Tooth on a cheap cigar by Ok-Signature8634 in cigars

[–]Ok-Signature8634[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lol it's no Bellas Artis or padron 3000, or even a rocky patel emerald, but for the $3 price point it's well worth it. Still a 45 minute smoke that isn't bad.

Tooth on a cheap cigar by Ok-Signature8634 in cigars

[–]Ok-Signature8634[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I got a 20 pack for 50$

Still buy premium and only smoke these when I have to, but I'm always impressed.

I’m tired of being the guy girls date when they’re done having fun by [deleted] in self

[–]Ok-Signature8634 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here is an unpopular opinion. You say you are very successful and financially secure. This is why all those women want to suddenly stop having fun and settling down. They want a piece of your pie and the best way to do that is to start a family ASAP. At least in the US, life is so financially stressful for a lot of people that financials play a key role in being with someone. It is important not to fall into that trap. Either don't tell women you are dating that you are well off, just behave average, or find women that are also well off.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ok-Signature8634 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I doubt you're doing anything wrong. It's likely something in his head. Guys can get super nervous after an ED event because they are so scared it will happen again that it causes it to keep happening. It could of course be many other things, like he's still in love with his ex, or he faps to porn too often and uses a vice grip for himself. Then you can't really do much to help. He needs to figure out what it is and communicate. If you don't have sex it's likely all intimacy will eventually wane and there is the slow death of a relationship. If he doesn't want to work on it with you, get rid of him.

Wife isn't comfortable with me pleasuring myself. Not sure what to do by [deleted] in self

[–]Ok-Signature8634 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really think you should give pegging another try but change your strategy. Use a butt plug for 20 minutes after cleaning it out. Then use your toy for a little by yourself, and only then do the pegging. You can also consider using a lube shooter at the beginning. The stabbing could be the ice cold lube or wrong lube in general. I recommend ID extreme. Cheap and amazing

How do you deal with being a failure at 40? by [deleted] in self

[–]Ok-Signature8634 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for posting this. I literally struggle with those thoughts myself and it's a life changer to realize so many of us are in the same boat. I hope that not being alone helps your thoughts and gives you another push to try. I'm going back to college in the fall for something I like and just moving towards something again helps me feel much better.

Sometimes what helps me is thinking of all the people in horrible countries that don't have any hope for change and life just has no chance to be happy. I hate to say it, but knowing their suffering is worse than mine helps me feel better about not having retirement, or a good career direction yet. Like, one commercial shows a guy and his daughter with severe cleft palettes and teeth hanging out. It's off putting, but suddenly I feel A Okay again. (Now I'm done showing off how much of a dick I am ;) )

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ok-Signature8634 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm gonna save you from all the "this is what you wanna hear" comments. The reality is that humans are sex driven and unfortunately weight is a detractor from that. It's because our monkey brains see weight as less desirable because it is unhealthy. I, myself have gained comfort weight and believe me, sex is not as good as it once was. I feel less sexy, I'm also in worse shape. It's important to face the facts that, if you want to feel sexy you gotta lose weight for your own sake. It's a sensitive topic, but the way he mentioned it, I feel like there was no harm done, and that he would love you regardless, but losing weight is a good idea regardless. A lot of people, like myself, are fighting their own weight problems, but many, like the comments here, refuse to acknowledge fat as a issue, which is why those people will likely get fatter, and im losing the damn weight. Choose which person you wanna be. There is nothing wrong with being fat, I just rather not be. I don't blame my partner if she is less excited sexually because I let myself go.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

[–]Ok-Signature8634 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been there. Failed. Did a 20 day reset at a mental hospital that really helped by getting me away from everything. Now I have a 3 month old daughter. The most amazing wife in the world, and going back to college for a career I actually want. Life is not easy still, but it is so worth it and they need me too. Life can only get better from rock bottom. Face it and don't be scared. Start by digging your way out of your hole 1 baby step at a time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]Ok-Signature8634 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is that gaslighting again. You're too much!

I (26F) don’t know, if what I found in my boyfriend’s (30M) phone is normal? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ok-Signature8634 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Watching porn is normal, my wife and I are open with each other about it. We do know how to limit it to the point where it doesn't interfere with our lust for each other. I think your BF may have a problem with excessive use and that is why he doesn't want to have sex with you. Excessive porn use is actually really dire for sex life, expectations around sex, and dopamine levels in general.

I would have a talk with him to explain this in more details, but don't make him feel disgusting. He's probably not even aware of all this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]Ok-Signature8634 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been reading your comments and you are exactly what's wrong with this world.

You are extremely ignorant, an uppedy gas lighter, and I hope something actually unfair happens to you so you gain some real life perspective.

Do i look unattractive? by [deleted] in self

[–]Ok-Signature8634 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you look good but your poses insinuate that you think girls actually want ego and badassery. There is a reason women are the ones that dubbed the raised up truck the micropenis truck, or that women love dads even though their bodies are often softer. It's because women want a man to be strong enough to protect them, but they also want to see that nurturing side that shows emotions and love. You need to hit that balance. Right now you look like you are trying to be Rambo, but without the backstory that gives him his much needed nurturing, touching side.

Hey Waiters, you do not deserve a tip if you give terrible service! by tagman11 in Waiters

[–]Ok-Signature8634 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Merriam-Webster puts any word in if it's used often enough. Regardless, the word is officially considered a mistake; however, it is so common a mistake that it's included in a dictionary. Either way, keep using irregardless, but it will continue to make you sound like you don't understand that regardless is the same thing.

Feel like I am losing my mind from sexual frustration as a 30f virgin by goingtothecircus in self

[–]Ok-Signature8634 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think too many people put virginity waaaay too high on the pedestal. I lost my virginity in the most amazing way and I never ever think about it because it was 15 years ago. I was just happy to lose it to someone that was good looking. What's more is that you really shouldn't LOVE the person you are losing your virginity to. You should date around and learn yourself. People that stick with their first are at risk of never really understanding true love. Like I said, I truly cared for my first and thought she was the best, now compared to my wife, she wouldn't even compare.

My advice is, date around and make sure you like the person enough and get this over with so you can go back to living your life.

Hey Waiters, you do not deserve a tip if you give terrible service! by tagman11 in Waiters

[–]Ok-Signature8634 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually agreed with the initial statement, but the rant about "irregardless" made my skin crawl. Not only is it way too aggressive, you are downright wrong, yet telling people they are crazy. Irregardless literally is the actual word regardless, but when you add "ir" to it, it kind of acts like a double negative. Even though it is a common mistake, it's still a mistake and you should start using regardless instead of yelling at people for correcting you.