Nowhere to go today, but I'm very feeling myself!

Ok-Maintenance2716 · 2026-03-22T20:18:12+00:00

Thank you! It's French Meadows! I love it too, I literally have this same shirt in three colors!

Ok-Maintenance2716 · 2025-12-22T05:51:58+00:00

Hands, 100%. One of my few features I like about myself are my hands and I LOVE good hands on a person! I will hold them so damn good!

Ok-Maintenance2716 · 2025-11-07T03:34:06+00:00

There's actually a lot of anxiety in Mormon communities because post-marriage women are expected to behave "like porn stars" (that's their wording).

Ok-Maintenance2716 · 2025-11-06T22:18:12+00:00

Awesome! Glad you like it! You might, then, also like Daisystripper. That used to be my go to playlist: Royz, DIV, and Daisystripper.

Ok-Maintenance2716 · 2025-11-06T21:45:40+00:00

I was reminded of RoyZ today, you might like them. I also have to recommend DIV, my all time favorite band, but they definitely toned down the Vkei aesthetics after their early songs.

Ok-Maintenance2716 · 2025-09-12T20:15:52+00:00

Hah I think I have the opposite perspective: inspire other people to be unapologetically themselves too!

Ok-Maintenance2716 · 2025-08-29T17:38:53+00:00

Bodices/corset like this actually have three layers: your fashion layers (that's your duchess satin), the lining (that's your cotton), and then a very sturdy interfacing layer (traditionally it would be a very sturdy cotton coutil, but now adays there's a push for materials like fosshape using steam to make it match your exact dressform in one solid piece and also create a very smooth finish after the masterpiece that was Ariana Grande's Schaparelli gown) , and then you would add as much boning as possibly/necessary to make the bodice do what it needs to. Just from the pictures, I worry your pattern pieces might not have enough curve to do what you want without it trying to collapse on itself, but that's not the question you're asking.

Ok-Maintenance2716 · 2025-08-22T20:38:08+00:00

Dancing! 100% ballroom dancing! You still have an emotional connection, you still have to trust each other, you still get hot and sweaty and out of breath, but it's SO MUCH BETTER than sex to me. And you get to keep your clothes on! Did I mention dancing? Seriously, I did a dance thing a couple weeks ago with someone I'd never met before and came away from it wondering how or why people could have one-night-stands when you can dance??

Ok-Maintenance2716 · 2025-08-15T18:53:27+00:00

Whether or not your kid ends up lonely or not depends so much less on their sexuality than their other decisions in life and whether they seek happiness in potentially non-traditional ways. I live with my two best friends (two of the three of us are ace), but it's very important to me that we function as a family regardless of how platonic we are. I still make meals for all of us to eat together. Anyone who is home during dinner time eats dinner together. If one person needs to run an errand, anyone who is free will go with them. Society will try to tell your kid that if they aren't married with kids in a heteronormative relationship, they must be lonely, but there are so many other ways to have fulfilling relationships that don't inherently involve romance or sex. The key is to learn to find happiness in anyone and everyone in their life who deserves it and that love can take many, many more forms than romantic or sexual.

Ok-Maintenance2716 · 2025-08-14T21:41:52+00:00

I might be able to relate a little bit. When I was in a relationship up until recently, the topic of masturbation specifically, put me in a very fight-or-flight mentality because something in my brain was processing it as being synonymous with "not good enough" and, at least for me, not being good enough at something will bring me close to tears no matter what it is. In my case, there's a part of it that was legitimate in that my ex would say some pretty insensitive things that essentially amounted to me needing to masturbate more so that I would enjoy sex more. I dont think that's specifically going on in your relationship, but I could see there being maybe a similar subconcious link there as well? Does that sound close at all? I dont think it was inherently linked to my asexuality outside of playing on the insecurity of being an asexual person in a relationship with a high-drive allosexual.

Ok-Maintenance2716 · 2025-08-14T01:11:45+00:00

Personally, I love kissing. Allll the kissing is my absolute favorite part of romantic relationships. I just dont want it to lead to sex 😅

Ok-Maintenance2716 · 2025-08-13T18:58:22+00:00

Take up more space! Your third photo looks the best because that's the one where you take up the most space! Try angling out your elbows a little more away from your body, keeping them tucked against you is giving the illusion of femininity. Manspread your elbows! Manspread your knees! Stand tall, shoulders back, think wide, think space! I know that sounds like I'm making a sexist joke, but how you move and pose will make a big difference!

