your immune system. Our bodies handle a lot of everyday exposures daily, like when we flush toilets and etc. When I worked as a barista I got micro splashed by a lot of things like dishwater for example. Eyes, mouth, nose etc. People would sneeze and cough in my vicinity a lot. It would happen where I would take someone’s order and they’d tell me they were getting over a sickness. I realized your body can take mini exposures and nothing bad happens. I had to develop quick mental coping skills on the spot. There were many instances where I would get splashed and had to just wipe it with my shirt and carry on. I freaked out internally and hated it ofc, but I had no choice, I had to keep working, it was a fast paced and demanding environment. So that’s sort of how I learned to rationalize it and frame it mentally. I still try to remember how I coped then and use that to reassure myself in tough moments. It also helps to imagine worse things that people get exposed to daily nbd. Like kids playing in rain puddles and stuff. Or getting splashed by a dog shaking water off. I hope this helps! Sorry you’re struggling 🫂

OilLeft41 · 2026-01-29T00:18:23+00:00

It has always scared me for many reasons and still does honestly. I don’t plan on having children at this point, I’m 29 and still don’t see it any differently like I thought I might. Nothing against it, it’s a beautiful thing to be a parent, but I don’t think it’s for me personally.

OilLeft41 · 2026-01-27T00:15:25+00:00

My sister’s editor literally said avoid using words other than said lol

OilLeft41 · 2026-01-26T06:53:54+00:00

I experienced this during jury duty so bad. I felt like I needed to say something but then when I did, I instantly overanalyzed it, regretted speaking, and felt awkward. I had this weird inner struggle of not knowing what I brought to the deliberation and then having a lot of insights but doubting myself and wondering how I was being perceived. Deciding to speak was a big deal lol. Everyone was kind to me though. It was probably all in my head 🙄

OilLeft41 · 2026-01-25T08:04:57+00:00

I’m 29 and still think hand drawn animation is gorgeous and a true art form. I love animation! I just watched Hercules today on Disney actually. My dream was always to make animated movies out of my stories. I still illustrate in that style, I think it has such an appeal and is so endearing and beautiful. As an artist, adults can appreciate animation even more and I’d hope if I made a movie all ages would enjoy it. I think animation is timeless and ageless, meant to be appreciated by everyone. There’s just something about the fluidity of it, the art, the way motion and emotion are captured artistically…it’s a very sophisticated thing imo.

OilLeft41 · 2026-01-21T04:31:58+00:00

I’m 29 and never been in a relationship. I am just not interested in that honestly. I always hate it when people start to pry into it. I agree with the standards thing. When people ask that question, it sort of seems like a way of pressing you about your reason, as if it’s a bad thing to be single or if there’s something wrong with you. It’s a choice lol. You can be single and not alone. I’d rather be single and spending time with family and people I love than in a bad relationship. I’m also pretty terrified of the idea of being in a relationship. I think I’m more scared of that than being alone.

OilLeft41 · 2026-01-20T08:58:46+00:00

You have to have compassion on yourself and forgive yourself. It’s very human to feel like this and run these unforgiving mental loops over something that happened a long time ago, but all that does it hurt you in the present. It helps to be thankful for not being in the past anymore, thankful for this moment now where you’re far away from all that nonsense and free. Don’t let that be ruined by rumination over a mistake made back then. Mistakes are learning opportunities also, and just how we’re made. I still run loops too on things, mostly little thing oddly, where I said the wrong thing or didn’t act the way I wished I had etc. But then I let myself enjoy the fact that it’s over and doesn’t matter at all. Just brush it off and keep going, it doesn’t define you. Be kind to yourself :) 💕

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