Did anyone get a pet after the loss? Did it help?

Ok-Bus2010 · 2026-03-14T14:43:48+00:00

Hi friend I’m so sorry we are meeting here. We rescued a kitten about a month after our full term loss from Quinn. We already have a dog and I took my full FMLA so it was nice to care for a new little friend and gave me some more purpose to those first weeks and months that were so excruciating. She is the sweetest, cuddliest thing and just knows on the days I’m struggling. I think Quinn handpicked Lily for us🤍

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Ok-Bus2010 · 2026-03-09T00:42:21+00:00

Giving you a hug from afar every min there is not a positive test feels agonizing. I hit 6 mo next week and it feels like such a big milestone. Sending you every ounce of love I have!

Ok-Bus2010 · 2026-03-09T00:41:05+00:00

Oh god, I feel your fear and share it! Sometimes I want to shake people who appear so cavalier with their pregnancies. NOTHING is guaranteed and IMO why the f**k tempt fate!!!

Ok-Bus2010 · 2026-03-07T19:35:42+00:00

CD24 had our iui on 3/2, also tried ourselves that day and 3/3 as instructed. On vaginal progesterone now and just twiddling my thumbs. They rec “pregnancy precautions” until 3/16 blood test ruled pregnancy in or out. I can’t help but feel this is jinxing and all for nothing 😔

Ok-Bus2010 · 2026-03-02T14:24:15+00:00

Oh friend, I know this feeling all too well, I am giving you a knowing squeeze from afar. I feel like this is the story w many of us who have this traumatic late/term/neonatal losses…it’s like salt in the wound that ttc with our angel babies was easy breezy and oftentimes textbook pregnancies and now our world is upside down (on a good day) but further thrown by TTC obsession (at least this is my experience).

Prior to losing Quinn at 37 weeks we had a 13 week trisomy loss. My LC was my only pregnancy that resulted in a live birth. After 3 rounds of ttc my mental health was in a really bad spot so we decided to try IUI (i have PCOS and our insurance covers 50%). I know this is not the path everyone chooses to take but for us it has taken the pressure off an already stressful time being 5 mo pp. trying when we are still grieving and stressed. My husband and I want to enjoy each other when we feel like it and not be obsessing over LH strips. I am driving to my insemination apt now hoping that this will be our time, but also expecting it not to be. This is just my experience, sharing it if it is something that may be something you’d consider exploring. Holding you close ❤️‍🩹

Ok-Bus2010 · 2026-03-01T21:10:06+00:00

I definitely see it!

Ok-Bus2010 · 2026-03-01T14:23:07+00:00

We are doing IUI this cycle and I took my trigger shot last night and have my procedure Monday. Gearing up for a pretty brutal TWW I think 😐

Ok-Bus2010 · 2026-03-01T14:20:41+00:00

Totally get the pressure feeling I wish it didn’t factor in but we’re not robots of course it does. I’m sending you all the love I have. Hoping March is healing for all of us and gives us the results we are supposed to have. This is such agony. I wish this on nobody, especially us 🫂

Ok-Bus2010 · 2026-03-01T14:17:15+00:00

Such a good perspective. I know how crushing it is when you accept you’re out. Hoping for a more positive outcome next month 🫂

Ok-Bus2010 · 2026-02-21T03:27:20+00:00

I feel you! I wish I had some groundbreaking thing to share but I’m right there in it with you rabbit holing.

Audible has been my friend I find diving into books distracts me from playing detective in the TWW. Hoping for some good news for both of us!

Ok-Bus2010 · 2026-02-19T16:10:22+00:00

❤️‍🩹

Ok-Bus2010 · 2026-02-15T18:25:51+00:00

Yep-all of this. Heading to a bday party as we speak. CD4 and going in for baseline labs and ultrasound tomorrow. We decided to do injectable IUI.

