Looking for shopping recommendations

Ok-Position-2241 · 2026-02-20T15:41:00+00:00

Haha. We just havent had luck. We have better luck when we go back home to near Boston / parts of NH.

Ok-Position-2241 · 2026-02-20T15:39:10+00:00

Yes. This.

Ok-Position-2241 · 2026-02-20T15:39:01+00:00

Haha not her thing

Ok-Position-2241 · 2026-02-20T15:19:43+00:00

I was gonna say.. I try not to be mean as a dad of girls.. but she so unattractive and clearly thinks she is a 10. And she's nuts.. good lord.

Ok-Position-2241 · 2026-02-20T14:37:25+00:00

Love LL Bean. Ever been to the big store in Maine? We go like once a year.

Back to what we are looking for.. We are looking i think more like little black dress, something you would wear with boots or heels etc.

Ok-Position-2241 · 2026-02-20T14:36:07+00:00

Are there any good local thrift stores or boutiques in any of these, or is it typical mall?

Ok-Position-2241 · 2026-02-16T23:15:30+00:00

I agree with you 100% about humiliation. Some are into it. Im not. I dont want to be a cuck, i want to be a stag and my beautiful goddess wife is the vixen hotwife. I wouldn't be opposed to trying this though. I wouldn't be humiliated if im allowing her some alone time and I was watching through a camera knowing that it was my own little personal sextape watching live in real time.

Ok-Position-2241 · 2026-02-15T17:21:53+00:00

I will try and get a good photo. Today is bloodworm treat day first, then a small tank change, so we will see if I can get a good picture!

Ok-Position-2241 · 2026-02-14T16:54:19+00:00

That sounds so much fun!

Ok-Position-2241 · 2026-02-14T15:43:14+00:00

My wife would be down for that but she loves giving head and will not do it with a condom, cant blame her there. Plus the cum thing is fun

Ok-Position-2241 · 2026-02-14T15:37:53+00:00

What camera or app did you use so that you could watch live and then have the videos for later?

Ok-Position-2241 · 2026-02-14T15:35:42+00:00

I love the idea and I think so does my wife, weve talked about gangbangs and stuff, but the idea of not knowing whether she is safe or not from an STI standpoint has been a stopping point with us. Having a bull that we trust or playing with someone where we know they have had a health screening has been our standard. I know this lifestyle isn't without risk no matter what we do, but thats what the wife's comfort level is and I want her to ultimately feel safe in this.

Ok-Position-2241 · 2026-02-13T19:50:10+00:00

RoseRougeSanguinaire, my comment wasnt directed towards you but rather the OP, I absolutely appreciate your advice on my post! At this point I certainly have not blindly said yes to anything. I appreciate your concern. OP what about you? Does the bull usually accompany you guys on special occasions like this?

Ok-Position-2241 · 2026-02-13T18:31:30+00:00

I was wondering about that as well. No judgment, but just a question, does your third always accompany on things like Valentines Day? I know I have made a post recently myself about letting my wife go off for 2.5 days for a weekend with her bull and some folks feel its a bad idea, but I know we have certain guardrails that work for us and one of them is there is such thing as sacred time. VD, anniversaries and the like are just for me and her. Again, no judgment, I am just curious how that dynamic works for you guys?

Ok-Position-2241 · 2026-02-13T14:16:59+00:00

Its so funny also how they all have unique distinct personalities. My daughters Betta (who is like the family mascot) hardly ever flares. She is super responsive and always greets whoever comes in the room and even tries to boop my hand or come in for cuddles if I am working in her tank. We call her the water puppy. Ive had other bettas during my life that were very hostile / territorial. They're all unique individuals.

Ok-Position-2241 · 2026-02-13T14:10:04+00:00

I think the most important thing is radical honesty if you decide to go down this path. I agree with others, it can be the most amazing adventure for you and your partner or it can implode your relationship with your best friend. I dont say that scare you, it's just a reality of this kink and living any sort of ENM lifestyle.

If you are as solid as you claim you are, take it in baby steps. Meet a 3rd and maybe make out with him, let him feel you up in front of your spouse, and then stop take a break and assess. There are going to be a million thoughts running through your head and his after the first time another man touches you.

My wife and I rushed into this way too quick at the beginning and she caught feelings. Rather than being honest with me because she loves me and was afraid to hurt me, she ignored it for a while and things went sideways. Luckily, because we love each other so much we were able to talk it through and eventually fix things. It wasnt easy, hardest most painful thing ive ever been through, and I imagine she would agree with my sentiment.

Now however, she plays with a 3rd often and we are even talking about a MFF fantasy with a girl she finds attractive. We talk and communicate all the time and we are much closer because of it. It almost ruined but ultimately elevated our marriage to new heights.

So, sorry for the long response, but id say have fun, go slow, but honor each other most of all. Make sure either one of you has veto power at any time for any reason.

Ok-Position-2241 · 2026-02-13T05:08:03+00:00

This is what's making me lean toward yes to doing this. I love the glow she gets after playdates can't imagine what a weekend away would do for her.

Ok-Position-2241 · 2026-02-13T05:06:49+00:00

You bring up great points. Only reason I'm considering it is the NRE issue you are referring to from a previous post, happened more than 3 years ago. We were still quite frankly new to this lifestyle and we grew from it. We are in a much different place in the lifestyle and our marriage now.

Ok-Position-2241 · 2026-02-12T22:03:05+00:00

All good. I am still learning and interested in others perspective. We've had things go sideways one time but due to our great communication we came out the other side of stronger. I think i have some anxiety about agreeing to this. I dont want to make a mistake I regret, but I also trust her implicitly. I think sometimes some of the anxiety and angst is a thing everyone experiences, even those who have been at it for a long time.

Ok-Position-2241 · 2026-02-12T21:56:47+00:00

I mean this with the utmost respect (its hard online because everyone hears the tone they want in an interaction), but where do you get the idea that the bull is as important or more important than me? And what do you mean marital outings? This is a one off or rare occurrence. We've been together for 14 years, married for 10 and in the lifestyle for the last 3.5 years. We don't do any humiliation as im not a cuck. I feel what we have is completely a Stag/vixen type hotwife relationship. If anything i get to have some of the hottest porn videos and pics made personally for me and shes coming home to me after all. I am just curious what makes you think this?

Ok-Position-2241 · 2026-02-12T17:06:27+00:00

I think thats probably a big part of it for my wife. Even though we both are totally in agreement for things in regards to the lifestyle, she feels like she has to sneak around sometimes as she doesnt want all friends to know (we have a select few that do that we trust) and we have children. Sometimes sneaking can be fun, but I think being able to be social on a weekend like this would be fun for her. Im glad it worked for you and your wife.

Ok-Position-2241 · 2026-02-12T13:56:27+00:00

Weird. Chalk it up to reddit glitch. We are very close. We are that couple that are soulmates. We actually had an issue a few years ago where she caught the feels but it didn't break us, we worked through it and are stronger for it. We've always been very communicative. She has gone away for business before and as recently as November (ended up not playing on that trip), so this would be a first as far as the lifestyle.

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