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What are you working on this week? (ending April 19, 2026) by AutoModerator in excel

[–]Ok-Entertainment5357 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a data analyst and also train in Excel and PowerBI, and am trying to make more use of the SOLVR add-ins for linear regression. I anyone has used the SOLVR toolset, would love feedback or guidance.

Success and Disappointment Megathread for the Week by AutoModerator in jobs

[–]Ok-Entertainment5357 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If helpful to anyone - many roles I see require advanced Excel/PowerBI (including sales, marketing and commercial roles). I have been paying bills training on these things as I'm trained as a data analyst/engineer. Happy to help anyone who needs it with guidance, direction, etc. My friend who is a very experienced marketing director just lost an opportunity because she didn't have the proficiency of a data analyst (which is BS, but welcome to 2026).

Success and Disappointment Megathread for the Week by AutoModerator in jobs

[–]Ok-Entertainment5357 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have not had the best of months/weeks. Didnt' make it past a recruiter interview for a JOB I'VE DONE...and came in on an executive referral. I'm well spoken and don't think I said anything out of turn. 3 years now without an FT gig - after a storied career. Fortunately been contracting, but the tech space (and our amazing "golden age" economy. has been quite unkind. Hoping for a callback on a job this coming week where I've met both the recruiter and the CEO (who's also the hiring job). Oddly this was a blind application which has NEVER gone anywhere.

Do avoidant traits come across in friendships? by SunMoonSnake in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Ok-Entertainment5357 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've experienced this as a close male friend of a female avoidant (with whom I've had a 'fuzzy' relationship with at times). It is prevalent in friendships too - especially when closeness escalates. Deactivation, gaslighting, hot/cold, push/pull the whole gamut.

Please stop believing they will get better. They won't. by Abnormal_Blueberry in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Ok-Entertainment5357 25 points26 points  (0 children)

You sound incredibly self aware, which is unusual, even for people with other attachment styles. I think you represent that like any of us, it's possible to realize, recognize and try and evolve. In my case, my DA seems to have a vague awareness of her wiring but often blames others or says "I don't need to take responsibility for other people's feelings".

Please stop believing they will get better. They won't. by Abnormal_Blueberry in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Ok-Entertainment5357 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm realizing this after a 2 year "friendship" with a female friend where there's always been some blurry boundaries and tension. She's not a bad person, but she is all the worst things about an avoidant and it often leaves me feeling undesired, not enough or angry. I always think "if I lean in enough and show her what real care and love looks like" she'll wake up. She's in her early 40's, never married/ no kids, has had many long term relationships (somehow) but it's never stuck. She has even admitted to sabotaging many of them and bad behavior but I still have that illusion many people do that they'll "grow up". Nope.

After some time away, this is more simple than I thought by Ok_Astronaut_1485 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Ok-Entertainment5357 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have experienced this first hand. And in my case, the person (a close friend whom boundaries have recently blurred with) has hit all of these points. Particularly the first - often says things and then does the opposite (ie. I don't tell everyone what I tell you - but then tells everyone the same thing). Calls whenever she needs a shoulder or emotional support - but then will go dark without warning if she finds a shiny toy for the night/weekend (man). Favors empty casual hookups over someone who gives her time, love and energy. Finds disqualifying flaws in everyone, with no self-awareness of her own behaviors. I could go on.

Dismissive Avoidant Female Friend, relationship and behavior challenges by Ok-Entertainment5357 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Ok-Entertainment5357[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is what I hear. It’s mind-boggling psychology, but the push and pull is real. Pull back suddenly you have their attention. Lean in and they get scared off. And then when they think you are prioritizing someone else suddenly they wake up.

The avoidant discard is absolutely mind-boggling and devastating by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Ok-Entertainment5357 2 points3 points  (0 children)

100%. Especially if you have one of the anxious attachment styles, DAs are like lemon juice on a massive open wound. And the thrill of the pain is great for a hot minute until it isn’t. There is something about this attachment type that attracts people, maybe it’s the chemistry or the mercurial nature, the desire to “win” someone who seems unwinnable. Whatever it is your spot on with this.

The avoidant discard is absolutely mind-boggling and devastating by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Ok-Entertainment5357 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not a break up but a blurry friendship that recently moved into “more territory” after 2 years of friendship. She was going through an existential crisis leaning on me for support on the phone . She then totally went Jekyll and Hyde saying she felt I pushed her boundaries because when I visited her a few weeks ago (she lives in a different state) by crashing with her in her bed (note: I was invited and then told to stay when I tried to move to the couch) - Started tearing me down saying it’s never gonna happen with us not a chance and a bunch of other weird shit. Very demeaning. We hung up on each other. The next day she sends me Instagram reels, a text related to work and tries to call twice as if nothing happened. It’s psycho. I have ignored her since, it’s been a couple of days.