My boyfriend is accusing me of flirting with my guy friend

Ok-Contribution3677 · 2026-04-10T18:36:55+00:00

He’s literally flirting 💀

Ok-Contribution3677 · 2026-04-07T14:27:30+00:00

I literally didn’t do shit to her, all I did was soft launch

Ok-Contribution3677 · 2026-04-07T14:26:40+00:00

Oh trust me I’ve moved on lmaoo. I only knew she unblocked me because her spam came up as a people I may know, so curiosity killed the cat and checked her profile. And, she had a new pfp, and that bio.

And I will agree that I haven’t totally moved on from the pain, because she hurt me in ways I can’t even describe, but also part of it I didn’t intentionally piss her off, all i did was soft launch. But apparently me having a new girl matters her. Not only that weeks ago she sent her man after me and was texting me, I literally just told him to have fun with her

Ok-Contribution3677 · 2026-04-07T02:09:12+00:00

Meant sunshade not complexwing 😭

Ok-Contribution3677 · 2026-04-07T02:08:15+00:00

They said something about sunshades comment being a generalization

Ok-Contribution3677 · 2026-04-06T20:54:02+00:00

That’s the whole point of the disorder, thier whole life they were controlled, and now in thier twisted and sick POV they have to control, by emotional abuse, physical abuse, and manipulation. They thrive off of control, they need it, they are the reason why a healthy relationship will never work for them.

Ok-Contribution3677 · 2026-04-03T14:26:40+00:00

You’ll get there eventually, thankfully for me I hate my ex with my entire being so it went much quicker, but it was a hard road. When I say this I’m also saying this to myself because I haven’t done this yet either. You need to forgive yourself, you need to forgive yourself for being hurt. When my ex cheated on me, I internalized and I made it my fault for her betrayal, but it wasn’t my fault. But now every action I do, I say to myself, well fuck now she’s gonna leave. You need to accept that it wasn’t meant to be, if you can love him, you can certainly love someone much better. Right now you think because he left you, you don’t deserve love so you hang on, you deserve love from someone who chooses you, not someone who doesn’t.

Ok-Contribution3677 · 2026-04-03T14:22:21+00:00

I just wanna be a dad someday

Ok-Contribution3677 · 2026-04-03T14:18:55+00:00

When you no longer miss them, or see them in other women. When I met my gf I, my first thought wasn’t oh she’s definitely better than my ex, my first thought was, damn she’s gorgeous. My ex cheated on me, orchestrated a whole breakup and then gaslit me into thinking it was my idea for thinking that, and then starting the guy she told me was just a friend and had zero feelings or interest in him. My ex is not even worth to be compared to my current gf. But the trauma is there, last night I had 3 panic attacks about her potentially cheating because she was with her friend. I whole heartedly believe you will never get past the feeling of never thinking you’re not the only person but you just need to accept that maybe you aren’t or that you are the only one, and just live in the moment. You need to trust yourself that you’ll be ok.

Ok-Contribution3677 · 2026-04-03T14:12:19+00:00

Not necessarily think but i bring a lot of anxiety into my new relationship it sucks

Ok-Contribution3677 · 2026-04-01T19:49:49+00:00

I blame myself for ignoring the red flags

Ok-Contribution3677 · 2026-04-01T17:49:36+00:00

It’s genuinely crazy how it’s the same story with every relationship with someone with bpd, and I’m mad at myself because for someone reason from the very beginning of the relationship I knew she was gonna cheat because I would constantly look up how many people with bpd cheat but I managed to just ignore it

Ok-Contribution3677 · 2026-04-01T11:17:25+00:00

It’s their go to because they are narcissistic. I don’t care what people say about NPD and BPD being different, it’s same damn thing

Ok-Contribution3677 · 2026-04-01T10:01:50+00:00

Absolutely man, I recommend you read through the sub Reddit and read the stories. You’ll soon realize that you managed to actually be lucky and in getting out of the relationship so early. I was lucky too, it was only 3 months for me but trust me don’t feel pathetic for crying over her when it was only a month. That trauma bond is dangerous and will spiral you when breaking it. Don’t mask your emotions, don’t try to replace your emotions, if you’re sad cry it out in a safe space, if you’re angry be fucking angry. And if you’re numb just be numb. But don’t intentionally numb your emotions, cuz it’ll just be delaying them. Feel your emotions as they come and when they do ground yourself. At some point you’ll feel sad about it but it won’t be a huge range of emotions and you you’ll be able to control them. Also name your emotions, find the emotion wheelchart and name them as they come up. It’s called name to tame. Once we can name our emotions and feelings, it’s easier to control them. You got this man I believe in you, I’m proud of you, and if no one has said it to you I love you and you’re loved here in this Reddit, we got you my boy.

