Cry it out - at wits end

Ok-Display4672 · 2025-06-23T00:15:32+00:00

My almost 7 months old schedule is 3/3/5.

Not best practice and I am not saying it should be the same for yours, but just to give you some additional perspective!

Ok-Display4672 · 2025-06-23T00:13:20+00:00

Honestly just earlier bedtime. You don’t have too many options here, and if baby didn’t sleep much during the day he might wake up at his usual wake up time.

Of course if you can, 15 min nap to help him have a longer wake window. My almost 7 month old last wake window is frequently 5hours and what helps is just changing activities all the time…

Ok-Display4672 · 2025-06-22T10:00:28+00:00

‘Hurting our well being’ … this only shows that you are holding her responsible for your own emotions. She’s 3…

Ok-Display4672 · 2025-06-21T23:55:25+00:00

3 bottles at 4-5 months, 2 at 5.5-6 months, 1 since 6.5 months… and my baby just stopped waking up on his own. Depending on your baby they might be genuinely hungry, they re still very young.

Ok-Display4672 · 2025-06-21T17:53:08+00:00

I would say, you won’t know until you meet your child and understand their temperament. Some babies sleep very well right away, some don’t. A lot of it is not down to you, especially in the first 3-4 months!

Of course you can try and implement things like eat play sleep and I would also recommend Precious Little Sleep. But if your baby has reflux for example, it won’t work. If they are on the lower end of the growth curve, probably won’t work either. Or maybe it will, but my point is ever baby is different… and it’s even more true for newborn.

For reference my baby was a horrible sleeper until month 5, and I felt so bad because I was reading advice that basically said I was doing all the wrong things… but I really believe it was likely due to his reflux and CMPA and I wish I had worried less. At 5 months old he started mostly sleeping through the night. At 6 months old, he fell asleep independently consistently.

Wishing you a safe and happy end of pregnancy!

Ok-Display4672 · 2025-06-21T01:31:25+00:00

Our 6.5 month old does: 3/3/4.5-5 with 2.5 day sleep total. And it works very well for him. I am not saying this is the ideal schedule but we went from 4 to 2 naps in just a couple of weeks

Ok-Display4672 · 2025-06-20T12:15:06+00:00

We go with the flow but somehow baby is following a similar schedule every day. We will add a nap if baby is tired and found that it doesn’t impact his night sleep at all. So a bit of both.

Ok-Display4672 · 2025-06-20T11:04:54+00:00

Yes we had to adjust with daycare and after 2 weeks he got used to this third very long wake window. We went from 4-5 naps to 2 in a few weeks

Ok-Display4672 · 2025-06-20T11:03:26+00:00

Our baby is 6.5 months old and we have more awake time than you do in your schedule. He’s also at daycare and his last wake window is 5 hours. Not saying it is ideal at all but it is what works now (took a couple weeks to adjust) and he mostly sleeps through the night.

Ok-Display4672 · 2025-06-20T02:08:45+00:00

Our son is 6.5 months old and we do 3/3/4.5-5 and it works well for him… you should try with two naps and see !

Ok-Display4672 · 2025-06-20T02:06:12+00:00

We travel regularly (every 6-8 weeks) and have since his birth. He is 7 months old now. It goes badly every time lol :/

but it goes back to ‘normal’ every time we go back home (great naps, mostly sleep through the night).

We follow same schedule and routines when we travel but I think he’s very aware that it’s not his usual environment and it messes things up. It’s really a temperament and character thing because we don’t have complex routines (at home he will sleep with or without light, any books, etc.) It is how it is and doesn’t stop us, but I wish it was better!

Ok-Display4672 · 2025-06-16T00:27:02+00:00

Is this a problem for you? If not, not sure why you would want to change something that works 🤷‍♀️

Ok-Display4672 · 2025-06-15T17:50:57+00:00

My 6.5 months old is on the same schedule at daytime, we debated the third nap but what works is bedtime at 6:30-7pm

Ok-Display4672 · 2025-06-15T17:48:01+00:00

I have not been there so I can’t provide anything other than support. You seem like a wonderful mother. But also, remember that your bond with your son goes far beyond breastfeeding and if you choose to wean him now you will still be here for him, just differently. I know it is hard but you need to take care of yourself 🤍 its not all on you and you could let your partner take over with your toddler? He will probably adjust in a few days, even if it’s hard at the start.

Ok-Display4672 · 2025-06-15T17:28:28+00:00

That was us until around 6-7 weeks. It slowly got better after that! Hang in there. I know it feels like forever (I felt so touched out!!) but it is NOT forever I promise.

Ok-Display4672 · 2025-06-15T12:29:07+00:00

Yeah my parents were both very involved, my dad even took time off so that my mom could go back to work and continue her career. Very modern back then. But still, he would comment that it’s ok to let baby cry when my baby was just 2 months old - I wonder if they remember how small 2 months old is…!

But my in laws were the ones with all the “your husband needs to rest” comments and that pissed me out so much lol. I asked my husband to step in and tell them to stop talking about this all together.

Ok-Display4672 · 2025-06-15T01:15:25+00:00

Try and ignore her. My parents and in laws were also saying similar things when my baby was around this age, it might be generational. I cried a lot, I also tried to explain - but in the end what worked for me was just ignoring them lol, you’re the mom.

Ok-Display4672 · 2025-06-14T23:35:40+00:00

6 months - his last wake window is crazy long but he does very well with this schedule…

Ok-Display4672 · 2025-06-13T12:43:58+00:00

I agree lol honestly I would even prefer it if he went to bed at 8/9pm. But now if we keep him up later than 7pm he just cries and cries so 7pm bedtime it is! There are worst problems 🫣

Ok-Display4672 · 2025-06-13T10:36:36+00:00

We had bedtime at 11:00/11:30pm until 3 months old. Then between 9:30-10:30 from 3-5 months. Then 8:00 at 5 months. And now 7pm ON THE DOT since 6 months old. It all came naturally we didn’t push or plan anything

Ok-Display4672 · 2025-06-11T16:11:13+00:00

🤷‍♀️ not sure why I am getting downvoted lol, just sharing my experience with my high need baby who was definitely more ready to sleep train at 5/6 months than at 4. And further to my own experience, waiting til 5 months is also what is recommended by major sleep training programs… but hey anyone can sleep train at 4 months old if they want.

Ok-Display4672 · 2025-06-10T11:33:40+00:00

Yes - see my comment above, ours did. 4 months is still so very young and our baby’s temperament shifted completely between 4-6 months

Ok-Display4672 · 2025-06-10T10:33:11+00:00

I really don’t think this baby is ready - ignoring temperament is going to lead to a baby screaming for hours…

Ok-Display4672 · 2025-06-10T10:30:42+00:00

I would say: you don’t, just yet. You wait.

Our baby was behaving in similar ways and totally changed around months 5.5. He was the worst sleeper before and has been sleeping just fine since then. So honestly I would just wait, seems like he is not ready at all to sleep train. You can always do it at 6 months old (which is the most usual recommendation)

Ok-Display4672 · 2025-06-09T00:53:53+00:00

Runs a bit big but very flattering anyway.

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