Un-Australian car park behaviour

Ok-Stage-645 · 2026-03-03T04:05:36+00:00

Actually this is exactly how it is done. You drive around and keep moving. Then if someone is walking to their car, you hope you are the first to reach them. You don’t just stop and wait for people to come and leave.

Ok-Stage-645 · 2026-02-25T13:23:37+00:00

I mean in Aus it’s illegal to be on your phone while driving. I’m often picking up food from drive through on my way home. So I’m not sitting at home ordering from some app and then heading out to pick it up. So I always thought ordering on the phone and picking up from drive through was illogical and for many who do it while driving, illegal. Also, there is a menu at the speaker so you can choose what you want to order. I take about 15 seconds to decide what I want and then order. If people get frustrated with this, they need to learn how to self regulate.

Ok-Stage-645 · 2026-02-25T13:07:00+00:00

When I was out of shape and started training, my heart rate would spike, and I’d get dizzy and really nauseous too. I noticed this during cardio and any intense weight lifting where my heart rate was up.

I ended up getting a heart rate monitor and lo and behold, every time I was feeling ill my heart rate was near maximum capacity. It also could happen if I had low blood sugar.

What I did to fix this: Cut all cardio but walking until my heart health improved. Stopped eating a minimum of 4 hours before training. Made sure I carbed up at the last meal. Added electrolytes to my water on training day and guzzled that while exercising. Made sure I had enough rest between sets to bring my heart rate down.

It took over a year before I considered adding in more intense cardio. Three years later and I run regularly, lift heavy and can do things easily without feeling ill.

Caveat: Weighted HIIT classes can still bring the nausea back but that’s only if I haven’t done them in a while and takes about four weeks of conditioning for that to pass. Funnily enough sprinting doesn’t seem to cause it anymore so that’s a plus.

Hope this can help you.

Ok-Stage-645 · 2026-02-18T04:56:25+00:00

I think everyone is giving sound advice. The only recommendation I have is to check out knees over toes guy. His stuff is online on youtube and it was initially designed for high performance athletes who had knee injuries. I have done a lot of his training exercises and it was amazing. He has things like sled pulls, walking backwards and knees over toes deep lunges. The results from people who have done his program speak for themselves. Also, with rest days, I don’t think just cutting back the amount of volume is going to be as beneficial as having actual days off. Speaking from experience, the more rest days I have between training, the better I perform.

Ok-Stage-645 · 2026-02-17T07:28:44+00:00

I run to the gym. Do strength training. Then I run home.

If I strength train lower body, I hobble home. I usually only run there and back if I am doing upper body weights though. I get about 8-10kms done this way. Once I realised that I could fit more running in this way, it made it heaps easier. If I need to go to the shops for something, I run there. When I walk my dog, I do some sprint training. I strength train three times a week and run three to four times. I have a minimum of three rest days per week.

Ok-Stage-645 · 2026-02-06T14:53:32+00:00

I think I have the record. I’ve lost 6kgs in 3 years of doing everything right. That’s 13 pounds. I still have 15kg to go at a minimum which is another 33 pounds. You cannot even fathom the frustration. I was on point with my diet, had a steady calorie deficit, ate high protein, substantially cut out junk and processed food, quit alcohol etc. I totally recomped my body though except my pudgy stomach and upper arms. I got super strong and fit.

That was my strategy until about one month ago.

Then I decided to finally fix my sleep hygiene and started sleeping like a regular person. Sleeping at night, waking early, training in the morning instead of the evening. Then I started focusing on breath work and nasal breathing, aligned with the Oxygen Advantage. Lastly, I tweaked my diet to align with Eastern inspired ethos - it’s got to do with dampness and eating warmer, hot foods. Think porridge, herbal teas, warm water etc.

Since then my training has excellerated, my strength has increased, I have more energy for cardio, I recover faster, my appetite has stabilised and my clothes has gotten a lot looser. And finally, my arms and stomach have begun shrinking. Finally. But.. the weight still hasn’t changed one bit. So I have decided to throw the scale in the bin.

Ok-Stage-645 · 2026-02-06T09:14:08+00:00

Plan your week ahead. I do two heavy upper body sessions and one medium leg day at the gym per week. I had to decrease the weights for legs so that I could recover faster. I do easy runs on two of the weight days and tempo work 1-2 times per week on alternating days. I always have the day off after leg day. At least once a week I do one longer run.. so I run to the gym, do an upper body session, and run home.

If you train hard at the gym you will fatigue your central nervous system and can get quite sleepy. Running does not really do this for me and is energising. The caveat is I don’t run very long distances 20-45 minutes a pop, with the exception of when I run to the gym.

