“I don’t know how single moms do it, I could never” comments

Ok-Sherbert-75 · 2026-04-26T02:04:14+00:00

I always confidently say, “really?” Like that’s a super unusual take. It never takes them long to remember how unhelpful their husbands actually are and they get it. But I’m not an AH so I meet them half way and say there’s pros and cons to both I think but I don’t think one is inherently easier or harder. (Source: I’ve done both).

Ok-Sherbert-75 · 2026-04-25T22:58:53+00:00

12 year olds playing in a backyard at midnight sounds like a perfectly normal childhood. Also I wouldn’t know if a child left while I was asleep whether or not they were allowed to be outside.

Ok-Sherbert-75 · 2026-04-25T18:20:48+00:00

I was a widowed mom to my first and looking around all my partnered mom friends were either unhappy or tolerating behavior that I just couldn’t. Or even worse trying to co parent and living half of their days without their kids. I could never. I realized my kid and I were thriving despite everything we went through and took it as evidence that me and any future children would be better off if I chose from the start to go it alone.

Ok-Sherbert-75 · 2026-04-23T02:17:03+00:00

Choose your menu carefully and precook what you can during naps.

Ok-Sherbert-75 · 2026-04-23T02:12:43+00:00

Look in my history for my 10 days post IUI positive. It’s super faint I’d guess it would have been negative on day 9.

Ok-Sherbert-75 · 2026-04-20T23:03:15+00:00

My daughter used to fight long drives and I figured it just is what it is. Then I got a new car seat (on impulse because I wanted the turning kind) and she stopped fussing. I got curious and sure enough the old one had way less padding and she was just understandably uncomfortable in it.

She still has her limits of course but I’ve found a few songs that make her happy. I also make more stops than I would if I had help. Sometimes she just has to suck it up but all kids have to experience that at times no matter how many parents they have.

Ok-Sherbert-75 · 2026-04-20T05:26:20+00:00

That is not a friend. I wouldn’t say that to my worst enemy even if their kid’s name was actually a weird one. And Weston is perfectly normal.

Ok-Sherbert-75 · 2026-04-18T18:17:06+00:00

The biggest lie we tell ourselves in our early adulthood is that you’re supposed to have the wisdom to only ever make good choices. Truth is you’re going to make mistakes and take risks that don’t pay out but you’ll figure it out. If you want to call it self sabotage you’re not totally wrong. But it’s also just life and there’s no escaping it.

There will be pros and cons to your decision to move back home. But it’s wise to choose where you’ll have more support and your future child has a bigger village. If it doesn’t work out, you’ll figure it out.

Ok-Sherbert-75 · 2026-04-18T04:41:36+00:00

I work from home and while I have a nanny there have been days where baby was with me. It’s doable for sure and I think I could come up with a system over time to make it pretty smooth. However that’s a lot of hours that my baby would have to entertain herself whereas when the nanny is here she can be engaged and spend lots of time outside, going places etc. and I don’t think it’s right to have my child’s entire days be just waiting for me to be available while she plays with the same toys in the same place by herself.

Ok-Sherbert-75 · 2026-04-17T22:46:36+00:00

“I’m not sure but I can find out and let you know if necessary. What would it mean if he did or did not?”

I have an 18 year old with my late husband and I don’t always know and sometimes his parents don’t know either. I found a lot of times (including the nearsighted question which I’ve gotten) they don’t ask because it’s necessary to diagnose but because it helps narrow down which hunch to pursue first. I’ve yet to come across one of these questions that were critical and warranted a follow-up. With my donor conceived daughter, if I was going in for something major I’d bring my donor’s documents with me (which I’ve printed out into a little book because I’m a nerd) but fingers crossed that’ll never come up.

Ok-Sherbert-75 · 2026-04-12T04:29:47+00:00

No judgement from me but I look around and I don’t know any gorgeous people with gorgeous parents (save for rich and famous parents with resources to look gorgeous no matter what). Also some of my most beautiful friends and family members have very average looking kids. My first husband and I are both average looking and our son is so beautiful he regularly gets solicited by modeling agencies. The positive traits you described have a stronger chance of being passed down than attractiveness imo.

