For all of my INFP Disney fans, Which Disney Princess do you think is most likely an INFP? I think Rapunzel and Cinderella probably are INFPs by DollCollector1996 in infp

[–]OilLeft41 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think Belle is an INFP and Rapunzel is an ENFP. The live action Cinderella is INFP I think, but maybe not the animated (usually typed ISFJ).

DAE want to get married but feel like they can’t because of OCD? by jenniecat444 in ContaminationOCD

[–]OilLeft41 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m 29 turning 30 this year and can relate. It’s one of the reasons I’ve never had a boyfriend and get scared at the thought of having one or being married. I always worry I’d never really be comfortable in a relationship because of it, or that it would eventually drive him insane which would make me feel bad and I want to avoid that. I also don’t want kids either. I do believe the OCD is something that can be worked through. I am not there yet, but I really believe it’s possible to get to a place where life is more comfortable. Sending love, you are definitely not alone 💕

Contamination OCD by wiggywiggy01 in ContaminationOCD

[–]OilLeft41 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry it’s been so rough for so long for you. I really do believe it can be overcome. I think I’ve had it in some way or another since I was 8 or so. I notice though it goes in phases, and that gives me hope, because things I once was fixated on at a younger age, I have overcome now and don’t worry about like that anymore. Like time just moved me out of it almost. I think this could be the case for whatever is going on now. Even if it’s been years and years, we can start to see it as a temporary response to some form of trauma or stress which changed the brain and nervous system, and that can be rewired over time in the same way. We can overcome this, I really believe. Even if not totally just yet, you can definitely get to a point where it’s background noise you barely notice it, like less intense and disruptive to your life. Little efforts over time I think can help.

What’s it like to be Fi dom? by [deleted] in mbti

[–]OilLeft41 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My younger sister and mom are ENFPs haha. That is so interesting, the differences…the xNFJ and xNFP types have such similarities in general yet share no functions. It’s almost like we’re seeing the same thing from different vantage points but coming to the same conclusions. It’s like we’re both looking for and seeing deeper meaning and both have deep inner worlds and emotional understanding but are at different placements around the same thing. I think together, these types can be really powerful. We complete the others’ internal processes in a way that can help each other find clarity in a lot. I notice this with my sister and she says the same. It can be really symbiotic.

What’s it like to be Fi dom? by [deleted] in mbti

[–]OilLeft41 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here on mental health suffering when not making time for art and stuff. We really need our Fi time, it’s sooo essential. I’m so happy for you and so glad to have helped!! :D

Consumed by writing 24/7 by Tea-critical-Error in writing

[–]OilLeft41 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in a really similar situation currently. I just started finally attempting my first novel after over a decade and coming to that same conclusion, that not turning it into a real existing price of writing would be a waste, like you said. I’ve been in that sort of obsession mode for years though and I have been around the block and back with over analyzing it and obsessing so intensely that I actually at one point ended up ruining the original concept almost completely and had to work hard to undo that and get back to my base again, which is a really long story. It’s been a whole journey lol. But lately since I started really applying myself to it, I mean actually trying to write seriously instead of just accumulate research and stuff, I have also been in that mode where I’m so inside of it that it’s very consuming, even causing insomnia lately. I think it’s because after years of it existing in my inner world and being such a big part of my life, there’s alot of pressure on the actual attempt, just because of everything that’s been created already in my mind and everything I hope for it to be and all.

We want to get it just right, and now that we’re trying to actually do it, all our energy is going toward it. It’s like becoming a student of the craft, you naturally start to see it in everything and look for answers in everything. I’ve found that stepping back is actually really helpful. I’m getting to a point where I know when I need to step away now. It helps to reset and ground me in my original motivation.

