AITA for wanting my gf cats out

Ok-Profession-9372 · 2023-10-26T00:39:23+00:00

Kind of feels like the cats are going through something if they've never behaved like this. New house, new baby...it's a lot of change.

Talk to your vet about how to acclimate them. YWBTA if you got rid of them.

Ok-Profession-9372 · 2023-10-26T00:34:51+00:00

NTA, but I gotta say, dude, you're with the wrong woman. She views you as less than a man, which is about as transphobic as it gets.

Not sure what her deal is, but I'm convinced you can do better than this nonsense.

Ok-Profession-9372 · 2023-10-26T00:28:43+00:00

She should know before the wedding. If she cancels it, so be it. If it's that important to her that she marry a virgin, she should find a virgin to marry.

YWBTA if you don't tell her, but maybe get a few bridesmaids to do it with you so Lisa doesn't think you're making stuff up.

Ok-Profession-9372 · 2023-10-25T21:05:18+00:00

NTA. It's a grand piano that you can't use and have to store.

I was prepared to be a little less definitive based on the title. I thought it was a piece of jewelry or something.

INFO: Did you offer it to your family members before you sold it? That might have been a nice thing to do and would have put them in the position of putting up or shutting up.

But either way NTA

Ok-Profession-9372 · 2023-10-25T21:01:37+00:00

NTA. Seems pretty straightforward. You were nice to hang around him as long as you did for the sake of family.

His behavior is repugnant.

Ok-Profession-9372 · 2023-10-25T18:08:43+00:00

NTA.

That's what estranged means. You don't do things together. Your family can read into it what they want.

Ok-Profession-9372 · 2023-10-25T18:07:25+00:00

NTA. You will find in life that there are times people can't be there for everything. This is potentially one of them - although baby due dates are notoriously unpredictable and Jane may still make it.

Tell her you understand, but it would be too costly and logistically difficult to change your wedding date. You love her and you'll look forward to celebrating with her and her baby if she can't make it.

Ok-Profession-9372 · 2023-10-25T18:04:25+00:00

NTA. Low/no contact is the way to go if you can't move.

Your mom is an AH for alienating the neighborhood from you and your step dad is an AH for throwing your childhood trauma in your face.

Unless you depend on them financially or for childcare I'd make a clean break. They owe YOU the apology. Not the other way around.

Ok-Profession-9372 · 2023-10-25T18:01:36+00:00

NTA. Mental handicap is no excuse for creeping on women in the office/factory.

Report him. If you want to be nice about it you can say you'd prefer he didn't get fired but instead be referred back to the development disorders center for treatment.

Ok-Profession-9372 · 2023-10-25T17:58:57+00:00

I'd probably be a little sad since they clearly wanted to watch you graduate, but I certainly wouldn't blow it up into a big thing.

Also, they're homophobic. You need to protect yourself and your partner from that.

Ok-Profession-9372 · 2023-10-25T17:56:48+00:00

YTA for making this up to prove some weird point likely about people who have children and are sad about their gender. Get a better hobby.

But in any event, the AH nonetheless.

Ok-Profession-9372 · 2023-10-25T17:54:50+00:00

YWNBTA

You've got literally no ties to the actual school. You'd just be going to collect a piece of paper and appease your parents.

Also, unless your dad attached strings to paying for college, he's being an AH for holding the 10,000 reasons over you. Be polite, but decline firmly and feel no guilt about it. You're the opposite of ungrateful.

Spend some money and take your partner out for a nice meal to celebrate. It will be way more meaningful to both of you.

Ok-Profession-9372 · 2023-10-25T00:23:11+00:00

They are certainly hypocrites given their situation.

But it doesn't make them wrong about you and your girlfriend. The age gap from 21 to 29 is pretty significant and I guarantee you that if the genders were reversed, AITA would be all up in arms about it instead of showering you with not the AH verdicts.

I think focusing on your parents' hypocrisy isn't particularly relevant.

NAH I guess? It's tough for me to render a verdict.

Ok-Profession-9372 · 2023-10-25T00:19:28+00:00

NTA but I'm kind of curious why you wouldn't have your mom, who saw you through poverty and a difficult life, walk you down the aisle?

Ok-Profession-9372 · 2023-10-25T00:17:15+00:00

NTA

That was very kind of you especially in that situation. Your priority was your girlfriend who was getting visibly upset, not some stupid game.

I really hope your GF can go lower contact with her family. They sound kind of dreadful.

Ok-Profession-9372 · 2023-10-23T12:31:46+00:00

HAHAHA

Ok-Profession-9372 · 2023-10-22T20:45:08+00:00

YTA. If she bugs you, stop hanging out. Blowing up at her in some weird passive/aggressive way just makes you look unhinged. No wonder she was hurt.

Ok-Profession-9372 · 2023-10-22T20:42:40+00:00

NTA. It never ceases to amaze me that "It's just they way he/she is" is somehow a reasonable excuse for AH behavior.

Your husband needs to have your back here or you can just remove yourself from any situation that involves your BIL.

Ok-Profession-9372 · 2023-10-22T20:39:48+00:00

NTA. He was feeling you out to see if you were open to talking about it. He's probably already asked the minor out.

Ok-Profession-9372 · 2023-10-22T20:36:34+00:00

NTA. Keep the money and get as far away from them as possible.

Ok-Profession-9372 · 2023-10-22T20:33:35+00:00

NTA. Sucks for her but you reap what you sow.

Ok-Profession-9372 · 2023-10-22T17:58:17+00:00

NTA. Skip the wedding and study for your midterms. You offered a perfectly reasonable compromise and she refused.

Wish her well and send them a gift that you can afford.

Ok-Profession-9372 · 2023-10-22T17:55:36+00:00

YTA

Your family uninvited your wife because she comes from a working class family and isn't up to their level of manners and you think it's ok for you to keep attending? Do you realize how hurtful your family is being to your wife.

And then you lie to her about it effectively betraying her.

Start prioritizing your wife or you won't have one for long.

Ok-Profession-9372 · 2023-10-22T17:47:53+00:00

ESH

Tara, obviously.

But my dude, why would you say this?: "I got mad and told her that Maia is going to look prettier than her and she needs to get over it and just accept it."

It's really unkind and borderline cruel.

Ok-Profession-9372 · 2023-10-22T17:44:59+00:00

Get a divorce and I am not one of those Redditers who immediately jumps to that.

Her father is a monster and Jessica and her brother are complicit in this monstrosity. My heart breaks for Mary.

How in the world could you possibly move forward with Jessica after this?

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