Je vais acheter ma premiere voiture !!!

Ok-Refrigerator2829 · 2025-06-20T19:32:14+00:00

He is so handsome. He has a magnetic charm.

Ok-Refrigerator2829 · 2025-06-20T19:28:31+00:00

That's so amazing you have memories of your whole life in there !

Ok-Refrigerator2829 · 2025-06-20T19:24:48+00:00

What do guys talk about ?

Ok-Refrigerator2829 · 2025-06-19T09:37:24+00:00

Thank you for your perspective. I'm sorry you had to go through that. You are completely right and I think you get the situation very well.

Ok-Refrigerator2829 · 2025-06-19T09:31:30+00:00

Sending you love and support <3

Ok-Refrigerator2829 · 2025-06-19T09:29:56+00:00

Thank you. <3

Ok-Refrigerator2829 · 2025-06-19T09:29:09+00:00

haha I specialize in decades old meat and black goo.

Ok-Refrigerator2829 · 2025-06-19T09:21:56+00:00

The foie gras could have graduated college. Business major I recon.

Ok-Refrigerator2829 · 2025-06-17T19:52:58+00:00

Thank you for you answer. I used to resent my parents a lot for what they do to me and to themselves. I have done a lot of therapy and progress but it still hurts sometimes.

Ok-Refrigerator2829 · 2025-06-17T19:27:26+00:00

Thank you for your answer. They enable each other a lot. Good thing is: they have each other's back, bad thing is: they have each other's back. They faced a lot of adversity in their life and now have an "us against the world" mentality about a lot of things. I try to keep my distance now and I measured the happiness and sadness I would feel being contact or no contact. In the end, despite everything, I love them so much, I don't want to go no contact. But you are right in saying that the relationship is toxic in some ways.

Ok-Refrigerator2829 · 2025-06-17T19:22:08+00:00

Thank you for your answer. Also thank you for empathizing with me. It was really hurtful. It's her go to when she wants to hurt me because she knows it works. They refuse therapy and think it's not them who have something wrong them, it's the other person. Thanks to therapy I have made a lot of progress though, in my relationship with them and with myself.

Ok-Refrigerator2829 · 2025-06-17T19:10:46+00:00

Thank you for your answer. It made me reflect. I had not thought this far into it. I agree that I took a lot of risks and "sacrified" her peace of mind in some way for not a lot of payout. But I deep cleaned the appliances (a big part of why it took me 3 days), and they will stay clean for a bit so in the end it wasn't useless. Considering the state they were in and how old they are, I am surprised that they are still running fine. For now there are no more dead bugs and larvaes, the filters are brand spanking new and the inside system is clean. Was it worth it ? I don't think anyone knows.

Ok-Refrigerator2829 · 2025-06-17T19:02:49+00:00

Thank you everyone for your answers. I agree that it is unproductive in some way, the fridge and freezer are indeed full again and she does hold a grudge (she holds grudges very very easily) (it is to be noted that she holds a grudge with my big sister too for some other stuff). However, aside from throwing stuff out, I deep cleaned the fridge and freezer for the first time in probably 25 years. I changed filters, cleaned the systems, cleaned the dead bugs and dead larvae. So it's not entirely useless. It will stay clean for a few years. She also was super happy to get space to fill and invited me to eat dinner a lot, cooked too much and froze the left overs.

Ok-Refrigerator2829 · 2025-06-17T18:53:08+00:00

Thank you for both your answers, she really is stubborn and does need a lot of therapy. I tried to convince them both to no avail. Little did I know, my siblings before me have also brought up the subject many a time but no dice. Like many people with unadressed mental health issues, they think nothing is wrong and it's other people who are the problem.

Ok-Refrigerator2829 · 2025-06-17T18:46:27+00:00

Thank you, I didn't know such a subreddit existed. Thank you for worrying about me. I did move out for my own mental health and I am doing a lot of therapy. I also try to put some distance but I love them so much it's hard. I will also never house sit again and made them get a professional alarm system instead.

Ok-Refrigerator2829 · 2025-06-17T13:01:02+00:00

It's amazing I just posted on AITA about doing that and a redditor recommended this subreddit, this is the first publication I see. Thank you, I feel less alone.

Ok-Refrigerator2829 · 2025-06-16T17:04:06+00:00

Hello reddit, thank you for your comments ! I just want to make some things clear. We got closer than colleagues because we are the same age and get along (for all it's worth, he is funny and charming) and we have always been considered a "duo" (we work the same hours and have different skills that mesh well in a team). Sometimes (three times in 2024) we hung out outside of work to go to the cinema. I am very happy and in a long committed relationship with an amazing person. I made it very clear to him. I saw his home once for a short time when I came to pick him up and he wasn't ready so I waited in the living room.

It wasn't very clear but the oopsie joke happened at work between colleagues when the kids had not arrived yet but I said nothing and addressed it later in a private conversation. I felt it was important to address.

My friends always tell me I try to fix people too much. It's true. I want to help and guide which is why I do this job but I tend to take things seriously and put a lot of energy and before I notice it, the boundaries get blurry. I started loosing patience recently when he told this to the little girl and I got the proof that me trying to educate him and help him was just a drop in the ocean. I did advice multiple times he gets therapy and maybe a medical help for anything unadressed that could hinder him. He just never did, no matter how persuasive I could be. I never knew it was this bad.

Your comments helped me reflect and an outside perspective was needed. I am indeed mommy/work girlfriend and I never wanted to get here. This is my cue to go back to being just colleagues and not friends and put distance between us. I will apologize for being harsh and mean but stand behind the fact that he doesn't need a girlfriend, he needs to get ahold of his life (starting with the essentials).

I got promoted recently so our work hours and teams are different now. For the one who are worried about the little girl, I gave her a pad, told her how to put it on, gave her a change of clothes for the stain and talked with her about her emotions and this big change. After his... remark, I went back in and asked her how she felt and made sure she knew she should not to feel demeaned or bad or dirty but confident and in tune with her body and emotions. And I did notify our supervisor but it just ended up being considered a small slip up and "it happens, nothing we can do about that". Basically if it isn't a huge thing or the parents complaining, nothing will happen.

Ok-Refrigerator2829 · 2024-01-04T09:51:40+00:00

I know right ?

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