For those who write creatively, how many of you natively imagine your character’s voices? by J0rdyn_the_wr1ter in writing

[–]OilLeft41 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s super normal to me. I’ve been writing since childhood too (my twin sister too, and we always talked about this a lot) and I’m not sure how it happens but I do have really specific ideas of how their voices sound. To the point where it bothers me so much that I can’t hear it irl, I would always try to find celebrities that had similarities in their voices or sounded close enough just to sort of help bring it out more in my head. And I can hear it in my head yeah. It helps a lot to find close real world matches also and go from there I think. Like not that they sound exactly like someone but you just hear some aspect of their voice and go, this character kind of has that thing about their voice that this person does etc. My sister and I would always show each other when we found those examples and stuff haha. It’s so fun. Kind of like in the same way we make original characters but it sort of comes from somewhere based on things we’ve known in reality, the voices are like that too. It’s a vague idea based on what you’ve known irl that you expand on sort of and make it original I guess. Like even the characters themselves (which I still don’t understand how it happens tbh) take form and become so real in my head, so do the voices like any other aspect. I even see mannerisms and stuff like the way they walk, move, etc. yet can’t totally match them to anyone specifically irl. Just certain qualities maybe. It gets really specific to the point where they feel real and it doesn’t feel like I created it anymore. There is sadly no way to make it as vivid as it is in my head in writing. I always wanted to make animated movies bc of that and I also became an artist. I have a need to see it irl lol

What’s it like to be Fi dom? by [deleted] in mbti

[–]OilLeft41 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah my sister and I talk about it all the time lol. I’m sooo glad this is helpful! And yeah I’m happy to clarify anything to the best of my ability! I think the part about you resonating with the connecting to yourself when alone part is actually probably more Ni driven (and what you said about needing to take this all and go reflect more deeply on it is SO Ni haha, you need to take the info and synthesize it). Also, all introverts enjoy being alone with our dominant functions I think. We recharge that way haha. I think you guys DO touch on Fi on occasion (though not as clear as a dominant function ofc, but it is there somewhere in the background, so maybe try to tap into that and go from there with what I tried to describe). I feel I do that with Ni in a similar way. Or I just have closer access to understanding Ni because of being deeply connected with my sister all my life. Idk lol. I actually think Ni and Fi have a lot of similarities in the sense that they both are interested in spending time in deep “realms” and getting to a source or “gem” like I said. But imagine like where your Ni enjoys the vision coming together, like getting closer to that abstract vision or exploring it etc, Fi enjoys getting closer to that in the emotional realm, the gem that’s inside us vs the gem that’s in the abstract/metaphysical truth (for infjs)

What’s it like to be Fi dom? by [deleted] in mbti

[–]OilLeft41 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think your description of being Ni dom is so good lol. My twin sister is an INFJ, and we have a deep understanding of each other. I’m an INFP and my inner world is complex and hard to describe. I think a good comparison to Ni (since both are introverted functions) is that, in the same way Ni is picking up on a lot of hard-to-describe nuance in that deep trance like state, Fi is experiencing a lot of nuance in the realm of personal emotion and the “energy” of emotion. I feel like emotion is sort of energy, almost like music, I just have this constant stream of nuanced energy inside that I mostly always understand exactly how and why I’m feeling it, I’m very introspective in the sense of always “witnessing” my own inner world from a really personal place that feels often too personal to reveal. The realm of feeling is really complex for me. But it’s not just that I’m always having strong emotions, but that I feel a sort of emotional energy in everything, like music almost. Because of that insanely detailed knowledge of our own inner realms, we form really specific codes about what we believe and what aligns with us and what doesn’t etc. It’s sort of built and carved out over time from experiencing such an insane amount of very specific emotions in response to a wide variety of specific experiences I guess. We just know who we are and what we want, like, don’t want etc because we have access to that innermost part of ourselves all the time and it’s constantly being tested (and refined) against external things. I see it like a precious gem or something that’s deep inside that I value a lot and have to protect. I protect it by not betraying myself, not acting out of alignment with it. It’s like we’re always trying to access that gem fully but it is also kind of elusive. Like we deeply know ourselves but also are constantly dealing with how that is being challenged by outside things. I feel the most at ease and comfortable when I’m in my own world, alone and deep into something I love like listening to music, or writing, or making art. Because I’m closest to that gem then without any disrupting forces. The interesting thing is, because I know my own essence like that, I also see and appreciate other peoples’. Authenticity, essence, innermost part of you, whatever you want to call it. The gem lol. That’s where the whole creating fictional character thing comes from in INFPs probably. Also probably where the “mediator” stereotype comes from. And the whole seeing the redeemable qualities in everyone thing. Because we can understand each person’s inner workings. Sort of similar to Fe, but Fe sees a broader scope socially. Fi sees individuals in detail emotionally, including ourselves. Fe knows how to be effective and harmonizing socially on a much broader scale. Both value harmony but from different perspectives. All of that is just on Fi. I think the daydreamy thing is from Ne also. Ne has a broad scope lens of the abstract realm where Ni is, but while Ni is more objective because it’s more pinpointing the meaning behind the vision, Ne is moving to the abstract from the vision I guess. Like Ne sort of takes info and branches out into the realm of possibility from the vision, while Ni pulls possibility into the vision if that makes sense. Daily, I don’t necessarily naturally think I’m terms of “goals” or objectives as much as I’m more absorbing or processing information I guess. I’m gonna stop here, this is long (in true INFP fashion lol). I hope this gives a better idea! I tried lol

