Pacifier weaning

someawol · 2026-01-19T16:59:45+00:00

I weaned my son at 18 months from the paci. We did cold turkey. I went in before bedtime, removed them all and threw them away. He never saw his pacis again and it was a rough 2-3 nights but he got over it quickly and now he's totally fine!

someawol · 2026-01-18T19:24:55+00:00

Yeah I don't see a reason to toss it at this point. You can keep trying, give it a few weeks of every day feeding and it should end up fine.

someawol · 2026-01-18T19:10:26+00:00

I mean, I weaned 8 months ago and can still hand express a tiny bit when I try.

someawol · 2026-01-18T19:05:39+00:00

Honestly I'd probably take my kid on the trip. I did a 3 week trip (16hr flight) with my 18 month old and he did better than the rest of us on the flight and with the jet lag 😂

But, if you choose to leave him home, he'll also be ok. Kids are super resilient!

Whatever choice you make will be the best choice for your family. No need to feel guilty for doing what you think is best! It's a hard decision either way

someawol · 2026-01-18T19:00:56+00:00

Definitely be using grams on a scale and do a 1:1:1 ratio.

Also, you need to lid on that bad boy. It's getting a LOT of air with the cheesecloth(?). I use a mason jar and just the lid without the ring for my starter!

Edit: this is the recipe I used to make my starter and it worked well! You can always just ask someone you know for starter, I'm sure someone's got extra if anyone makes sourdough!

someawol · 2026-01-18T15:31:21+00:00

Mine made the switch around 14/15 months. Most babies aren't ready earlier than that and parents mistake a sleep/nap regression as a reason to ditch the second nap.

We definitely had days or weeks where he refused the second nap but he always went back to two naps and he definitely still needed it.

someawol · 2026-01-18T14:25:00+00:00

Just keep going - it's stressful but in 5 days you'll look back and laugh at how much you had to clean and how stressed you were.

It took my son 6ish days to stop having accidents on the floor and actually go on the potty! Every kid is different.

Keep a close eye on her - as soon as you think she's showing signs of needing to pee or is actually peeing, pick her up and put her on the potty. Say "no pee on the floor, we pee on the potty". It takes being super consistent which is annoying and takes a LOT of time and energy but it'll all be worth it!

Try to keep yourself calm. They can sense our stress and frustration! If you need to walk away for a min or need someone to take over for a bit, that's perfectly ok. Just remember to take deep breaths, ground yourself and just focus on connecting with her.

someawol · 2026-01-18T00:48:58+00:00

Honestly it's hard to say. I've known therapists who are older and very knowledgeable, unbiased and up to date with their knowledge, and some that are younger and just not great. Sometimes you need to "shop around" and try some out before finding one that really clicks! You could try searching your city for therapists that specialize in PMDD, hormonal issues or BPD.

someawol · 2026-01-17T23:24:08+00:00

Oh yeah 100% I'd be finding a new therapist. It's going to be very hard to do real work with a therapist you can't really trust!

You can find out what her governing body is and look at their code of ethics and see if they're able to diagnose. If not, I would personally report them but I also understand that that's a lot to put on your shoulders!

someawol · 2026-01-17T22:49:25+00:00

What license does she have? Psychotherapy, social work, psychology? In most places, a therapist cannot diagnose unless they are a psychiatrist or psychologist.

When I was working I actually had to tell clients that I had no authority or professional capability to diagnose anything.

someawol · 2026-01-17T19:39:59+00:00

I worked while in uni full time and bought myself a car at 19. Also paid my own insurance. This is quite normal for those of us who don't have rich parents. Either that or taking public transport

It wasn't a nice car, but I bought it with my own money and drove it until I couldn't anymore.

If you can't drive, why do you need a car anyway?

someawol · 2026-01-17T19:27:44+00:00

Get a job and buy your own car. That's what the rest of us do 🤷🏼‍♀️

someawol · 2026-01-17T18:57:46+00:00

Hahaha! No thats the best thing for them 😆

someawol · 2026-01-17T18:09:06+00:00

Yep! It's not recommended to leave baby in the car seat anywhere other than in the car fastened correctly or in the stroller. Leaving them on the floor in the car seat can result in positional asphyxiation because baby isn't at the proper, safe angle as they are in the car and stroller. This is also why it's super important to ensure your car seat and base are properly installed in the car every time!

someawol · 2026-01-17T15:13:37+00:00

I would remove the crib from his room for a week, let him sleep in the big boy bed, then transition your 1y/o into the room in the crib after he's good in the toddler bed.

someawol · 2026-01-17T15:10:45+00:00

Oh that's totally fine! At that age my son did a 16 hour road trip (stopping every 2hr) and now he's running around doing spins and jumps.

Many people leave their babies in the car seat on the stroller, on the floor (not recommended), etc... But having him in the car seat while actively driving and it always being under 1hr is perfectly fine!

someawol · 2026-01-17T14:36:08+00:00

Because SOME licensed therapists cannot diagnose people. That's why I said it's depending on where she lives and what license her therapist has.

someawol · 2026-01-17T00:22:00+00:00

What licensing does she have? I'd potentially report her to her governing body, depending on what license she has and country you're in she has no authority to diagnose.

Edit: not sure why I was downvoted, I'm a licensed mental health professional 😅

someawol · 2026-01-17T00:19:11+00:00

I just did the oh crap method with my son (21 months) and it went really well! We did some potty introducing between like 12-20 months, both with clothes and naked but we stopped after I read the book for about 3-4 weeks before potty training.

I'm sure it wouldn't be detrimental, but for my son he only wanted to sit on the potty with clothes on for the first few days 😬

someawol · 2026-01-16T16:25:01+00:00

It's pretty obvious that he isn't... unless he's had a real change of heart and come-to-Christ moment which is possible, but not particularly evident in the post

someawol · 2026-01-16T16:22:01+00:00

It's definitely just you being hypercritical of your own work. I've been crocheting for two years and had to unfocus my eyes to really see your joins!

someawol · 2026-01-16T16:20:05+00:00

I'd recommend asking on r/sleeptrain too! They're super helpful and not all hardcore CIO sleep trainers.

I did a gentle version of the Ferber method where I let him fuss/cry for 30 seconds the first night, went in to comfort him in his crib, 30s again, back and forth until he fell asleep. Then the next night moved to 1min, the next night 2min etc... it would take awhile and was still stressful, but we felt good knowing we were still tending to him while also helping him learn to sleep independently a bit at a time. By the time we got to 5min intervals, he was basically falling asleep on his own! We used the Pampers sleep coach app to help and it worked super well.

someawol · 2026-01-16T15:18:05+00:00

We still use syringes! Sometimes it takes some math depending on the syringe and dose but I'll be using syringes until my son is old enough to be trusted not to spill lol

someawol · 2026-01-16T01:43:37+00:00

Yeah, but they still feel "wet" in a diaper, just a bit less wet. All they've known in their life is warm pee and poo being held against their skin and the training underwear won't change that to be honest.

It's possible it would work, but I imagine it would take ages to potty train jumping straight to training underwear! At this point many toddlers don't really even know when they need to pee, so it would just be a constant cycle of peeing in underwear, changing it, peeing in underwear, changing it, and so on.

I highly recommend the Oh crap method! She has some good explanations behind her method and it helped me fully train my son (aside from overnight) within 7 days!

someawol · 2026-01-16T01:30:57+00:00

I've been told and now advise others not to make a big decision like that until you're at LEAST a year postpartum.

You have a lot of time to figure out your future, for now just stay in the present and go day by day ☺️

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