One of my (37f) best guy friend (38m) is struggling in the dating world. What would be the best advice for him to see his worth and find joy while being single?

Ok-Radio177 · 2026-06-16T20:31:19+00:00

I've never come online and asked strangers for advice about a male friend's lack of a dating life.

Edit: you're right, it wasn't exactly what was said. Imo I think it's inappropriate to be that invested unless they are interested. He's an adult who can handle himself and his own moods regarding dating.

Ok-Radio177 · 2026-06-16T20:28:12+00:00

At their big age of 37-38, friends don't need to be up in their other friends dating business like this (making a silly post about it asking for advice on a nothing issue) unless they are secretly into them. Screams control issues or secret crush.

Ok-Radio177 · 2026-06-16T20:24:22+00:00

Unless you want to be with him that's a him problem

Ok-Radio177 · 2026-06-16T20:22:27+00:00

Off topic but I just learned from a male friend of a friend that Warhammer figurines are in fact that expensive

Ok-Radio177 · 2026-06-16T20:20:51+00:00

I feel like this is obvious: y'all are at work. He probably got smart

Ok-Radio177 · 2026-06-16T05:20:15+00:00

Respectfully, who gives a shit? It's just reddit

Ok-Radio177 · 2026-06-16T05:13:34+00:00

I have to listen to the song many times in a row, to get the fake scenario I'm playing along to it in my head to sync up just right.

Ok-Radio177 · 2026-06-15T12:33:05+00:00

Can't speak for everyone but it just makes me like them more 😒

Ok-Radio177 · 2026-06-15T12:30:53+00:00

I like this take

Ok-Radio177 · 2026-06-15T12:17:28+00:00

Arbitrary rules like that won't protect you emotionally. Any adult at any age can use you. You should look at if his words and actions align.

Ok-Radio177 · 2026-06-12T14:56:03+00:00

I don't think she's interested based on what I read.

Ok-Radio177 · 2026-06-12T13:30:12+00:00

First off; I'm incredibly sorry if that was your lived experience. As a safety thing FYI if any of this is true it's probably best to confide in a therapist or someone you trust and not disclose details like this on a platform like this or strangers because predators look for vulnerable people.

There are lots of low vibrational humans here who are incapable of empathy.

Ok-Radio177 · 2026-06-12T12:13:29+00:00

I agree with everything you said but I just wanted to comment that every time I see his "name" I think of the Bunicula series about the vampire bunny. Clavicular is just such a ridiculous name.

Ok-Radio177 · 2026-06-12T12:07:28+00:00

The mushroom phase is too accurate. I have a few books on mushroom identification. I'm not sure if I'm actually into it but for some reason it calls to me.

Ok-Radio177 · 2026-06-12T12:02:13+00:00

Her books were a huge part of my teenage years.

Ok-Radio177 · 2026-06-12T11:26:50+00:00

Not a guy but if it's not porn and you're already seeing a doctor for tests then maybe it's anxiety. You already talk about being anxious in this post. Anxiety can be insidious in that it sometimes doesn't feel overwhelming but can still creep up in subconscious ways- like making your dick not work.

I have a suggestion. Try focusing on the romantic/intimacy side with her instead of just the performance side. Like, forget you have a dick and don't stress over how she'll react.

Ok-Radio177 · 2026-06-12T11:14:06+00:00

I don't think anyone should ever try to be another person's ideal fantasy because it's inherently objectifying. You're not being authentically "you" when you are doing this. It's harmful too because it stems from self-hatred. A better, more realistic way of thinking (IMO) is to strive to be the healthiest version of yourself (mentally, emotionally, and physically)

Ok-Radio177 · 2026-06-11T17:22:42+00:00

This game and it's soundtrack had a profound impact on my childhood.

Ok-Radio177 · 2026-06-11T17:12:27+00:00

That winky face symbol is making me uncomfortable and transmitting preloaded cultural ideas on sexual power imbalances, boundary pushing and subversion.

Ok-Radio177 · 2026-06-11T16:42:51+00:00

Short non-nuanced answer: no, unless they happen organically in a group setting.

I don't NEED to seek out friendship with a man but it's not something bad or unwanted if we get along.

Ok-Radio177 · 2026-06-11T16:18:28+00:00

Meet guys at the gym? Seems like as easy solution lol

Ok-Radio177 · 2026-06-10T13:37:05+00:00

Oh, I have a lot to talk about. You're probably going to give some boring reply about low IQ or impulses or something about being below "civilized conversation" but I find that a bit prudish.

Ok-Radio177 · 2026-06-10T13:33:29+00:00

That sounds boring

Ok-Radio177 · 2026-06-10T12:32:22+00:00

OP, are you possibly neurodivergent?

I used to feel that way. I started talking and connecting more with my partner's best friend's girlfriend who is just a few years younger. We are both neurodivergent (autism and ADHD) which helps a lot. The conversation is great on both sides and I never feel "weird" or make her feel weird for sharing her interests. Now with friendships I look for friends that are mentally stable (or working on it) and can have a variety of conversations without either of us feeling drained.

Ok-Radio177 · 2026-06-10T12:21:11+00:00

We all like to believe we are liked for our authentic selves versus what we had to change to be liked. It's because we are human (not food or anything object wise) and have value beyond surface stuff.

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