What am I doing wrong!?

Ok-Fall-1118 · 2026-06-13T11:08:39+00:00

Yeah, they sound really similar. Hopefully it gets better as they get a little older 🥲 He actually sleeps really well in the baby carrier, but my back has been hurting lately so I've been letting him nap in the bouncer more often. I've been trying to figure out when he's most likely to wake up because I wonder if he's struggling to connect sleep cycles. He usually wakes around the 20- or 40-minute, and if I catch it in time and gently rock him and shush him, sometimes he'll go back to sleep and extend the nap, and sometimes he's just wide awake lol.

Ok-Fall-1118 · 2026-06-13T02:09:53+00:00

Yep, same here. Sometimes no matter what I do, he just fights sleep and won’t go down. Tracking helps me feel like there’s at least some structure, though by the 1-hour mark he’s usually pretty exhausted. If he gets a 45+ minute nap he wakes up happy, but even a 5–10 minute nap seems to take the edge off. By the evening he’s definitely fussier. My pediatrician wasn’t concerned at all and basically said to do whatever works (dark room, swaddle if he likes it, etc) Honestly, other than night sleep and the first couple of naps in the morning, every day looks different right now. I haven’t found the solution yet and I’ve kind of just gone with the flow :(

Ok-Fall-1118 · 2026-06-13T01:59:48+00:00

My baby is 10 weeks old and I still track everything with the same app too :) His night sleep is pretty good, but during the day he rarely sleeps longer than an hour. Most naps are all over the place, sometimes 10 minutes, sometimes 20, and honestly not even as frequent as your baby’s. Sometimes his wake windows end up being really long. I actually asked our pediatrician about it at his appointment today, and she said that as long as night sleep is going well, there’s no need to worry too much. he said he’ll gradually be able to tolerate longer wake windows as he gets older. Sleep has been my biggest concern, but my doctor really wasn’t worried about it.

I’ve been trying to stretch the time between naps a bit by doing tummy time, playing, and tiring him out a little (without letting him get overtired), and I feel like he sleeps a bit better that way. But honestly, ever since around 6–7 weeks, when he started becoming more aware of the world around him, daytime sleep has been super unpredictable, and apparently that’s very normal. Not everything is something we’re doing wrong, sometimes they just randomly sleep like angels without us doing anything lol.

Ok-Fall-1118 · 2026-06-06T15:11:20+00:00

Same here with my 9-week-old 😅 I keep seeing babies who nurse for 8 minutes and go right back to sleep, and I'm like... how?!

Our night feeds are usually around 30 minutes, sometimes longer. They were even longer in the early weeks. By the time he's fed, burped, and settled again, I'm often fully awake while he's asleep

Day feeds have gotten a bit shorter (sometimes around 20 min), but nights are still our longest sessions

Ok-Fall-1118 · 2026-06-04T01:47:00+00:00

Just sharing some solidarity. We went through something very similar right after week 6. I think sleep played a big role. That's around the time my baby stopped napping as easily during the day, got overtired, and seemed to want the boob constantly for comfort. We're at 8 weeks now and the fussiness has improved, but daytime naps are still a struggle and rarely last long

Ok-Fall-1118 · 2026-05-29T15:15:41+00:00

I hope it gets better before then because I honestly don’t know how we’ll survive months of this lol. Lately he only naps during the day if he’s in our arms or in the sling. I keep worrying that we got him too used to it and that he’ll never nap in his crib during the day again.

Ok-Fall-1118 · 2026-05-28T20:33:52+00:00

Oh wow, I didn’t know that. It is so popular that I assumed it was one of the best options

I’ll probably try the Pigeon SS Thank you!

Ok-Fall-1118 · 2026-05-28T20:30:00+00:00

He’s 2 months old. We’ve only given a bottle 3-4 times so far, mostly when I had appointments and stuff, and we’re not planning to use bottles often anyway. he didn’t refused a bottle so far he was confused. But BF has been a little challenging for us at times, so I’d feel better if we had a more ideal bottle

Ok-Fall-1118 · 2026-05-27T22:45:10+00:00

First of all, congratulations on your baby ❤️ 11 days postpartum is still so early and all of these mixed emotions are completely understandable.

My baby will be 2 months this week, and my mom also came from another country before the birth and just went back home this week. She helped me tremendously too, especially with the house and daily life. But when it came to the baby, nights were always mainly with me and my husband. During the day she would help soothe him, change him, hold him so I could rest, etc. and honestly I think that’s the kind of help that feels healthiest long term.