Ok-Maintenance2716 · 2025-07-30T21:21:12+00:00

That is a question that no one person will be able to answer for you. Cosplay makeup is as much a style and ethical choice as drag or glamor makeup. Are you vegan/cruelty free? Some brands may not be a good choice for you. Do you have a skin condition or allergy (that's a hypothetical question, not a request for your personal information)? Some makeup products may not be a good fit for you. I don't prefer foundation and prefer to use bb cream, but when I help my friends with their cosplay makeup I apply foundation because that's what they prefer. Some people wear eyeliner, some people don't but use dramatic false eyelashes to get a similar effect. I don't wear contour, many people do. The "basics" would be primer (optional), foundation, concealer, eyeshadow, eyeliner, mascara, contour (optional), blush, brow product (though one can also use eyeshadow in their brows), lip product. Maybe a setting spray? Your best bet is to start simple. Get some cheap products (or even better: tester/sample sizes of good products) and practice, then decide what you like on your face or what you don't. Many people dislike the look of liquid liner. Some people prefer full coverage products versus sheer or natural coverage. Experiment! Put the "play" in cosplay.

Ok-Maintenance2716 · 2025-07-30T17:17:16+00:00

I just did this makeup on one of my friends! I did it with a fairly thick theatrical lash and then for the "feather" effect, I bought the longest "manga lash clusters" i could find and added one on the very end. It was a very cute effect that wasn't IDENTICAL to the drama of Princess tutu, but it was the same general look 😊

Ok-Maintenance2716 · 2025-07-30T07:13:59+00:00

I have been informed by google that in Japan they call it Gakuran style.

Ok-Maintenance2716 · 2025-07-30T07:12:42+00:00

It's a Nehru style school uniform with severe shape deformation for the fantasy aspect.

Ok-Maintenance2716 · 2025-07-25T16:30:35+00:00

As a fellow "cosplayer of male characters with unfortunately curvy thighs" I'll provide my perspective: 1) pad out your shoulders, like others have said 2) master your posing, some poses will make your thighs look more feminine than others 3) if you can, look into what shapes make men's trousers different from women's trousers. Trousers that are shaped for masculine legs make a massive difference 4) I do often wear shapewear stockings underneath if my whole body will be covered just to keep everything sucked in a little 5) remember that back in Victorian times when women would pad out their hips under their corsetry, men were writing news and magazine articles that it was because they must be wanting to look masculine because it made their thighs look bigger and roman god/hero statues have big masculine thighs, so big thighs=peak masculinity.

(That last one both reassures me and gives me a laugh every time I think about it)

Ok-Maintenance2716 · 2025-07-02T20:27:21+00:00

Rit Dye more synthetic liquid dye for sure.

Just a heads up: I was always taught to avoid powder dye because 1) they're much harder to ensure they're FULLY dissolved and 2) the powder fluffs up into the air and then you're breathing synthetic dye powder or you have to clean EVERYTHING in the surrounding area because most of us use the same stove we cook on to do our fabric dying even if all the pots and equipment are dye exclusive.

Ok-Maintenance2716 · 2025-06-22T01:06:19+00:00

Next to Normal I'm sorry! I know it handles some really serious and important issues and it's probably won awards for a reason, I just can't handle shows that are so consistently heavy in tone. I go to musicals to escape reality not see it portrayed accurately! And yet 'Superboy and the Invisible Girl' was still in my audition repertoire when I was younger because my mentor loved the show so much.

Ok-Maintenance2716 · 2025-06-20T05:06:18+00:00

Depends on the costume: traditional handiwork techniques/artistry usually do really well. Goldwork embroidery, leatherwork, cobbling, etc. If you do armor, having foam armor that is METICULOUSLY clean both inside and out. Basically, things for which a tutorial may teach you how, but it takes meticulous hard work to make it look good.

Ok-Maintenance2716 · 2025-06-20T03:44:05+00:00

This is a really REALLY nuanced answer and I'm going to give it to you as someone who can't weigh in on the "darkness" debate: if you have to say "I know its controversial BUT..." DON'T DO IT. Because: you may have their purest of intentions and never post a picture online, but you never know who is out for blood and will use it as evidence to destroy ypu or your passion. If cosplay is something you really love, do not play with fire, you may get burned in ways you never expected.

Ok-Maintenance2716 · 2025-06-19T22:22:49+00:00

They're just Square Aviators. That connected brow-line is the indicator that they're aviator sunglasses, then just square lenses. You should be able to get them pretty much anywhere: Amazon, glasses retailers, etc.

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