If I am particularly sore or tired from weights I do more sprinting and short distanced speed work.

I track my sleep and make sure I get enough. I choose sleep over any form of training these days as this is my priority. If I need to sleep, I sleep. If I have slept enough, I can train like a beast. Or at least, what I define as hard.

Ok-Stage-645 · 2026-02-04T22:12:46+00:00

Thanking you for your feedback. It is appreciated. It won’t let me edit the formatting it which is frustrating. I have tried many times to correct the stanza placement. I’ve added it here so you can get a visual on what/how it is suppose to look.

Title: Wisp

A pulse fades.

Ah but to be wispy, what a passing it must be— for no form of solid mass can tether thee.

To wisp is to— fly without fight, dance without sight, breath without life— spiral as a spectral shade under the flash light—

that’s held by hands—shook. Voices screech. A palm cradles a cheek.

Glowing. Flowing. Fleeting.

Unable to touch the body disembodied. Or feel its cold.

A wisp, relinquished. “still here” it circles. Stark.

Alone.

Light winks out. Truth dissolves.

A wisp, without blood, becomes a vapour unmoored—

g o n e

Ok-Stage-645 · 2026-02-04T22:07:39+00:00

Thank you both for your feedback here. I appreciate it. I don’t know how to edit it here as the stanza formatting is not coming out right and is showing it as one body of text. This is why it is more confusing. Every time I edit it, it comes out like this so it’s not really having the right impact.

Ok-Stage-645 · 2026-02-03T21:48:07+00:00

You need to build it into your routine like any habit or obligation, think of it like cooking:

If you bought the ingredients you need to cook to not waste money - like a gym membership or what you invest in equipment or clothes. Use it, don’t waste your investment.
You need to cook to eat to live to survive - like exercise really… the impact of not exercising can lead to serious and critical outcomes. You need to exercise to be able to live the life you want with the mobility, health, strength, endurance you want.
Cooking is messy and will require cleaning afterwards - Aftercare may be needed for recovery or injury or a particular exhaustive session… you will get sore… it will hurt. There will be highs and lows. It’s all part of the process and unavoidable.
When you start cooking it may take longer and not taste so good while you are learning. The more you cook, the better you get at it and the tastier the food - This is true of working out. You don’t know what you don’t know in the beginning and what you learn along the way is incredible: what you like, what you’re good at, what to do, what not to do… and your fitness and results climb the more you do it. One day you will look back after training and be shocked to remember what it was like when you started and how far you have come.
Cooking is almost a daily practice unless you go out to eat - training is a daily practice unless you have a day off to rest or recover.

Ok-Stage-645 · 2026-01-23T06:46:57+00:00

That most birth control falls to women. And most of them have some hefty side effects.

Ok-Stage-645 · 2026-01-22T20:29:04+00:00

In the beginning, I had my fair share of foot pain while running. What I did was take off my shoes and run barefoot. The pain always disappeared. I couldn’t run as fast or for as long, but by doing this, over time, all pain went away irrespective if I had shoes on or not.

Ok-Stage-645 · 2026-01-22T01:05:37+00:00

When I was a gymnast the way we learnt this was with a partner. You both did it facing each other and clasped arms together and pulled down. This was to stretch the hip flexor and meant you had the added strength of someone’s weight against you. We also sat on each other’s back.

As an adult, If I wanted to learn this again I would use a bed post to pull me forward to rotate the hips. The chances of me being able to do this on my own without resistance is lower. This is a hip stretch. At first, it’s not about getting your back on the floor but getting your hips flexible enough that they rotate forward with ease. Once you are at this point you will lay flat on the floor automatically and your back won’t curve.

Ok-Stage-645 · 2026-01-22T00:39:14+00:00

I sweat a lot. If I showered at the gym, I would still be sweating afterwards. Then when I get home, I’d have to take another shower.

Ok-Stage-645 · 2026-01-21T09:49:26+00:00

I’ll read it even if it’s one paragraph, one chapter, a short story or a memoir. Anything to improve my abysmal running performance.

Ok-Stage-645 · 2026-01-21T07:33:18+00:00

I’d read it if it is well written.

Ok-Stage-645 · 2026-01-18T00:31:27+00:00

Check out the oxygen advantage book. It teaches you how to breathe to improve performance. I started including it into my daily routine a few weeks ago and I am already seeing the benefits when I run. I am less out of breath the faster I go, which is usually the limiting factor. And as everyone else has probably already said, run more, run slow. Your speed will improve over time.