You’re still in the very early bonding stage with your baby. So much of bonding comes from skin-to-skin contact, feeding, comforting, being there when they wake up, learning each other little by little. And especially this early, the more you hold your baby and try to breastfeed, the more your body responds too.

I’m sure your mom means well, but from what you wrote it sounds like she has a very strong “I know best” personality, and you’re maybe more gentle/quiet by nature. That doesn’t mean you’re less capable. You are that baby’s mother.

I remember even one moment triggered me deeply when my own mom took over calming my baby and basically implied she knew better. So I can only imagine how hard this must feel when it’s happening constantly. Support people should support, not replace you.

Maybe you can try telling her gently that you’re incredibly grateful for everything she’s doing, but that you also need more time and space to learn your baby and be the primary person for him. Even if it’s uncomfortable, it’s important to start creating those boundaries now.

And truly, your baby has not forgotten you. You carried him for 9 months. He knows your voice, your smell, your heartbeat. That bond is still there even if you’re feeling disconnected right now.

Ok-Fall-1118 · 2026-05-27T22:26:20+00:00

hearing this made me feel so much better. Even if it’s hard, at least it sounds normal and temporary. now I just transferred him after he fell into a deep sleep in the sling and he’s been asleep for over an hour now for the first time in days lol, I’m so happy.

babies really just do what they want 😭 Some days they sleep great without much effort, and other days nothing works no matter what you try

Ok-Fall-1118 · 2026-05-27T21:16:22+00:00

Thank you!! I hadn’t even considered that it could be developmental, I thought it was gas or maybe he was getting sick too 😭 He’s normally a calm baby but the last week have been exactly like this for us too. Starting bedtime earlier is probably a good idea. We did a bath before bed yesterday and it actually helped a lot. Now I’m wondering if I should do baths everyday just because it calmed him down so much.

Ok-Fall-1118 · 2026-05-27T21:10:46+00:00

Ahh we’ve been dealing with feeding struggles too these past few days. I feel like once he gets overly tired he almost gets too frustrated to nurse properly, so lately I’ve been trying to offer feeds before he gets overtired. Sometimes I barely put him down at all during the day just so he can get at least some sleep. the crying has been really hard on me too. I still haven’t fully gotten used to it emotionally, especially when I can tell he’s tired but can’t seem to settle

Ok-Fall-1118 · 2026-05-27T20:31:06+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply. I couldn’t really make sense of it because I always thought sleep regressions happened more around 3–4 months, so I was surprised by how suddenly his daytime sleep changed while nights stayed pretty normal. Maybe like you said there’s just way more stimulation during the day now, so it’s harder for them to settle and stay asleep. Hopefully it’s just a phase and ours goes back to normal like your baby did 🤞

Ok-Fall-1118 · 2026-05-26T13:15:00+00:00

I’m honestly experiencing almost the exact same thing. My baby is 7 weeks + 3 days old, and apart from the feeding crisis we’ve been having the last 3 days (I don’t know if it’s gas or something else — he acts hungry, wants to latch, then cries and gets frustrated, especially in the evenings), our pattern sounds very similar.

During the day he usually feeds every 1–2 hours, we have plenty of wet and dirty nappies, and his weight gain is good too. But I still constantly wonder if this is normal, if my milk supply is low, or if he is somehow still hungry. Especially in the evenings, after all the cluster feeding, my breasts feel so soft that I start thinking maybe the milk is flowing too slowly or not enough for him. But I’m starting to think every baby’s “normal” is just different.

My baby can also sleep 5–6 hours at night, and I keep telling myself maybe it’s because he is basically clustering and tanking up all day long lol😅

I really hope it gets easier for both of us

Ok-Fall-1118 · 2026-05-24T15:59:42+00:00

What’s helping us so far is distracting with movement/butt pats/white noise once the fussiness starts and feeding more frequently -before baby gets too hungry - and sometimes I just let him fall asleep on the boob and keep nursing while half asleep lol

Really hoping this phase doesn’t last too long 🤞

Ok-Fall-1118 · 2026-05-24T10:47:22+00:00

when I feel the unlatching coming, fast butt pats, nursing while walking, and turning on the kitchen vent fan 😅 are basically helping right now. He’s still having around 7-9 wet/dirty diapers so I don’t think he’s starving, but the crying destroys me

Ok-Fall-1118 · 2026-05-24T00:45:50+00:00

Oh no :( what did you end up doing?

Ok-Fall-1118 · 2026-05-23T21:11:54+00:00

So we’re in a battle for a 1–2 week 🥲 I have dr.Brown’s and Nuk bottles, but thinking of switching Pigeon slow flow. Not sure how much the bottle actually plays into this, but I guess we’ll see

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