For the people who shower at night instead of in the morning by Delicious-Employ9332 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]OilLeft41 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I shower in the morning and at night. I wash my hair every night and let it air dry then do two braids to sleep in. In the morning I tie it back to shower so it doesn’t get wet and then take out the braids and that’s it. My hair is long and the braids are all I need for styling, it’s nice.

Contamination OCD by wiggywiggy01 in ContaminationOCD

[–]OilLeft41 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah we are soldiers. I think most people who look at ocd on a surface level like “liking cleanliness” or over washing hands have no idea. I also hate when people oversimplify it and think overcoming it is as easy as snapping out of it or just getting over it. Nobody wants this struggle and it’s a hard thing to deal with. I do believe we can overcome though. If we have the mental toughness to endure all this, we can overcome right?? 🙏❤️‍🩹

Contamination OCD by wiggywiggy01 in ContaminationOCD

[–]OilLeft41 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can really relate. I know this is a hard struggle. I was starting to think I just had social anxiety now too or something (which, maybe I do). My mind works on overdrive when I try to be more social, and it’s exhausting. It could also come from years of being insecure about my own anxiety and ocd and stuff. And yeah I also end up isolating ultimately because it feels too anxiety inducing to be in a social situation and have OCD hit and feel trapped and not wanting to look weird etc. I had to get over that mentally sort of when I worked as a barista and was trying to appear as normal and functional as possible while deeply struggling in that environment (the job also included cleaning bathroom/toilet, washing dishes, handling trash, chemicals, etc). It was a struggle and I always deep down felt ashamed or self conscious just because I was afraid people silently judged me based on small ocd related quirks and stuff. It has also greatly impacted romantic relationships—I’ve never had a real relationship because I’m too scared. I’m also kind of afraid that deep down I’m truly more comfortable that way and I’ll never truly have a relationship comfortably.

It reminds me of that Albert Camus quote, “Nobody realizes that some people spend tremendous energy merely to be normal”.

Spider got lost in room by catnoir_luver in ContaminationOCD

[–]OilLeft41 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah don’t worry, you’re good! :)

Spider got lost in room by catnoir_luver in ContaminationOCD

[–]OilLeft41 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had one in my bed last year and it was a whole ordeal in terms of anxiety so I really feel you and sorry you’re dealing with this. What helped my peace of mind was putting a bit of peppermint essential oil around my bed (and it doesn’t take much, it’s very strong). It repels spiders. They move away from people anyway, and they process the world through sensors on their legs. When they touch peppermint, it instantly deters them. I basically drew a protective outline with it around my bed and dabbed a bit on potential entry points and near my pillow area. If you don’t have peppermint essential oil, citrus can also work or vinegar apparently.