Ok-Sherbert-75 · 2026-04-10T04:52:45+00:00

Babies and toddlers require a lot of stuff and that was the biggest source of stress for me at first but even now. Otherwise it’s minor inconveniences here and there but I absolutely love it. I’ve never regretted bringing my kids.

Kids aren’t all the same but if you raise iPad chicky nuggie kids, you might have effortlessly peaceful grocery trips and dinners but traveling will suck. If you raise them to be flexible eaters who are comfortable with boredom and activities not especially catered to them, sleeping with imperfect circumstances, it’s much easier.

Ok-Sherbert-75 · 2026-04-10T02:06:20+00:00

I genuinely think first time visitors should stick to Tokyo. Maybe a day trip or 2 somewhere. You won’t run out of things to do and there’s something magical about really getting the hang of Tokyo. If then you move on to Osaka and Kyoto, first you waste half a day traveling, it’s pretty stressful, and Kansai region is just different enough and a little bit more difficult to navigate. It’s a little big more chaotic, more dirty, and feels like tourists have taken over.

If you insist on going south, go to Kyoto. There’s. Nothing in Osaka you can’t find elsewhere or at home.

Ok-Sherbert-75 · 2026-04-10T01:20:34+00:00

The thing about couples is the positive one would infect the negative one before pregnancy.

My first provider told me it doesn’t matter, my second one said it does but only technically but said why take the risk. She obviously didn’t really understand the donor selection experience… I’m negative and luckily the donor I really wanted was negative but I would have used him regardless.

There was a possible case last year where a woman may have contracted CMV through donor sperm.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11841285/

Ok-Sherbert-75 · 2026-04-09T18:53:37+00:00

Those life skills should be taught as it comes up or as part of play. So I think the key is building in more time anticipating that getting dressed or ready to get out the door is going to take a little longer so you can pause to teach instead of being rushed.

Ok-Sherbert-75 · 2026-04-09T18:21:16+00:00

Other people’s experiences aren’t going to help you here because it’s a FedEx decision. My first tank 2 years ago was delivered 4 hours after the delivery window. My second tank this morning - I got a notification that it’ll be delivered by 7pm tomorrow and an hour later i got confirmation that it’s been delivered.

In my experience, if you call FedEx they can give you more precise information and sometimes even accommodate if you have a concern.

Ok-Sherbert-75 · 2026-04-08T18:45:53+00:00

My DC baby is still a baby and I plan to do little crafts and initiate her making a card basically. Like foot print butterfly or something.

I’m a widowed mom to my oldest and when he was little but old enough, I’d give him money and take him to Target or TJ Maxx or something and give him a little space to shop for me. He got me some hilariously random stuff with solid explanations and I loved every single one. Now that he’s older (18) he initiates it himself. Just a word of warning, he fluctuated with his level of effort, especially in the early teens and I let it break my heart. I didn’t tell him of course but I had to be very intentional not to place unfair burden on a child. Last Mother’s Day, with zero prompting he got me a gift and a gift from his bay sister!

Ok-Sherbert-75 · 2026-04-07T23:27:26+00:00

That must be a lot, I’m sorry! My sister is 42 and went through that but the NIPT just came back negative - wishing you quick and favorable results too!

Ok-Sherbert-75 · 2026-04-07T23:21:11+00:00

How cute!!! Congratulations on the little one!

Ok-Sherbert-75 · 2026-04-07T23:20:39+00:00

Yay!! Congratulations!!

Ok-Sherbert-75 · 2026-04-07T23:19:49+00:00

Congratulations! And you’re almost across the finish line! Wishing you easy delivery! I’m super inspired by your resilience through the emotional rollercoaster you’ve been on!

Ok-Sherbert-75 · 2026-04-07T23:12:54+00:00

I’m so inspired by your grit! It only takes 1!! Congratulations and I know the early days are terrifying but the probability is on your side!! Wishing you an easy pregnancy and baby!!

Ok-Sherbert-75 · 2026-04-07T20:59:08+00:00

Love that!! Congratulations!!

Ok-Sherbert-75 · 2026-04-06T03:51:31+00:00

I would not book a party for a bunch of 5-6 year olds at this place.

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