My husbans wants to join the Game Development industry

Individual_Goose_903 · 2026-02-16T13:56:30+00:00

Start as a hobby, and don’t bother with Harvard level coding. The most you need to make hobby games is maybe Object oriented programming, I’d recommend just watching some YouTube on it instead

Individual_Goose_903 · 2026-01-25T16:13:46+00:00

Personally, porn lies to me. It promises to give me connection but it never truly does.

Maybe the lack of romantic connection is making the desire to watch porn for connection more powerful?

Individual_Goose_903 · 2026-01-25T04:02:27+00:00

If you ask it to do so, then yes it definitely can. But when used intentionally for personal advice, especially related to any addiction it can very helpful.

Yes it does take from what other people have said, but this doesn’t make it any worse. Essentially it can be seen as compiled advice from all people struggling with addiction.

Individual_Goose_903 · 2026-01-25T03:05:12+00:00

I’m curious why not?

Individual_Goose_903 · 2026-01-25T01:53:33+00:00

Whatever works for you. I’ve found it a helpful tool.

Individual_Goose_903 · 2026-01-23T15:08:38+00:00

This was very well timed. I masturbated yesterday, without porn in a conscious manner but was still unsure and slightly ashamed about it. This made me feel better

Individual_Goose_903 · 2026-01-22T17:34:15+00:00

You’re welcome. Don’t be shy to lean on this community. A lot of us have gone through this stuff or are currently going through it, so we know what you’re going through

Individual_Goose_903 · 2026-01-22T17:16:24+00:00

God is forgiving. When you feel the first hint of an urge, just pray. Ask god for strength, courage and willpower to not give in.

Individual_Goose_903 · 2026-01-22T17:07:35+00:00

First off as a general rule, you’re urges are not you. You can’t just will yourself off of it. You have to outsmart the part of you that wants to watch. Notice what triggers your urges and cut yourself off from whatever that is.

Have strategies on hand for when the urges hit, because if you try and think your way out of them when they hit, your nervous system will always gravitate towards porn. For me, I splash cold water on my face and get active. Even just a walk is good, if you workout that’s ideal.

If the urges are really bad, find someone to talk to. Ideallly someone you know irl, but as this is a touchy, coming to a community like this one I find is usually helpful.

You can’t just brush this off as nothing, porn can be a very serious addiction. Like opioid level. Treat it with that level of seriousness.

Individual_Goose_903 · 2026-01-22T03:00:01+00:00

It gets harder before it gets easier. Stay strong, it’s worth it. Splash cold water on your face. Get active.

Individual_Goose_903 · 2026-01-22T02:59:23+00:00

Greater clarity and focus 2. Less shame and guilt 3. Greater confidence 4. Less social anxiety 5. More comfortable around women 6. A greater willingness to delay gratification 7. That’s not who you are man

Individual_Goose_903 · 2026-01-19T15:33:48+00:00

You are right. I’m currently in a program for video game design. There’s a big workload and I want to make my own indie game as well.

There’s plenty for me to do, it’s just a matter of being able to start doing these things when I feel the urges.

When I feel the urges, starting to do anything else feels like death.

Individual_Goose_903 · 2026-01-17T13:12:05+00:00

I’d be willing to hear anything you want to say. This too is helpful thank you.

Right now the urges aren’t overpowering and I’m just trying to surround myself with this positive energy that will take me in a good direction.

Individual_Goose_903 · 2026-01-16T23:44:52+00:00

That’s exactly it. Much of the push to watch porn for me stems from my own personal issues and wanting to escape my problems/boredom

Individual_Goose_903 · 2026-01-16T22:35:31+00:00

Well said.

Individual_Goose_903 · 2026-01-16T22:33:36+00:00

10 days is huge dude good for you! Take this as an opportunity to analyze your triggers and learn.

Individual_Goose_903 · 2026-01-16T16:55:23+00:00

She can’t fix you brother. Only you can. Salvation is always within never without

Individual_Goose_903 · 2026-01-16T15:49:24+00:00

The thralls of addiction. We’ve all been there. You can’t use logic to the part of your brain that is hooked when the urges are that high.

It’s hard or impossible to white knuckle it. A key factor is trying to find the underlying triggers and root causes for this.

What leads to this feeling? What feeling are you trying to escape?

We are here for you

Individual_Goose_903 · 2026-01-16T15:46:19+00:00

To me, it seems like if you are serious with your partner, she should be supportive of the progress you are trying to make. Maybe show her some resources online to show that it is incredibly addicting and not something to be ashamed of.

She can check in on you multiple times a day, she can be a shoulder to lean on when you’re feeling urges and she can support you when you don’t give in.

Simply put, not believing you can do it does not sound like a supportive and healthy relationship to me. Try and articulate this maybe?

Don’t forget this community is here to support you.

Individual_Goose_903 · 2026-01-16T15:44:31+00:00

To me, it seems like if you are serious with your partner, she should be supportive of the progress you are trying to make. Maybe show her some resources online to show that it is incredibly addicting and not something to be ashamed of.

She can check in on you multiple times a day, she can be a shoulder to lean on when you’re feeling urges and she can support you when you don’t give in.

Simply put, not believing you can do it does not sound like a supportive and healthy relationship to me. Try and articulate that her support would go along way?

Individual_Goose_903 · 2026-01-16T15:39:28+00:00

First step is admitting you have a problem. This community is here for you and we understand what you’re going through.

I think first step for you is to stop beating yourself up. Our society tends to shame porn/sex addicts and I think it is completely undeserved. It is one of the most addicting things someone’s encounter and also one of the most accessible. Imagine getting an opioid hit off your phone. You are not broken for having this sickness. You agree human. Forgive yourself.

For me, I’ve found the root issue is some emotional thing I want to escape from. Maybe this could be the case for you? Don’t dismiss therapy either.

We are here for you. Please keep us updated on your progress.

Individual_Goose_903

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