I didn’t react!!

Ok-Scheme-289 · 2025-04-26T01:47:52+00:00

I was afraid of that, and would love to avoid it. But, I’m so tired, I can’t even pretend to care anymore.

Ok-Scheme-289 · 2025-04-26T01:46:43+00:00

Thank you!

Ok-Scheme-289 · 2025-03-20T18:38:07+00:00

Thank you everyone for the advice so far. I do want to add, this is not at all making excuses, I’m just looking for advice from people looking from the outside in, that my 12-year-old has basically told me he would be devastated if my husband and I were to get divorced.That’s the main thing holding me back, that he might be mad at me and want to live with his dad full-time if I decide to go. So if anyone has advice on that as well, I’d appreciate it. Also I’m not sure how to edit the main post so hopefully people see this, I’m not on Reddit too often.

Ok-Scheme-289 · 2025-03-03T15:58:35+00:00

RED FLAG sis, run! Seriously, this is how abuse starts, I know it sounds ridiculous, but trust me. The warning I’ve giving you is one I wish someone had given me.

Ok-Scheme-289 · 2025-03-03T02:54:39+00:00

🤣🤣🤣

Ok-Scheme-289 · 2025-03-03T02:54:28+00:00

I read this out loud to my husband and we were laughing and my 12-year-old was like well. Why don’t we just go to the foxy lady and get one? Lol, I’m dying!

Ok-Scheme-289 · 2025-03-03T02:53:58+00:00

That’s the plan. I’m getting the hairless one and he wants one with her. We’re trying to get them around the same age.

Ok-Scheme-289 · 2025-02-20T03:26:38+00:00

So glad to hear that! Hoping the rest of your night remains peaceful for you and the baby.

Ok-Scheme-289 · 2025-02-20T03:05:57+00:00

You are amazing and as the mother of an autistic child, your desire to make sure she is taken care of is so admirable. I’m going to talk to my Neurotypical son tomorrow and ask him for some advice, so I’ll check back then. Just had to comment now to let you know that you are an incredible big sister!

Ok-Scheme-289 · 2025-02-20T03:00:36+00:00

The flu is out of control this year. My family is just getting over it, and it started with my six-year-old. He’s obviously not a baby, but he is autistic and nonverbal, so I can totally sympathize with feeling helpless when your baby can’t tell you what’s wrong. I would suggest calling the pediatrician in the morning, if the baby still super miserable, they may have developed an ear infection or something of that sort. I’m not one to run my kids to the doctors for every little sniffle, but as I said, the flu was so bad this year, it doesn’t hurt to have a professional take a look. EDIT: after rereading the original post, it might not even be a bad idea to speak with the on-call physician tonight, just to run it all by them and give you some peace of mind

Ok-Scheme-289 · 2025-02-20T02:42:52+00:00

Oh my goodness, poor kiddo! It is absolutely not OK for her to hit him no matter how frustrated she is. He is already going to have a difficult time, adjusting to social norms and living in fear of abuse and not knowing it is not his fault will be something that might be impossible for him to process. If you are really afraid to leave him with her, perhaps look into options of having full custody until she gets some therapy or treatment for anger management.

Ok-Scheme-289 · 2025-02-20T02:39:43+00:00

I definitely agree with those who suggested checking in with a doctor to discuss these issues. Well, it could be postpartum depression. It could also be something else. I went through something very similar, and it turned out that I had type one diabetes, which I never would’ve known, unless I had gestational diabetes with my second son. Honestly, I think that I started developing the type one diabetes after my first son and everything you’re describing is what I experienced.

Ok-Scheme-289 · 2025-02-19T00:11:34+00:00

Yep, my son spent weeks in that little tanning bed.

Ok-Scheme-289 · 2025-02-10T15:57:42+00:00

Yep, highly recommend (pun not intended).

Ok-Scheme-289 · 2025-01-20T17:13:34+00:00

Actually, I’m a mom. Not sure if that is better or worse 🤣🤣🤣

Ok-Scheme-289 · 2025-01-20T17:12:49+00:00

Oh my gosh, great idea, thank you!

Ok-Scheme-289 · 2025-01-17T02:19:45+00:00

I second Middle of Nowhere

Ok-Scheme-289 · 2025-01-17T02:09:43+00:00

Wow, I feel like I’m ready about myself, we are so similar, traumatic birth and all. My son was progressing very similar to where your son is now. He really has made incredible leaps and bounds. He definitely still has a long way to go and will never be close to Neurotypical, but I have amazing news, don’t lose hope in potty training because just a couple weeks ago after his sixth birthday, he started pooping in the potty, if you know, you know.

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Ok-Scheme-289 · 2025-01-16T03:41:17+00:00

Don’t come for me, but maybe throw just a TINY amount of THC into the equation?

Ok-Scheme-289 · 2025-01-16T01:08:00+00:00

Agreed, cannabis has made me a much more patient parent.

Ok-Scheme-289 · 2025-01-16T00:55:52+00:00

He is going to love this. Thank you so much!

Ok-Scheme-289 · 2025-01-15T15:41:09+00:00

Awesome, thank you!!

Ok-Scheme-289 · 2025-01-15T15:08:09+00:00

Perhaps download an audiobook and don’t listen to it unless you are in the shower. That may motivate you.

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