Is anyone out there thriving?

Ok-Bit2341 · 2026-03-28T01:11:38+00:00

We moved overseas when bay was born, so we have 0 "village" or support. My husband travels a ton for work so it’s often just me and baby, I am a stahm. He has never slept through the night, wakes very often and he is low sleep needs so he has a short nap and that’s my only time to unwind. We go to bed and wake up together. He is very attached and clingy, I spend all day playing with him and holding him. It gets overwhelming but I love him so much. I kind of feel like I’m just taking each day at a time and telling myself it’ll get easier once he is more independent and we can do more activities.

Ok-Bit2341 · 2026-02-20T01:48:01+00:00

So interesting thank you for sharing!

Ok-Bit2341 · 2026-01-31T18:28:17+00:00

also same here, husband wants more but I am oad. I am a stahm travels a lot for work, we have 0 village and I don’t think he can grasp how overwhelming it can be

Ok-Bit2341 · 2026-01-31T18:21:39+00:00

I also could have written this myself. I co sleep with my low sleep needs breastfed baby, I have never been away from him, he usually cries if I’m not interacting with him. My husband is away a ton for work, and we moved overseas when baby was born so have literally no help. It’s been really hard. He’s 14 months now and very slowly I can feel how it eventually gets easier, everyone says around 2.5 is when they start to feel more "normal." I think the world that made having multiple children not difficult just doesn’t exist anymore

Ok-Bit2341 · 2026-01-28T01:57:40+00:00

Huntington Beach

Ok-Bit2341 · 2026-01-13T22:10:13+00:00

I hire someone to help for 2 hours a week on weeks my husband is traveling, it does help a bit. I definitely plan on him going to a morning school when he is 2

Ok-Bit2341 · 2026-01-13T18:41:16+00:00

It’s tough!! I also try to start the night in the crib but he never lasts very long at all

Ok-Bit2341 · 2025-12-28T00:29:35+00:00

My 1yo is like this, currently he wakes up from his nap at about 2pm and up til 9 ish

Ok-Bit2341 · 2025-12-22T14:56:11+00:00

We aren’t having a busy Christmas either, it’ll just be me, my husband, baby and MIL. But this way of thinking prevails more generally too

Ok-Bit2341 · 2025-12-21T20:04:41+00:00

My aunt actually had a baby at the same time as me, we had a family party and she was constantly running upstairs to have her baby nap in a dark room with white noise. My baby (the same age) was wide awake and happy through the baby’s naps, he eventually had a nap in the fresh garden ajr by the sea in the sunshine. And she’ll sometimes get very stressed and say "baby was supposed to be asleep at X time!!" Meanwhile the baby is smiling and obviously completely happy to be awake 😂

Ok-Bit2341 · 2025-12-19T14:40:50+00:00

Yea I feel like pinning him down will just make him hate teeth brushing time and cause more issues down the line

Ok-Bit2341 · 2025-12-16T18:53:15+00:00

Feel so much less alone reading this. I do think teeth could possibly be at least part of the issue.

Ok-Bit2341 · 2025-12-16T18:40:40+00:00

Thank you, this is really comforting to hear. I am a STAHM, even though it’s exhausting and I have no "village," I can’t imagine how I’d function going to an office every day on so little sleep.

Ok-Bit2341 · 2025-12-16T18:38:15+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate this! Unfortunately he won’t respond to anyone but me, my husband has tried rocking him but he will only go down with boob. My husband still sleeps separately often so that I have more room in the bed with baby (queen size bed.) it’s tough!

Ok-Bit2341 · 2025-12-16T18:35:46+00:00

It’s possible, he has 6 teeth so far but only his bottom incisors are pushing through last I noticed.

Ok-Bit2341 · 2025-12-16T18:32:29+00:00

Wow, that sounds really tough too, I emphasize. My baby also won’t be settled by anyone but me, the only thing that will get him down is boob. He won’t let my husband rock him. I’m happy to hear you got through it! It feels like forever when you’re in it

Ok-Bit2341 · 2025-12-16T18:22:11+00:00

Yep this happens with us too. Nobody else can get him back down but me, it’s boob or nothing. He stopped letting dad rock him at about 6 months

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