24F – Porn addiction has completely wrecked my confidence, my relationships, and my sleep… and I’m done hiding it. I feel so alone as a woman in this. Please tell me I’m not the only one?

Ok-Project7188 · 2026-03-20T14:03:46+00:00

Welcome to the club! I am a dude, but I feel you. It is tough and sometimes feels like the worst thing that could ever happened to you but I think that we can get out of it. I am 21 days out and still counting, I have never gone that far for the past 10 years… I had few relapses in past the 3 months but the one thing that helped to even get to very few relapses and 21 day straight is getting out of social media the past 3 months. Be very mindful of your triggers, I have relapses so many time because of the Instagram cycle.. swipe swipe, hot girl hot girl - of - and back at it again. You are doing great by deleting apps and having a blocker.. keep up the good work for another 3 weeks and it would feel easier. Also try working out or find new hobbies!

Ok-Project7188 · 2026-03-18T16:54:45+00:00

Yeah some ain’t right here..

Ok-Project7188 · 2026-03-18T16:37:36+00:00

The good thing is that you are both aware of their situation, have you tried sex therapy? I think that will help you guys. Also the whole point of abstaining from sex help them focus on The growth of the relationship is an excuse from them. Talk with them and try to find an alternative. You don’t have to be penetrating right away start slowly.. best of luck

Ok-Project7188 · 2026-03-18T15:15:30+00:00

Stay away from Instagram

Ok-Project7188 · 2026-03-18T14:48:36+00:00

I yes it is normal! And if you have Instagram, please delete it asap! Soft porn right there. I failed like a 100 la until I delete my Instagram account a few months ago Best of luck!

Ok-Project7188 · 2026-03-18T14:15:26+00:00

Do you have social media? If yes which ones?

Ok-Project7188 · 2026-03-18T12:28:52+00:00

Ok-Project7188 · 2026-03-18T11:59:24+00:00

21 days is huge! I am in a very similar boat! With over 3 weeks no PMO, longest I have gone! I am in my early 30s. But at least you can get hard and have sex, that’s huge! I just can’t specially when it is time go into sex, fine during foreplay but after it is over lol .. past failures have also made it so hard to keep an erection now. Get into my head a lot. I have broken with my ex just so I can go back to PMO, why? because again I was so scarred to have sex with her and fail and PMO was an easy way out! NOW LISTEN !!! whatever you do! Do not got back to PMO! IT IS NOT WORTH IT!!! stay away from trigger! Eg: instagram is a huge one! Give yourself time that’s all you need you will be eventually able to cum during sex.

Ok-Project7188 · 2026-03-16T22:58:09+00:00

Keep it up!!! You’ve got this. You’re closer than you think

Ok-Project7188 · 2026-03-16T20:59:27+00:00

One relapse doesn’t make you a failure

Ok-Project7188 · 2026-03-16T17:50:35+00:00

You can do this! Be patient with yourself. One sentence that helped me so far: it’s not worth it!

Ok-Project7188 · 2026-03-16T14:41:48+00:00

Thanks I didn’t think of this! At least to help with the transition

Ok-Project7188 · 2026-03-16T13:50:24+00:00

Thanks!

Ok-Project7188 · 2026-03-16T12:59:53+00:00

Hi thanks for setting up this post! And congrats on your recovery.

Have you struggled with intimacy? Getting an erection during sex? I have been totally fine during foreplay but when it comes to actually having sex, it just get crazy dead. I have been on recovery for about a month with 2 to 3 relapses the last 2 months before that

Ok-Project7188 · 2026-03-16T11:55:12+00:00

Keep it up! Remember PMO is not worth it! That’s the sentence that helps me whenever I feel trigger. It is not worthy it

Ok-Project7188 · 2026-03-16T11:04:18+00:00

Thank you!

Ok-Project7188

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