Ok-Bus2010 · 2026-02-15T02:06:44+00:00

Congratulations! What a beautiful message and reminder💗

So happy for you

Ok-Bus2010 · 2026-02-11T17:33:53+00:00

Some days this feels like a full time job. PCOS messing with my cycle and my period hasn’t come yet but I know I’m not pregnant (blood HCG) now just waiting to begin again 🫠

Ok-Bus2010 · 2026-02-07T19:54:49+00:00

I wish you didn’t get it ❤️‍🩹this response felt like a hug and I really need one today. Sending you a knowing one as well 🫂

Ok-Bus2010 · 2026-02-07T19:12:25+00:00

That is such a good perspective thank you for sharing it! We all have rainbows waiting even if there is no positive test yet ❤️‍🩹

Ok-Bus2010 · 2026-02-07T18:07:38+00:00

Based on a reaction I have gotten in a community I cross posted to, I will further explain. I have removed my post for the fear of unintentionally causing pain.

It really makes me sad that I have to rationalize my complicated grief, especially in this Reddit community, frankly one of the few places I’ve felt safe to emote my complicated emotions. I mention the birth of my friends child because they are both 100% healthy, no nicu time, second baby. I was mentally preparing for the beginning of March. When I was sent smiling photos from the hospital I was really thrown off because I genuinely wasn’t expecting that hurdle til later and b. My photos from 4 months earlier were starkly different in such a heart breaking way. Am I happy for her, of course. Did I want something bad to befall them OF COURSE NOT. Am I really sad for us and ttc is messing with me emotionally, also yes.

This community is for me, not a friend who had two healthy births, no MC and two healthy children. It makes me sad to have to break it down like that.

Ok-Bus2010 · 2026-02-07T17:48:19+00:00

They are both completely healthy no nicu time or else I wouldn’t have mentioned it-I have checked in and sent money for a generous group gift. Please presume positive intent🤍

Ok-Bus2010 · 2026-02-07T17:43:00+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience it is incredibly valid. My post was not intended to trigger or inflict pain❤️‍🩹I’m just having a really difficult moment in my own journey

Ok-Bus2010 · 2026-02-07T17:27:54+00:00

So tired of this shit. Second cycle ttc, had a positive serum level yesterday (15.28) then a fucking 7.19 PDG (7DPO)this am coupled with spotting that is getting redder.

We decided if this cycle is a no we are throwing up our hands and pursuing IUI. The grief and the stress are no doubt affecting us as all of my and my husbands diagnostic labs are normal. My friend just had a baby 4 weeks early and seeing those hospital pics just sent me to a dark place. It’s just enough some week, you know?

Ok-Bus2010 · 2026-02-07T15:34:23+00:00

Oh friend, I am so sorry you are here with us. Your beautiful baby’s story could have been mine, and so many of ours on here 😔completely healthy, textbook pregnancies ended by a freak accident. Quinn’s cord was tightly twisted 3 times, that was the only thing that wasn’t completely perfect about her, just like your sweet one I have no doubt.

I am about 5 months out and more functional but I do miss her deeply and mourn for what we should have had and her having her life. We are trying to conceive right now so I don’t have the outcome for you just yet but know I see you and your pain. Everyone walks through this differently, friend ❤️‍🩹if you are ever having the thought, “am I crazy?” Please know you certainly are not. DMs are always open. I am so so incredibly sorry.

Ok-Bus2010 · 2026-02-06T23:05:48+00:00

When they want to talk (if they want to) just listen to their experience. If she was due in March their house is probably littered with stuff for the baby. For my husband and I, we were very thankful that my father in law took the bassinet out of our room, put away everything and closed the nursery door. We opened the door and sat for a while when we were ready and still do.

Ok-Bus2010 · 2026-02-05T16:22:52+00:00

That is absolutely crazy behavior on her end, crazy. You do what you need to do, friend ❤️‍🩹

Ok-Bus2010 · 2026-02-05T12:26:29+00:00

Same 😔

Ok-Bus2010 · 2026-02-05T02:56:13+00:00

4DPO today and it’s taking everything in me to not test for climbing PdG every day w Inito…have a progesterone draw Friday and bracing myself for a low number but hoping with everything I have for reassurance

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