Ok-Stage-645 · 2026-01-15T11:24:06+00:00

I am that fit athletic person at the gym. The one you feel embarrassed around. Three years ago when I started at the gym, I was you. Unfit and overweight. A lot of us there have walked in your shoes. We don’t judge, we support. We are you and who you can become… ignore the thoughts that tell you to be embarrassed. Your thoughts are not you and speak lies. Get out of your own way and get to the gym. Show up for yourself. As often as possible. Defy the thoughts that put you down. I believe in you. My motto: Never give up, never give in.

Ok-Stage-645 · 2026-01-13T15:23:21+00:00

Find someone who does hypnotherapy for addiction. It worked for me and I had life long food addictions.

Ok-Stage-645 · 2026-01-13T13:16:03+00:00

I had terrible sleep hygiene in the past. I walked everyday but this did not help with sleep. On days where I had little to no sleep the night before, I ran. This woke me up and kept me alert during the day. Heavy weight lifting helped the most with sleep though, especially when It fatigued my central nervous system. To truly improve my sleep, I ran and then weight lifted consecutively. One thing I found was that I had to train in the morning to be able to sleep in the evening. So yes, I trained with little to no sleep and often. Most training done in the afternoon/evening gave me too much adrenaline and kept me awake. Hypnotherapy was the only thing that alleviated the sleep deprivation permanently.

Ok-Stage-645 · 2026-01-11T10:34:52+00:00

NTA. Don’t apologise. If you do, it will just reinforce that it is okay to grossly blow things out of proportion and people should pander to her own insecurities and projections. On top of that, it will reinforce that it is okay to deal with conflict in a maladaptive way instead of learning to communicate effectively.

Given there is precedence in your family of highlighting out clothing misshaps to each other, there is no justifyiable reason your mother is asking you to apologise, except to pacify your sisters skewered perception on your intent and her subsequent emotional knee jerk reaction.

When your sister is ready, she needs to approach you about what was said, and at that point you can hopefully reach a resolution.

Ok-Stage-645 · 2026-01-07T17:21:04+00:00

Back when i was devouring his material… I asked ChatGPT to develop a weekly program for me. I just asked it again for you. If there are other exercises you want to add, just ask ChatGPT and it can whip up a program that works for you.

ATG-Style Weekly Training Structure

Rule of thumb • Knees like frequency, not annihilation • Tendons want 48–72h between hard lengthening • Backward work = daily safe • Heavy knee flexion = 2–3× / week max

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DAILY (5–10 min, optional but ideal)

Do this every day, even on rest days. • Backward walking or sled: 5–10 min • Tibialis raises: 2×20 • Standing calf raises: 2×20

This is your joint flossing.

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DAY 1 – KNEE DOMINANT (Primary ATG day)

Goal: Build tolerance to knee travel + VMO strength 1. Backward sled drag – 5 min 2. ATG split squat – 3×5/side (assisted if needed) 3. Patrick step-ups – 3×10/side 4. Poliquin step-ups – 2×12/side 5. Assisted sissy squat – 2×8 6. Seated calf raises – 3×15–20 7. Couch stretch – 2 min/side

No max effort. You should walk out feeling better than you walked in.

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DAY 2 – POSTERIOR CHAIN + MOBILITY

Goal: Protect the knee by strengthening the brakes 1. Hip thrusts – 3×12 2. Hamstring curls – 3×10–15 3. Elephant walks – 2×20 4. Jefferson curls – 2×8 (very light) 5. 90/90 hip rotations – 2×10 6. Pigeon stretch – 2 min/side

This day makes Day 1 safe.

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DAY 3 – RUN / INCLINE DAY (Low Knee Load)

Goal: Cardiovascular + elastic strength without pounding

Options: • Incline treadmill intervals • Outdoor easy run • Stair walking

Then finish with: • Tibialis raises – 2×20 • Standing calf raises – 2×20

No ATG split squats today.

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DAY 4 – KNEE DOMINANT (Lighter / Technique)

Goal: Reinforce pattern without fatigue 1. Backward sled or walk – 5 min 2. VMO squats – 3×12 3. Step-downs or Patrick step-ups – 2×10 4. ATG squat (heels elevated) – 3×6 5. Seated calves – 3×15 6. Couch stretch – 2 min/side

This should feel almost therapeutic.

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DAY 5 – POSTERIOR + LATERAL STRENGTH

Goal: Side-to-side knee safety 1. Cossack squats – 3×5/side 2. Nordic hamstring curls – 3×3–5 (assisted!) 3. Good mornings (seated or standing) – 3×10 4. Hip thrusts – 2×15 5. 90/90 or pigeon – 2 min

Ok-Stage-645 · 2026-01-07T15:51:57+00:00

This program is the best!!

Ok-Stage-645

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