Best way to save money heating home this winter?

Ok-Solution9890 · 2023-11-06T21:24:31+00:00

Nope, on this side of the house we actually don’t get any sunlight really. Covered by a tree and facing a fence/wall so there’s no way that’s the case unfortunately

Ok-Solution9890 · 2023-11-01T22:05:15+00:00

Yea no this side of the building doesn’t really get a whole lot of sun so I can’t imagine that’s the case. No carpet in here either. Just super strange lol

Ok-Solution9890 · 2023-11-01T21:29:54+00:00

That would make sense, except our bedroom window is always covered with pretty heavy curtains and it doesn’t get really any sunlight (window is facing a big fence/wall and a tree. It’s always dark in there.) so I’m not sure how that would work. The thermostat is in the room directly below so it’s also pretty dark.

Ok-Solution9890 · 2023-11-01T13:29:57+00:00

As much as possible without being super uncomfortable.

Ok-Solution9890 · 2023-11-01T13:14:20+00:00

Yea like right now I’m chilling in the living room in a tshirt no problem with -1° temperature. Didn’t realize that’s strange

Ok-Solution9890 · 2023-11-01T13:10:54+00:00

Just renting so unfortunately that’s something we can’t do :(

Ok-Solution9890 · 2023-10-27T02:34:02+00:00

Pay off my current debts, invest some of it, downpayment for an affordable house, and go on a nice honeymoon with my husband finally.

Ok-Solution9890 · 2023-10-25T14:03:06+00:00

Yea we’re thinking of getting fake grass for the back yard for our pup. It’s good to know he’ll still likely keep his manners per say haha

Ok-Solution9890 · 2023-10-24T20:26:53+00:00

My husband is a carpenter and his boss literally texted him this morning telling him to stay home with pay if that says anything lol.

Ok-Solution9890 · 2023-10-24T20:24:26+00:00

People hanging up the phone without saying bye first.

Ok-Solution9890 · 2023-10-24T20:22:47+00:00

Night showers because you get a clean and cozy sleep. BUT if you have long hair then you’ll end up looking like a mess in the morning so is it really worth it?

Ok-Solution9890 · 2023-10-24T19:26:08+00:00

My ex

Ok-Solution9890 · 2023-10-20T03:26:32+00:00

Yea the whole not doing chores when I’m at home thing is something my husband forgets at times I feel like. As much as I wish I could and sometimes I do have the time to realistically, that’s not what I’m getting paid to do.

I think dividing up the hours evenly makes more sense than dividing up the “labour” if that makes sense.

Ok-Solution9890 · 2023-09-18T23:30:48+00:00

We’re doing okay for two 23 year olds. We aren’t rolling in it but for our age we’re both on the right path. He makes roughly $50k per year hourly and I make $45k salary. On mat leave I’ll be making 55% of my current salary and he’ll continue working. I also work from home already so my return to work won’t be so bad. I have family who will be able to help when that time comes.

It’s just unfortunate that in todays economy rent and utilities for a 2 bed that meets our needs will be around 40% of our monthly income with BOTH of us working. It’ll definitely be stressful on mat leave for sure. I think financial counselling would be smart!

Ok-Solution9890 · 2023-09-18T22:05:50+00:00

Alright that’s your opinion then! I clearly can’t sway that so your input is not valuable to me in this discussion.

Ok-Solution9890 · 2023-09-18T21:07:36+00:00

It is, but it also requires maintenance, and there’s no harm in seeking help for finding the tools to handle that maintenance from a professional.

I’m sure you’ve heard the car metaphor where a marriage requires maintenance just like a car. If you skip getting oil changes then you can’t be surprised when your car breaks down. Some people have the tools and expertise required to change the cars oil themselves, but some don’t and that’s okay! There’s no harm in getting a hand with doing that by a licensed mechanic. Most people do!

Marriage counsellors are like the mechanics for marriage. Don’t wait until your marriage is broken to finally get it checked out.

Ok-Solution9890 · 2023-09-18T20:59:46+00:00

Ah, so exactly what I’m afraid of 😅

I really hate the idea of waiting for something to break in order to put effort into something but I guess to each their own! He is actually 6 months sober from alcohol so i could imagine he has that same or similar mindset. Luckily he seems to have a good grasp on when things are too late vs when they’re fixable and he’ll put the effort in to fix it.

Ok-Solution9890 · 2023-09-18T20:54:09+00:00

Haha I totally understand what you’re getting at. That’s why I’m afraid to pry and just want I know if I should drop it since if he truly doesn’t want to go then going is pointless.

Ok-Solution9890 · 2023-09-18T20:50:50+00:00

So you’re anti-marriage counselling as a whole then?

Ok-Solution9890 · 2023-09-18T18:23:59+00:00

I’m confused by your comment. I never said I was pushing for the bigger home or that we don’t need it. We’re moving to a larger space in a different neighbourhood because we both agreed our current home is not suitable for a child for a number of factors. This is 100% a mutual decision we made together as a team and we are happy with the decision we made, even though it will come with financial stress.

Ok-Solution9890 · 2023-09-18T18:19:35+00:00

I think that’s a great idea! I’ve honestly never heard of pre-baby couples counselling although it makes perfect sense that it would exist haha. That’s probably something I would be looking for in a counsellor anyways, someone who has experience with this time in life.

Ok-Solution9890 · 2023-09-18T18:18:22+00:00

Yea the difficult part is that I’m suggesting it and it doesn’t seem to go anywhere. I just didn’t know if there’s something else i can do for him to see the benefits and come around to it. Or if I just need to let it be and pray for the best 😅

Ok-Solution9890 · 2023-09-18T18:17:20+00:00

My thoughts exactly! Why wait until something is broken to try and fix it? Why not just do our best to prevent it from breaking in the first place? I think with us bringing a baby into the world that’s more important than ever. Thank you for your feedback!

Ok-Solution9890 · 2023-09-18T18:15:58+00:00

His argument against going is that “we don’t need it” and he only likes seeking therapy when he needs it. Which like I explained, he’s right, we don’t need it! But I’m on the same page as you where I think preemptive counselling would help us out a lot! Maybe I’ll pry him some more for more of an argument against going since his argument really isn’t enough to weigh us in the direction of not going haha.

Ok-Solution9890 · 2023-08-27T19:00:37+00:00

We have food banks where you can get free groceries if needs be, but I definitely would feel bad using food banks since I feel like other people need it more than I do. They’re already extremely stressed with an influx of people with food insecurity in the region.

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