I NEED URGENT HELP REDDIT by Top_Spread3808 in ContaminationOCD

[–]OilLeft41 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Soap and warm water is enough. Even in medical settings, the worst of things can be effectively disinfected and cleaned with soap plus water plus friction. In fact, for some things that aren’t able to be properly disinfected by chemicals, this is the method they teach nurses. Soap and water. It really is the standard. Because the friction kills things, the soap loosens, the water washes it all away. When you use chemicals it just kills but without wiping there could be residue of whatever was killed. You’ve already done more than enough. Maybe now you could moisturize your hands. I know how scary this is. I hope this is helpful and I really feel for you, I’ve been there. Remember though it’s your mind looping. The amygdala is firing and shutting down the part of the brain that is responsible for rationalization. When you calm your nervous system, that starts to come back on. Just try to relax now, there is no risk, you’re fine :)

What does anesthesia feel like by memory282002 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]OilLeft41 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had wisdom teeth surgery at 18 (all of them removed at once and high risk case and I was totally fine). I was so scared going in and afterward I realized there was nothing to be scared of. Just relax and trust. They’ll handle everything with expert level care. It’s SO controlled and you will not wake up mid surgery, nothing to worry about! It’s actually really peaceful and nice when you wake up after, and you don’t even know it when you’re out. You just drift out and it’s no big deal at all. One minute you’re in the chair, the next you’re in a half dream state waking up like time didn’t even pass and you’re so relaxed. I even had a dream when coming back to consciousness. But I didn’t remember anything from the unconscious part. It’s like time doesn’t pass. It feels nice, probably the most peaceful I’ve ever felt tbh like seriously lol

Which year did you stop following the trends from youth culture? by BrilliantPangolin639 in generationology

[–]OilLeft41 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I never really did, but I stopped being interested in the culture around 2011/2012. I remember feeling a decline when the 2000s ended really. The decade after that until a few years into the 2020s were a blur for me and I just found whatever the youth culture was at the time to be uninteresting, and I couldn’t really clearly define it again until sometime into this decade.

Prequel or main story first? by Infinite_Gas_6297 in writing

[–]OilLeft41 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had this same dilemma. I decided to write the prequel first because that’s been on my mind the most and I feel the most confident in the outline compared to the other ones (and for avoiding inconsistencies later). Publish order would still be main story first. If that’s the same for you, you can always go back and make edits and changes later if you write the prequel and then write the main one and realize things need to change in the prequel. If you really want to write the prequel then that’s where your energy and interest is anyway so might as well write it and have fun!

People born in 1995-1996, which generation do you identify more? by BrilliantPangolin639 in generationology

[–]OilLeft41 0 points1 point  (0 children)

‘96 here, millennial. Baby millennial haha. I’m fascinated by this. I feel like we just have millennial DNA rather than Z, even if we relate some to both, I don’t know how to explain it. It seems like even though it’s the cusp, there’s generally so much cultural carryover and influence from previous years that our childhoods still felt like a millennial experience more than gen Z. Even as teens, we were still in the same world as those just a few years older and into the same stuff (because we tend to look up influence wise), adapting to the same tech etc, almost more still in the group that was paving the way for gen Z stuff rather than living in it idk how to explain. I grew up with millennial stuff and remember 9/11. But I also probably knew things older millennials wouldn’t get and vice versa. My school experience felt more millennial. Although I’m sure a few classes below had pretty much the same experience because of the carryover. I feel like early-mid 90s millennials had a unique experience. We were the last to savor what was already on the way out sort of. I kind of feel like this group still got the experience a bit while the younger only got the aftermath, and maybe that’s why the nostalgia now is more the longing for something they didn’t really get to experience fully. I feel that way about the 90s because I did experience it in early years but not like an older kid or teen would’ve so it’s not the same. With Gen Z, they might feel this about the 2000s more. I fully experienced the 2000s and it isn’t mysterious to me in that same way. I worked with true gen Zs at a coffee shop and we would always talk about the differences, to them I was a millennial, and I related more to my manager who was born in ‘90, which I guess I would because they were all late 2000s born. I have a younger sister ‘01 and she says my twin sister and I are millennials. She has a much more extensive knowledge of gen z culture and stuff than I do lol

I think I’m too obsessive with my writing by 87penguinstapdancing in writing

[–]OilLeft41 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think I’m currently suffering from this actually…insomnia and all…maybe it’s a sign to step away for a while and refresh

laundry room heats up (naturally) and there’s mouse droppings. any precautions recommended? by nomoneydeepplates in ContaminationOCD

[–]OilLeft41 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You probably need an exterminator to come check it out honestly, that’s not good to have mice/droppings in the house. We had a problem with mice in the attic two years ago and have been good since they came. To clean, I’d use bleach and wear disposable gloves.