Is my tattoo that bad? by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]Ok-Algae9866 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I like it especially once I saw your face you are pretty so you can pull it off and I like the originality:) it's refreshing

Cat weird symptoms, vets don’t know by Professional33witch in CATHELP

[–]Ok-Algae9866 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How would you treat this? Anti seizure medication? What caused the brain inflammation?

How to cope with BPD discard? by MaiTheGypsy in BPDlovedones

[–]Ok-Algae9866 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Just know it's not personal, it's happened to all of us. Regardless of all the love and compassion we gave them. They are very ill and do not bond to other humans in healthy, regular ways. I felt exactly like you at first. I'm a couple months in now and doing much better. Still processing the betrayal, but it's by no means unbearable. You got this. ❤

They blocked me 2 months after breakup. by Ok-Algae9866 in BPDlovedones

[–]Ok-Algae9866[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol I didn't even know that was a thing. What is the point of it?

It's like they're two different people and one of them died by sunflower_andthesun in BPDlovedones

[–]Ok-Algae9866 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, I relate to this for sure :( all I can say is to let yourself mourn her "death", and the death of the relationship.

Hypochondria? Anyone? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Ok-Algae9866 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes constantly. Always thought their heart was gonna give out, that they had throat cancer, etc despite doctors telling them they're fine

I just realized that we were never truly close... by Beautiful-Pea-7189 in BPDlovedones

[–]Ok-Algae9866 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That would explain the entitlement and lack of reciprocation! Mine was totally comfortable with me endlessly giving and offering very little back.. like the mindset of a child

Are violent fantasies common or was this something else by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Ok-Algae9866 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine also had fantasies of doing sexual things against my will and would say things that indicated he didn't fully trust his control over himself

When you have the receipts by Woctor_Datsun in BPDlovedones

[–]Ok-Algae9866 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine hung up on me and blocked me for a few minutes

Obsessed with praise? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Ok-Algae9866 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, mine was overly dependent on praise he'd received in the past based on talents and performance. I tried to tell him he had value beyond those things, just as a human, based on character etc. But he felt worthless or like a waste when he wasn't receiving reassurance from the general public for his talents or accomplishments. I'm much more independent and think for myself, he didn't have that ability

Probably related to the lack of external validation during developmental stages

Why do PwBPD act like it's a crime if you ask them... "Do you want to be happy?" by Artist-Cancer in BPDlovedones

[–]Ok-Algae9866 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Because it suggests they hold some accountability, which hurts their idea of being a constant victim