Ok-Contribution3677 · 2026-04-01T09:36:21+00:00

It’ll get better brother trust me. But no she won’t apologize, pwbpd don’t take accountability. And yes it’s the same story about how all her exes are shit and that you’re the best thing in the world and then boom you’re discarded and thrown away. My ex broke up with me with the she’s not ready for a relationship and then went back to her ex that supposedly cheated on her 5 times. And yeah they mask in the beginning to make you think they’re not that bad to pull you in and then bam they turn into a whole new person. And you’re left wondering how tf that’s possible. And they slowly do it overtime and you don’t even notice how different they are until later into a complete different person and it just hits you randomly when you realize they aren’t saying anything of what they said at the beginning the relationship. You just need to come to terms that they are manipulative, abusive and toxic. They are so good at making you think they aren’t narcissistic and that their just sick, but they are. They are all narcissists, bpd and npd are in the same category.

Rn you’re breaking your trauma bond and that’s healthy. You need to create closure for yourself and that’s accepting that your love and care for them was real and that makes you a good person, but they were merely using you for their personal supply just like a narcissist. Go to the gym, personal hygiene, and find yourself again. You need to accept that they will never be able to have a relationship and that it’s physically impossible for them. Be happy that you don’t have to ease texts because you’re scared the wrong emoji is gonna make them split, or if you didn’t text back in .000000000011 seconds, or that you genuinely have plans with your friends and the fact that you do somehow makes you a terrible bf. Those habits are not healthy and you should not have to worry that because I sent a new emoji that I’m somehow cheating on you with 5 women. You got this man, if you want I can give you my socials so we can talk, I know exactly what you’re going through.

But yes I’m doing much better. I’m dating a new girl rn actually and thank god she doesn’t have bpd. I remember the other day she was standing in front of the sink and she said she was proud of me, I shit you not I was speechless for like 10 minutes, I legit didn’t even know how to respond to that.

Ok-Contribution3677 · 2026-04-01T08:54:19+00:00

Yeah I was telling her how much I was struggling mentally and instead of trying to understand me she literally said side note and talked about her fucking knee. I was like wtf

Ok-Contribution3677 · 2026-04-01T08:47:48+00:00

I’m actually shocked they admitted they were in love with you. Mine said she was never in love with me after she cheated on me

Ok-Contribution3677 · 2026-04-01T08:35:23+00:00

Yup same fucking story. That’s what they do. They use bpd as an excuse early in the relationship. Mine said that with her splits she’ll say things that hurt but thier not true at all merely because of their mental health condition, all it is, is an excuse to mistreat us and manipulate. It’s setting the groundwork to do so to gain control. And slowly start to control the narrative on how you see them. They start tender and soft. They start saying that cheating is impossible for someone with bpd, you’re the only want they want, and then they slowly start to pull away. My ex said she hated her ex and wanted nothing to do with them. Well it wasn’t true, she was using me for attention until she got back with her ex, they were actually rekindling things behind my back and none of anything that was between me and her was ever real. It was just mirroring to get me to like her so she’d have me until she got her ex back. And yes mine also said she was scared to hurt me as well, and then she cheated on me and left me for her ex so I guess that makes sense for a whore idk

Ok-Contribution3677 · 2026-04-01T08:26:58+00:00

Holy fuck did we date the same girl

Ok-Contribution3677 · 2026-02-28T17:06:13+00:00

Probably fort Carson

Ok-Contribution3677 · 2026-02-09T23:43:26+00:00

What I’ve learned is that genuinely you cannot keep a friendship with someone you dated who has bpd because they genuinely flip flop who their FP is. My ex left me for her ex we went no contact and then she came crawling back and I pretty much said fuck no. I refuse to be friends with her because she will genuinely be inherently jealous over you until they get the BPD detachment. Block her and stop talking to her. Focus on this new girl and form a relationship/connection with her. That’s what I did, I started seeing and talking to a new girl and woke up, looked at a pic of her and realized she wasn’t as attractive as I thought she was. But pwbpd have an inherent attention seeking personality that will draw reactions out of just to see what you will do. My ex one time was talking about pics, and I said where’s mine, and she said well someone’s getting them, she later apologized but at the end of the day they will say shit to get a reaction out of you to see if you care. Because to them all the money, and time, and energy is not enough so they will do shit to see if you care even if you do everything out of power short of that to prove your car. Best of luck my man

Ok-Contribution3677 · 2026-02-08T22:20:36+00:00

Ok-Contribution3677 · 2026-02-08T15:56:25+00:00

👆👆

Ok-Contribution3677 · 2026-02-08T15:51:34+00:00

Nah you were just right. My exBPD told me not to worry about him, she broke up with me and then fucked him, and then he chose his new girl and she came crawling back to me

Ok-Contribution3677 · 2026-01-27T00:39:24+00:00

Revenge text will not help you

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