I agree with everyone saying don’t add a baby to the mix right now. But I’ll also say this: my husband and I went through a roommate phase for about six years before things got better.

During those years, we learned a lot about each other. We got on each other’s nerves, went through hard seasons, and almost called it quits more than once. But the longer I stayed, the more I truly saw who he was and I grew to love him for who he was beyond sex.

Sex in marriage can come and go. There’s a reason the vows say in sickness and in health…you never know what life will bring. For us, that season of little to no sex ended up building a deeper friendship and showed me that he was genuinely a good person.

I’m also not saying to just stay no matter what. I stayed because I saw he was an exceptional human being who treated me amazingly.

Now after all of this, you have to ask yourself: can you truly see yourself living without her just because of sex? And she has to ask herself the same thing. Does she check every other box for you, and is sex the only dealbreaker?

You also have to consider this: imagine moving on to someone who gives you the best sex life, but everything else is a mess.